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Old 05-30-2012, 01:34 PM   #21
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I believe in breaks...I just don't get them LOL

I gave up leaving the kids home with DH while I grocery shopped because I'd come home to a soaked bathroom, an open fridge and cereal mashed into the carpet while DH slept on the sofa

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Old 05-30-2012, 01:44 PM   #22
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Nope, my DH gives me about 30-60 minutes of time to myself when he gets home after dinner. I need that time to unwind and get over the feeling of being touched out. Sometimes I do actual chores, but other times I just take some "me" time.
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Old 05-30-2012, 02:00 PM   #23
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I WOH and I still need a break sometimes. Sad, but true. I just need to NOT wipe a butt or a face or cook a meal once in awhile. In fact, last night I parked myself on the couch and let them run around like crazies and refused to do anything for them until I was good and ready. LOL DH eventually took the hint and at least started getting them ready for bed.

DH and I try to get out about once a month. We're taking an over-nighter in a couple of weeks for one last time before becoming outnumbered.
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Old 05-30-2012, 02:01 PM   #24
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Re: Breaks from parenting

I WOH and I still need a break sometimes. Sad, but true. I just need to NOT wipe a butt or a face or cook a meal once in awhile. In fact, last night I parked myself on the couch and let them run around like crazies and refused to do anything for them until I was good and ready. LOL DH eventually took the hint and at least started getting them ready for bed.

DH and I try to get out about once a month. We're taking an over-nighter in a couple of weeks for one last time before becoming outnumbered.
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Old 05-30-2012, 02:02 PM   #25
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Re: Breaks from parenting

Of course it's not bad. It's necessary. You don't automatically stop being a human being with your own needs just because you have children. People need a healthy balance. I think it does a disservice to children to put your needs last. They need to learn that their parents are people too and that the world does not revolve around them. Are all their basic needs met and no one is bleeding? Okay then mommy needs 10 minutes of alone time.

We have gotten to a point where it's like a dirty word to say as a mother that you just need a break and you don't actually enjoy spending every waking moment for YEARS with your children. It's okay for me to want to poop in privacy or have a meal without sharing it. That's not selfish or ungrateful. I still love them, I'm still available, I still enjoy being with them. I just know that nurturing myself even for a few minutes a day makes me a better parent.

My problem is like yours though that we have no family, no friends without kids of their own and no babysitter here. Both of our families are in other states. So it ends up being either I go out with friends and DH is home with them or I'm home with the kids and he goes out. Which is fine but we would really like to go out together sometimes. What I would love more than anything though is for someone to come take my kids somewhere else and leave DH and I in the house alone for 2 days. We would sleep for 12 hours straight. That would be glorious.
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