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Old 07-21-2012, 11:46 AM   #31
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This is frustrating...
It seems to me that their wedding weekend and "reunion" with their friends is more important than the baptism and it makes me sad.

The day that's better for them, the priest we want isn't available.
The day that DH is off of work, they'd rather not come back up here for the baptism.

Seems all-in-all, it's a no-win


ETA: Neither of them has a part in the wedding.

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Old 07-21-2012, 11:58 AM   #32
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This is frustrating...
It seems to me that their wedding weekend and "reunion" with their friends is more important than the baptism and it makes me sad.

The day that's better for them, the priest we want isn't available.
The day that DH is off of work, they'd rather not come back up here for the baptism.

Seems all-in-all, it's a no-win


ETA: Neither of them has a part in the wedding.
I'm sorry you're frustrated but remember they are coming for the wedding first. I know she suggested to do it that weekend but still the wedding would still be first in her mind, kwim?

I'd do it the day she wants that way everyone can be there. I understand the priest you want won't be there but is that more important than your family? You only have a couple of other options:

1. Pick other godparents, as pp mentioned the catholic church only requires 1 to be of faith.

2. Pick another weekend were they can come out, if they can't come out choose a stand in for the ceremony and they can still be listed as godparents.

3. Do it Labor day weekend and use a stand in.

I hope it works out.
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Old 07-21-2012, 02:47 PM   #33
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Have you asked if they are willing to come out a DIFFERENT weekend so that you can schedule it in a way that is actually convenient for ALL of you?

I wouldn't schedule it at a time that doesn't really work for YOU just because that is the only time they are willing to do it. You will be silently fuming the whole time and it will be a big black mark on the whole experience.

As the PP said, you have a few options including picking other godparents, using a proxy, or just a whole different weekend altogether. Don't just settle for a date/time that doesn't work for you just to fit their schedule and make her happy.

But don't expect her to bend over backwards to accommodate your baptism timing either. The wedding is the reason they are coming out, I wouldn't expect them to compromise that to satisfy you.
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Old 07-21-2012, 08:19 PM   #34
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Sounds like from you're post you piggybacked the baptism off of their travel plans on a wedding they'd already committed to and planned to attend. If that is the case then you play 2nd fiddle IMO, and work around their schedule.
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