Diaper Swappers

dannimom · 07-25-2012, 02:21 PM

My Tree-I agree I'm anticipating a convo that will probably never happen. But as a FTM I wondered.

MommyMeads · 07-25-2012, 02:28 PM

When trying to decide to circ or not when I was pregnant with DS DH brought up the whole he will look different then me thing, so I asked DH "Is your Dad circ or not?" He didn't know. Point is if they ever see Daddy naked they probably won't be old enough to remember what it looked like and if they are old enough to remember then they probably aren't looking at Daddy for very long because they are embarrassed. Honestly our kids have seen me naked more then DH since apparently Mommy is not allowed to do anything alone.

bigmamakelsey · 07-25-2012, 02:28 PM

DS has seen DH's circed penis and has never asked the difference, though he did wonder what all the hair was about

In the event that my boys DO ask, we'll tell them that dad had a cosmetic procedure where his foreskin was removed, but that we know better now and decided to leave theirs alone.

camo_diapers · 07-25-2012, 02:33 PM

My DH was that kid, circed dad but he was left intact. He asked once when he was little, all they said was "you are not circumcised" and left it at that. DH was happy with that answer and didn't ask anymore questions.
DH came from a large family of men, who did things like saunas and hot springs (so he saw everyone naked) and him and his brother are the only intact ones. It never bothered him, he is very happy he is intact.

cacasey1981 · 07-25-2012, 02:43 PM

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Originally Posted by camo_diapers

My DH was that kid, circed dad but he was left intact. He asked once when he was little, all they said was "you are not circumcised" and left it at that. DH was happy with that answer and didn't ask anymore questions.
DH came from a large family of men, who did things like saunas and hot springs (so he saw everyone naked) and him and his brother are the only intact ones. It never bothered him, he is very happy he is intact.

OT - hearing stories like this seriously put me at ease. DS is the only intact boy in the family and I often wonder if he'll be upset or bothered by it. And TBH - my ILs don't even know he is intact - they never changed his diaper (their choice, not mine).

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kaylabelle05 · 07-25-2012, 03:02 PM

DH is circ'ed and DS is not. If this is a boy he will not be circ'ed either. I talked with DH when we got together (DS is not DH's) and told him that he really didn't have a choice if any boy we had would not be circ'ed. And he agreed with me!!!

I was taken aback. DH said as a Corpsman he got to learn about circing in school and decided he wasn't going to allow his son's to go through that. But I also think part of it is he knows deep down that the doc who did his did a CRAPPY job. They cut off WAAAYYYY too much and he does effect him in the bedroom. Though it doesn't hurt me in anyway, it just makes it harder for him to finish.

I have been with DH since DS was 4.5yrs old. DH is the one he taught DS how to pee standing up, how to pee in a urinal, how to act in a bathroom..... And the fact that DS is circ'ed and DH is not has NEVER come up.

dannimom · 07-25-2012, 03:40 PM

kelsey-I bet pubic hair will cause more curiousity than foreskin/lack thereof.

miabean · 07-25-2012, 06:21 PM

Yeah, my kids used to ask where my penis was. lol

dannimom · 07-25-2012, 07:24 PM

mia-I'm an "tivist" too!

qsefthuko · 07-25-2012, 07:29 PM

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Originally Posted by My_Tree_Grows

Also...the anticipation of this conversation is far stronger than the real impact of it on children, IMO. They're just as likely or unlikely to be curious about all the differences between themselves and mom, depending on their temperament and the degree of physical coverage in the home. How many times does everyone's DH remember sitting around comparing penises with their own dads?

That's about how much you need to worry.

My husband hasn't a clue what his fathers penis looks like. The subject never came up. My son has no idea what his father's looks like. My son is intact and my husband is not. At 9 my son is only happy his foreskin is intact he really doesn't care what his fathers looks like.

I don't think it is any different than why daddy has green eyes and son has brown eyes or why daddy doesn't tan and son does.

07-25-2012, 02:21 PM	#11
dannimom Registered Users Join Date: Jun 2012 Location: MA Posts: 84 My Mood:	Re: Cric'd DH and intact DS My Tree-I agree I'm anticipating a convo that will probably never happen. But as a FTM I wondered.

07-25-2012, 02:28 PM	#12
MommyMeads Registered Users Join Date: Sep 2008 Location: Southern MD Posts: 553 Ratings: 31 Feedback: 100% My Mood:	Re: Cric'd DH and intact DS When trying to decide to circ or not when I was pregnant with DS DH brought up the whole he will look different then me thing, so I asked DH "Is your Dad circ or not?" He didn't know. Point is if they ever see Daddy naked they probably won't be old enough to remember what it looked like and if they are old enough to remember then they probably aren't looking at Daddy for very long because they are embarrassed. Honestly our kids have seen me naked more then DH since apparently Mommy is not allowed to do anything alone. __________________ Corissa Wife to Daniel Mommy to H (3/07) M (12/08) and T (12/10) Baby A due 2/13

07-25-2012, 02:28 PM	#13
bigmamakelsey Registered Users Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Montana Posts: 9,526 Ratings: 159 Feedback: 100% My Mood:	Re: Cric'd DH and intact DS DS has seen DH's circed penis and has never asked the difference, though he did wonder what all the hair was about In the event that my boys DO ask, we'll tell them that dad had a cosmetic procedure where his foreskin was removed, but that we know better now and decided to leave theirs alone. __________________ K&K My little firecracker Lennon 10.09, crying before he fully emerged and My little sweetheart Indi 6.12, born smiling

07-25-2012, 02:33 PM	#14
camo_diapers Registered Users Join Date: Mar 2007 Location: Washington Posts: 828 Ratings: 76 Feedback: 100% My Mood:	Re: Cric'd DH and intact DS My DH was that kid, circed dad but he was left intact. He asked once when he was little, all they said was "you are not circumcised" and left it at that. DH was happy with that answer and didn't ask anymore questions. DH came from a large family of men, who did things like saunas and hot springs (so he saw everyone naked) and him and his brother are the only intact ones. It never bothered him, he is very happy he is intact. __________________ ~Crystal~

07-25-2012, 03:02 PM	#16
kaylabelle05 Registered Users Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: Murrieta, CA Posts: 1,839 Ratings: 21 Feedback: 100% My Mood:	Re: Cric'd DH and intact DS DH is circ'ed and DS is not. If this is a boy he will not be circ'ed either. I talked with DH when we got together (DS is not DH's) and told him that he really didn't have a choice if any boy we had would not be circ'ed. And he agreed with me!!! I was taken aback. DH said as a Corpsman he got to learn about circing in school and decided he wasn't going to allow his son's to go through that. But I also think part of it is he knows deep down that the doc who did his did a CRAPPY job. They cut off WAAAYYYY too much and he does effect him in the bedroom. Though it doesn't hurt me in anyway, it just makes it harder for him to finish. I have been with DH since DS was 4.5yrs old. DH is the one he taught DS how to pee standing up, how to pee in a urinal, how to act in a bathroom..... And the fact that DS is circ'ed and DH is not has NEVER come up. __________________ ME: Dagny 33. Married 7/16/04 to: DH: 35. US Navy Corpsman. DS: Quinn 14. Future Mad Scientist DD: Kayla 7. Future Pink Mermaid Ballerina Princess DS2: Colin 1/30/13. Fat chipmunk baby! Feed your children human milk as long as possible, it might save their life. It did my son's.