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Old 08-06-2012, 07:10 PM   #1
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When to tell potential job?

i have an interview wednseday to work at a coffee shop. while i am there should i mention i am almost 14weeks pregnant or just wait it out? does it really matter? if i tell i am afraid that she will not hire me...

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Old 08-06-2012, 07:15 PM   #2
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Re: When to tell potential job?

Don't say a thing. Its none of their business at this point. You owe an explanation to your employer, WHEN it becomes relevant. You owe nothing to an interviewer....after all, they owe nothing to you at this point either.

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Old 08-06-2012, 07:40 PM   #3
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Don't say a thing. Its none of their business at this point. You owe an explanation to your employer, WHEN it becomes relevant. You owe nothing to an interviewer....after all, they owe nothing to you at this point either.
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Old 08-06-2012, 09:52 PM   #4
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I agree! Don't say a blessed word. They also cannot ask you about your family or family plans, FYI.
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Old 08-07-2012, 07:26 AM   #5
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I don't agree. I would tell. I think that a) I wouldn't want to work for someone that had a problem with it because it would be uncomfortable and although they cant fire you, they can make life miserable. I've seen it happen. I worked for a company that got bought by a saudi Arabian prince (no joke) and they systematically rid the company of all woman managers by making their work lives do miserable. And there's no legal recourse when they do that but they all ended up quiting b) I think its better to start out honest. Because honesty is the basis of every healthy relationship.
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Old 08-07-2012, 08:27 AM   #6
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I don't think it's relevant at this point. Places are not allowed to ask you marital status or family planning questions during interviews. It's because even though they may not do it intentionally, it causes discrimination. They have to deal with pregnant people, it's part of their business.
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Old 08-07-2012, 10:53 AM   #7
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It might not be relevant but it's also about what the work environment will be for you. And if it meets your needs at a particular moment. And if they are the sort of people you want to work with/ for. Some companies have more maternity/child friendly policies and that's definately something I'd want to take into consideration if I was job searching while pregnant. That being said, I wouldn't even really worry about it for a coffee shop job just because it's going to be more informal. And likely not have any benefits.
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I would probably tell only because I would feel like at this point it wouldn't be too much longer until you were showing some, and personally I would just rather it be out there in the open.
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I would interview and if I get the position disclose it before signing any sort of employment contract. In that business they have such high turnover rates that it really shouldn't matter either way because you really are replaceable if you don't end up coming back. Express to them that you really want the position and your plans to return if any after a suitable leave.
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I would not say a thing if you want the job. I told my employer I was preggo in 2008 (about 3 mos along) and was terminated due to poor preformance (yah right! I worked my arse off!!!) 2 weeks later. Unfortunately, I told her face to face as a 'courtesy' instead of impersonal email and didn't have any documentation that I told her, she denied knowing I was preggo. So WHEN you DO tell them, CREATE A PAPER TRAIL!!! SEND AN EMAIL AND PRINT THE EMAIL YOU SENT AS WELL AS ANY REPLIES FROM ANYONE AND SAVE THEM IN A SAFE PLACE AT HOME. MAKE SURE YOU STATE YOUR NAME, EMPLOYMENT LOCATION, ETC. IN THE LETTER SO ANYONE CAN BE SURE IT IS YOU AND NOBODY CAN SAY THEY THOUGHT IT WAS SO AND SO... HTH
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