Question about not circumsizing

[marliah]

I would just be honest, I would say mom and dad learned that circ was unnecessary and we are doing better now that we know better and we are sorry we didn't research this better for all of you.

I haven't had this experience with circing, but I did have it with vaccines, I have two autistic because of vaccines children and my other two soon to be three are not vaxxed and will not be. I could have just never said anything but that didn't seem right to do we know better now and we just have to do better with the knowledge we have been given.

[momomom]

Just a tidbit- my 8yo and 2yo are intact and ods never 'played' with his and even now it does not FULLy retract. No problems, issues, infections. He just retracts it as far as it goes and washes with plain water. Ds 2yo 'plays' with his and it retracts almost farther than his bro's. Still no issues or problems, and we only wash with plain water, except if they are super muddy or something then there might be Dr. Bronner's soap in the bath water.

[Riverdavidsmama]

No special cleaning, just wipe off like a finger.

My first DS (5) is circumcised but I learned more about the procedure and didn't circ my second son who just turned 3. They have not noticed a difference, either between themselves or their dad (who is circumcised but it is only a "partial" so he looks different than both). If and when my older son asks, I will explain that it was something people did but that later mommy and daddy decided it should be their choice not ours and decided to let Rainn decide when he is older.

To me, it's silly to think they'll notice - or care that there is a difference. They don't ask why one has brown hair and one blonde, or why one is taller than the other or likes different things. Why would they notice or care that they look different from their dad or brother? I mean, did we ever look at our mom's or sister's vaginas and wish we looked "the same"?

Good for you for NOT circ-ing this babe. Way to go. We do the best with the info we have at the time. I'm only sorry I didn't know better with my oldest.

[ecomother]

My DH had his first son circ'd (my stepson) but none of our boys are circ'd. My boys did notice it when they were ll younger and they saw eachother naked at bath time. My youngest son (3 years old at the time) pointed at his oldest brother's penis and said, "Why is your peepee red like that?" I panicked inside for a minute then said that peepee's can look different and left it at that until I could talk to DH about it later. That evening, DH explained to the boys that he had DS1 circ'd because at the time he thought he was doing the right thing (DH's ex wanted their son circ'd eventhough DH is not circ'd but he went along with her and really did think he was sparing his son future embarassment). He told him it's okay to be circumcized but that it's not necessary and the boys were just like, "Oh, okay" and that was that, it was no big deal to them (whew!)

[BunnyMcFluff]

My 12 year old son has never brought up the difference. My 5 year old asked about a year ago, and I just told him when ODS was a baby, we thought it was something you had to do but by the time he (5yo) was born we knew it wasn't necessary.

Cleaning is simple, as others have said. Just wash the visible parts. Don't retract.

It has been a complete non issue all around.

[JeDeeLenae]

Originally Posted by HeatherDanae Ok...we decided not to circumsize this baby. However my other 2 sons are circumsized. I'm pretty new to all of this..not asking for any debates, just wanted to hear from moms that have not circumsized one of their sons. If you have one child circumsized and one not, how do you explain why they are different? My fear is that this new little babe will feel "different" because his brothers and father do not look like him. And is there a website on explaining how to clean it? Sorry, I am REALLY new to all of this. Thanks!

I just told the other boys that the doctors don't think we should do it anymore, but did when they were babies. They got over it.

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[Charrey]

I don't think being different from his brothers will end up being a big deal. Just explain it in an age appropriate manner. You can explain your choice when he is old enough to understand if he wants to know.

DS is not circumcised and we will not be circ'ing this boy either. DH is and DS has never even noticed. Basically you just leave it alone. Cleaning entails wiping it off as is, never try to pull back the skin and watch his ped to make sure they don't try it either. He will take care of that himself just fine sometime between late toddlerhood and puberty...as you know boys can't keep their hands off it from the moment they realize it's there! At that time you will just teach him to pull back the skin and wipe it off with mild soap in the bath.

[keen1981]

My DS#1 is circumcised and DS#2 is not. They are 5&3. They have just noticed they look different. We tell them all penises are different. Which is true. They comment that daddy and DS #1 look similiar. We agree and say that daddy and DS#2 have the same ears it's only a huge deal if you make it one.