Grr...slight vent. Please tell me to just be patient with DH's plan.

[Dani_Phen]

I just need to vent. I want another baby. DS turns one tomorrow and I have such bad baby fever with all the memories and such. I'm feeling sentimental. I've had baby fever since DS was like 5 months old though and we've been trying for 7 months with no bfp yet.
I sporadically ovulate. Back in April the Dr told me it'd be best to go on provera to help me concieve or I could just wait and see. We went the "wait and see" route and then I started taking vitex b/c I wanted to go the natural route. Now, after giving it a lot of thought and getting another bfn today, I decided to talk to DH about just going on ahead with provera. I brought it up at dinner tonight after DS was in bed (DH worked late and got home at DS's bedtime). He thought for a second then told me not to. He said it'd be better to wait b/c having another isn't high on the priority list right now. I assumed we both wanted another one pretty bad. I was caught offguard b/c I thought he would give me an ok. I got all flustered and said "whyyyeee?", sounding very much like a child. I didn't realized just how BADLY I've been wanting another one until just then. He looked at me like I was a child. I was embarrassed for reacting that way but I felt crushed and so upset at him. He explained that his boss will be building us a bigger house with more rooms next year sometime and we should just let nature take it's course until then. He said if we still aren't preggo before then, we can start the provera.
We live in company housing and have 2 very small bedrooms, very small bath, very small living room and small kitchen/dining area with a small mudroom on the side. He's right. We have little space...but the baby would sleep in our room anyway for a while. I feel like I'm being a big baby myself b/c I'm so mad at him about it. Are my feelings unreasonable? I seriously don't see the big issue with waiting. They said they *might* build us one next year...with his work place that could mean up to 3 years. We moved in our house and had no water for 3 days, no hot water for a week and no washer and dryer for close to a week, and no propane for the stove for 3 days as well. I'm afraid they will procrastinate like they did with our current house and DH will want to wait even longer...

[rosenfried2]

Originally Posted by Dani_Phen I just need to vent. I want another baby. DS turns one tomorrow and I have such bad baby fever with all the memories and such. I'm feeling sentimental. I've had baby fever since DS was like 5 months old though and we've been trying for 7 months with no bfp yet. I sporadically ovulate. Back in April the Dr told me it'd be best to go on provera to help me concieve or I could just wait and see. We went the "wait and see" route and then I started taking vitex b/c I wanted to go the natural route. Now, after giving it a lot of thought and getting another bfn today, I decided to talk to DH about just going on ahead with provera. I brought it up at dinner tonight after DS was in bed (DH worked late and got home at DS's bedtime). He thought for a second then told me not to. He said it'd be better to wait b/c having another isn't high on the priority list right now. I assumed we both wanted another one pretty bad. I was caught offguard b/c I thought he would give me an ok. I got all flustered and said "whyyyeee?", sounding very much like a child. I didn't realized just how BADLY I've been wanting another one until just then. He looked at me like I was a child. I was embarrassed for reacting that way but I felt crushed and so upset at him. He explained that his boss will be building us a bigger house with more rooms next year sometime and we should just let nature take it's course until then. He said if we still aren't preggo before then, we can start the provera. We live in company housing and have 2 very small bedrooms, very small bath, very small living room and small kitchen/dining area with a small mudroom on the side. He's right. We have little space...but the baby would sleep in our room anyway for a while. I feel like I'm being a big baby myself b/c I'm so mad at him about it. Are my feelings unreasonable? I seriously don't see the big issue with waiting. They said they *might* build us one next year...with his work place that could mean up to 3 years. We moved in our house and had no water for 3 days, no hot water for a week and no washer and dryer for close to a week, and no propane for the stove for 3 days as well. I'm afraid they will procrastinate like they did with our current house and DH will want to wait even longer...

Get some preseed lube... The Fertilitea and keep taking vitex.... It will happen!

[Dani_Phen]

Thanks.

[ElsieCayare]

Small houses stink! We have 900 square feet, on a small farm and a 10 month old. My husband desperately wants another one, and I've kind of been reluctant.

It seems overwhelming for me to have so little space, and three people.

I finally (this month) realized how much better having my DS has made my life, and I can only assume that a new baby would be unbelievably wonderful. It took me a while.

I think the taking of provera would make everything seem much more real to your husband, and maybe he's still nervous about it.

I think you have to be patient, but still make sure you are as healthy as you can be, in case.

Somewhere I read a study that said that couples in which both spouse are positive that they want another child conceive faster than those in which one has any lingering doubts, without any fertility aids. Maybe he just needs more time. I did