SAHM....question

[Bellaroo]

I'm neither put-together nor perfect.

But I do have a 'no-sweatpants' rule for myself that I follow religiously and that helps keeps me from being too lazy with dressing/caring for myself. We also go out pretty much every morning so I'm showered and dressed fairly early.

My only tip would be to make showering/dressing a priority every day. It's amazing how beneficial 10 minutes to yourself to shower can be.

[Leah52]

I can't get going in the morning unless I have had a shower and gotten dressed so it's always been a priority with me. Even when I had 3 kids 4 and under I still managed it, most of the time when the youngest was taking his morning nap and I would put the older two in the tub while I showered (in the same tub). I wear comfortable casual clothes but not pjs unless I am pregnant, usually a skirt or jeans with a tshirt. I recently swore off wearing flip flops because not only are they bad for your feet I think they look sloppy and promote sloppy walking. (just IMO) So I wear some other kind of slip on shoe, right now they are black Crocs ballet flats.

[hilaryisinked]

In my workout clothes today. Took a 30 minute stroll with my girls and my DH will appreciate looking at my butt in my stretchy capris when he gets home lol. Yesterday I was in pjs all day and I just felt yuck. I'm definitely going to continue getting fully dressed each morning if not to just make myself feel good.

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[Hungry Caterpillar]

I have found the simple cotton dress love the past few years. When I don't shave I add footless tights.

[babylove921]

I did get out of pjs today. But jason is home, so..lol

[StarryEyedSurprise]

I just make sure I get dressed soon after getting up. And for me "getting dressed" includes making sure my teeth are brushed, putting eye liner on, and fixing my hair (whether it's putting it up in a pony tail or wetting it and putting mousse in it). I suppose that's easy enough for me because I don't sleep in jammies, so at some point I have to put something on. lol

I struggle more with getting the house cleaned up, consistently, then I do with getting dressed. lol

[OneFishTwoFish]

Routine is definitely key! For us, we go to the YMCA from 10:30-12 on most days. After we come home and have lunch, the baby goes down for his nap. That is when I'll pop on a show for ODS and jump in the shower. On the days we don't go to the gym I will shower during the baby's morning nap. If I can't shower until bedtime, I am usually in black capri yoga pants and a tank top or tee.

[jcalumna]

I'm lucky in that DH would prefer a happy family than a trophy wife.

Sometimes I stay in my PJs until my 14 month old is down for a nap or if I have something I need to do outside of the house, I'll place her in the crib after breakfast & get dressed. However, when she was little and nursing every 2-3 hours it was common to stay in PJs all day long.

I mainly focus my attention on my DD until about time for my husband to come home. Then I do what a preview poster mentioned, straighten up the house before he gets home so hopefully it's not a total mess when he gets home.

In the warmer months, I prefer to throw on a causal dress because I find this most comfortable to wear. But it's not uncommon for me to wear capris or jeans & a shirt.

I'm also fortunate that my husband is happy with me the way I am. I can remember being just 5 weeks postpartum & still feeling yucky about my body & my husband came and whispered in my ear how hot he thought I was. Maybe he was hoping to get lucky since we were abstaining during the postpartum period as suggested by the doctor. But I remember that fondly because I've heard a horror story from a RLF who's husband criticized her body soon after having TWINS!!! (What a jerk!)

Also, to the OP, I see you have a newborn who is just 5 weeks old. Congratulations! But mom-to-mom, I have to be honest with you & tell you in my situation with my DD, there was really not much husband/wife time until my daughter was about 9 months old. At 4 months old, my DD was diagnosed with GERD & she began sleeping in our bed so that she & mommy could get some sleep. My DH did not *like* it, but he tolerated it. At 9 months old, we decided it was time to try to put her in the crib in her own room. She cried an hour or so the first couple of nights, but after that adapted well to her crib. Of course, she was still waking in the night to nurse & I would go to her. But once she was in her own room is really when we began to get our "husband/wife" time back because I was no longer going to bed at 7pm with the baby and when hubby & I got into bed together we could talk. Also, even while DD was in our bed, there were times when I needed to lay her down in her crib for a few minutes because DH wanted to have relations. Although, that did decrease once baby came along, we laugh about it now because we still managed to get pregnant again while nursing when DD was only 7 month old & still sleeping in our bed.

DD is 14 months & we still haven't gone out on a "date night" together. We do go out occassionally, but now it's family time - it's the way both DH & I were raised that we do things as a family, so I really don't miss a "date night".

Also, in the past month my DD has started walking, so it has allowed me to do more around the house than just pacify her. I've already told my husband not to expect me to get things done when the new baby arrives. It's hard at first with a newborn because they so need their mommy. I'm a little anxious about how I'm going to handle 2 who are just 16 months apart. I'd like to hear more from the OP and other mamas about how you do this.

Please be patient with yourself, it will get better.

[mamashhon]

I am in noooo way a trophy wife. But things I do to stay sane:

Always get dressed before 9 am. Even if it's just jeans and a tank top. If I stay in comfy clothes I feel really yucky. Idk, I can't explain it.

I usually put a little make up on (I have hereditary dark circles and look like a total zombie without some concealer) before going anywhere, usually in the parking lot of whatever store I'm at

I have short hair, a pixie cut, so I don't really need to do anything to it. I wash, dry and put some hair wax in it, mess it up a little and go. Luckily I've always been kind of a tomboy, DH would be really worried about me if I started being a girly girl.

I don't kill myself doing housework all day either. I mostly play with DSs all day, then we do a joint cleaning effort about an hour before DH gets home so he doesn't come home to a wreck. He would much prefer me entertaining them and doing therapy, HSing, playing than have a spotless house.

[mcpforever]

I don't understand the trophy wife statement.