Ever felt....

[Mama2ManyBoyz]

like a foster child was meant to be yours right from the beginning? Were you right...or wrong?

We've had six kids pass through our doors, never fell hopelessly in love until now and it was almost immediate.

When they are meant to be yours do you just know? Do you get that mother's intuition?

It's pretty easy to fall in love with a baby I think, but was shocked at how we feel about an older child so quickly. Just curious what other's experiences have been when they stayed forever. Guarding our hearts for sure!

[newmommy13]

I had this experience with dfd for sure. I was surprised as she was older than what we wanted but she slid in our family like she had been here forever. I felt so lucky! It was instantlylike she had been here forever. When she left I had a physical ache in my chest that I have never experienced. Its better after about a week but I still get this panicky feeling like I forgot her somewhere. And this is just after a month! She was our first real placement so I cant say if I am just a total softie (a distinct possibility, in which case im screwed in FC) or if I am really in love with her but I haven't stopped thinking about her since she left.

be careful with your heart mama.

[dalynn1997]

My 2 cents, out of my 20 foster kids. 3 have stole my heart from the very beginning. 2 of the 3 shattered it when they left. My "Hope" is the only one still here who I was instantly in love with .... looks like she is here forever ... but if not I will be shattered. What is so funny is that none of the 3 are what we would have cosen or requested on paper .... your heart sometimes has a mind if its own.

With that said, I absolutely adore my adopted son. I tell everyone that his first mission in life was to be a Heart Mender ... God used him to heal my broken heart from all the losses and years of infertility. But it was a process with him ... I fell in love with him over time.

[WynneBabies]

I did with my first placement. I could say it was because it was my first, but it wasn't really. It was all the little things that led to me getting her (and not the baby I "missed" the day before) and signs along the way. We knew the case would go to adoption eventually and it did. We just were not the ones who got to adopt her. The next two I didn't feel it at all. Loved them and would have kept then but definitely didn't have a feeling. My last I fell madly in love with but didn't have the "feeling". I was probably just being realistic about the situation though.