Diaper Swappers

NFPMommy6709 · 07-27-2012, 08:55 AM

Dd is 25mos old. We started potty learning in December when she had just turned 18mos old. She was telling us when she was going and patting her diaper. We did the 3 day potty training and she did great, made a huge leap, but still hasn't completely trained. As long as she isn't distracted or mad, she will tell us. But, she's two, so she is normally distracted playing or mad and throwing a fit about something. Yesterday was the last straw for me. We took her to the park, where she normally does fine as long as I remind her. Well, I didn't remind her. Whe had had fruit. She pooped. The park was crowded. You do the man.

Should we switch to trainers? We put them on her sometimes (I have two), but she seems to treat them like diapers. She does tell us a lot of the time, otherwise I would think she wasn't ready. She holds it if she is mad and goes in time out or in her bed so that we will get up and change her sheets and she doesn't have to go straight o bed. (she takes off her pjs and diaper. I have tried many combinations.)

Advice? I'm running on fumes here.

I know she is young, but she is so close! If we go back to diapers I will have to buy more because we have DS using the majority now.

colin-mylilguy · 07-30-2012, 12:13 PM

I haven't been in this situation, so I can't speak from experience but I did do the 3 day potty-learning with LO at 18 months and he has done great but does still have accidents from time to time. I really just think it is a process and it isn't linear. Growth spurts, new developmental milestones, changes in the "norm" can throw things off for a little while.

I would just say be patient and keep being consistent with what you expect from her. She will notice this (or the inconsistency) and respond accordingly. Keep things fun and light. Don't let her see that she can get a big reaction from you when she has an accident. I think that would just encourage her to do it more.

For example, if she had an accident, I would say "Uh oh... you are wet. That's yucky. Let's go sit on the potty and change your panties so you can be dry again. We like to stay dry. It feels good. Pee-pee goes on the potty. Let Mama know next time you need to pee so you can stay dry, sweetie." I would say this as we walk to the bathroom and clean up, sit her on the potty and if she says she is done, I'd let her up right away and put on dry panties. Then together, we'd clean up whatever mess there was and then she could go play.

I think potty strikes are just their way of figuring out what is expected and making sure that they understand things. I try not to let myself get upset about LO learning these things. Accidents are actually a GREAT learning opportunity! But I totally get the frustration. Oh do I! lol

I wouldn't go back to diapers, though. I'd just be patient and keep going forward with lots of high-fives and hugs for using the potty and patience and consistency when they don't.

This too shall pass.

hibiscus869 · 07-30-2012, 12:48 PM

I think you are at the point where you just have to pull all the loose strings together, tighten things up. She knows what to do, but she's 2 and she doesn't want to take the time to go, very typical.

I would continue with the reminders, and just make it part of the routine. Going outside? Okay put on your shoes, go potty, then we can go. Going to the store? Put on your shoes, go potty, let's go. Time for a nap- go potty, get your books, etc. You know what I mean? It's just part of the routine of the day, no big deal, no power struggle, we just do it. Her needing some reminders is totally normal.

I personally did not have any luck with trainers, my children knew they were not 'real' underwear and refused to wear them. I prefer the commando approach- clothes but no undies- for a day or two (or a however long) until they get back into the swing of not having accidents. I think you can use the underwear as a reward too- keep them dry and you can wear them. If not- commando. Going in your clothes is different than going in underwear and I think they catch on quicker.

I would NOT go back to diapers. I don't think you need to do that and I think it would set her back. You are basically there, you just need to tighten it up. Remind periodically, help her stay on top of it. She can do it.

shortcake2386 · 07-30-2012, 12:52 PM

ds is back in trainers from being in undies for 8+ months. we have a new baby and i dont want to deal with it so he is in undies 50% of the time at home(outside, on wood floors) but wears trainers for nights and when we go out(errands, church, etc) ds is pretty good about not going in the trainers IF they are the ones he picked out(he picked the prints, i made them) the others he doesnt care for and will pee in immediately so we dont use them much:/ i keep 3 potties downstairs where there are wood floors and he doesnt wear shorts on top of his undies. i ask every half hour or so if he needs to go potty and usually he will try. good luck

NFPMommy6709 · 08-11-2012, 07:00 AM

Thank you all for the advice.

I have decided to start doing trainers when we are out just because I can't handle any more of those lovely situations when she doesnt tell us. Lol

At home I will just stick to what we have been doing. She had NO accidents on Thirsday, and 3 yesterday....one involving "muddy" hands while I got DS down for a nap. Yeah...I think I can I think I can...

amdeemer · 09-02-2012, 09:06 PM

You got some good advice! I just wanted to say I agree that making a big deal out of accidents (while hard to contain sometimes!) is definitely not a good idea. Kiddos may see that as a way to get a reaction out of you & then it could happen more often. Whenever my son has an accident, we talk about how yucky it feels & he agrees. He's not fond of the feeling. I did the same thing with my daughter & it worked really well. Good luck!

07-27-2012, 08:55 AM	#1
NFPMommy6709 Registered Users Join Date: Mar 2011 Posts: 424 Ratings: 5 Feedback: 100%	Help :( Dd is 25mos old. We started potty learning in December when she had just turned 18mos old. She was telling us when she was going and patting her diaper. We did the 3 day potty training and she did great, made a huge leap, but still hasn't completely trained. As long as she isn't distracted or mad, she will tell us. But, she's two, so she is normally distracted playing or mad and throwing a fit about something. Yesterday was the last straw for me. We took her to the park, where she normally does fine as long as I remind her. Well, I didn't remind her. Whe had had fruit. She pooped. The park was crowded. You do the man. Should we switch to trainers? We put them on her sometimes (I have two), but she seems to treat them like diapers. She does tell us a lot of the time, otherwise I would think she wasn't ready. She holds it if she is mad and goes in time out or in her bed so that we will get up and change her sheets and she doesn't have to go straight o bed. (she takes off her pjs and diaper. I have tried many combinations.) Advice? I'm running on fumes here. I know she is young, but she is so close! If we go back to diapers I will have to buy more because we have DS using the majority now. __________________ Sarah wife to DH 6/7/09 and Momma to DD 6/19/10 and DS 7/28/2011

07-30-2012, 12:13 PM	#2
colin-mylilguy Registered Users Join Date: May 2011 Posts: 2,471 Ratings: 15 Feedback: 100%	Re: Help :( I haven't been in this situation, so I can't speak from experience but I did do the 3 day potty-learning with LO at 18 months and he has done great but does still have accidents from time to time. I really just think it is a process and it isn't linear. Growth spurts, new developmental milestones, changes in the "norm" can throw things off for a little while. I would just say be patient and keep being consistent with what you expect from her. She will notice this (or the inconsistency) and respond accordingly. Keep things fun and light. Don't let her see that she can get a big reaction from you when she has an accident. I think that would just encourage her to do it more. For example, if she had an accident, I would say "Uh oh... you are wet. That's yucky. Let's go sit on the potty and change your panties so you can be dry again. We like to stay dry. It feels good. Pee-pee goes on the potty. Let Mama know next time you need to pee so you can stay dry, sweetie." I would say this as we walk to the bathroom and clean up, sit her on the potty and if she says she is done, I'd let her up right away and put on dry panties. Then together, we'd clean up whatever mess there was and then she could go play. I think potty strikes are just their way of figuring out what is expected and making sure that they understand things. I try not to let myself get upset about LO learning these things. Accidents are actually a GREAT learning opportunity! But I totally get the frustration. Oh do I! lol I wouldn't go back to diapers, though. I'd just be patient and keep going forward with lots of high-fives and hugs for using the potty and patience and consistency when they don't. This too shall pass. __________________ Wife to my sweetheart and SAHM to my little lovey, Colin (12/10) my little family

07-30-2012, 12:52 PM	#4
shortcake2386 Registered Users Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: Georgia Posts: 24,722 Ratings: 901 Feedback: 100% My Mood:	Re: Help :( ds is back in trainers from being in undies for 8+ months. we have a new baby and i dont want to deal with it so he is in undies 50% of the time at home(outside, on wood floors) but wears trainers for nights and when we go out(errands, church, etc) ds is pretty good about not going in the trainers IF they are the ones he picked out(he picked the prints, i made them) the others he doesnt care for and will pee in immediately so we dont use them much:/ i keep 3 potties downstairs where there are wood floors and he doesnt wear shorts on top of his undies. i ask every half hour or so if he needs to go potty and usually he will try. good luck __________________ JoAnna,wife to my first love Michael and SAHM to Mackenzie Grace(5 years), Makaela Lynn(4years),^^Meaghan Elise^^ born sleeping July 18, 2009. and Malakai Vincent(2 years) and Baby "M" June 24,2012. 6lbs 5 oz Mama Cloth!! OBV tees, pettiskirts, trainers and more MotherGoose Designs

08-11-2012, 07:00 AM	#5
NFPMommy6709 Registered Users Join Date: Mar 2011 Posts: 424 Ratings: 5 Feedback: 100%	Re: Help :( Thank you all for the advice. I have decided to start doing trainers when we are out just because I can't handle any more of those lovely situations when she doesnt tell us. Lol At home I will just stick to what we have been doing. She had NO accidents on Thirsday, and 3 yesterday....one involving "muddy" hands while I got DS down for a nap. Yeah...I think I can I think I can... __________________ Sarah wife to DH 6/7/09 and Momma to DD 6/19/10 and DS 7/28/2011

09-02-2012, 09:06 PM	#6
amdeemer Registered Users Join Date: Aug 2007 Posts: 37 Ratings: 3 Feedback: 100% My Mood:	Re: Help :( You got some good advice! I just wanted to say I agree that making a big deal out of accidents (while hard to contain sometimes!) is definitely not a good idea. Kiddos may see that as a way to get a reaction out of you & then it could happen more often. Whenever my son has an accident, we talk about how yucky it feels & he agrees. He's not fond of the feeling. I did the same thing with my daughter & it worked really well. Good luck!