Diaper Swappers

Mama*Kim · 08-06-2012, 05:53 PM

I am not the only one in the house that eats, so I'm not the only one that dirties dishes. I'm not the only one that wears clothing, so I'm not the only one that dirties clothes. I am not the only one that touches stuff throughout the day, so I'm not the only one that leaves things around the house. And I am not the only one that uses the restroom, therefore, I am not the only one dirties them.

So why am I the only one cleaning them?!?!

Ok, rant over.

Typos courtesy of my "smart" phone.

Mama*Kim · 08-06-2012, 05:55 PM

I guess I should give him some credit. He's really not all that bad, but he's taking some vacation time this week and seems to think that means he's on vacation from everything. Uh, when's my time off?

Typos courtesy of my "smart" phone.

pine_apple_goat · 08-06-2012, 06:16 PM

I feel ya mama.

MamaNae · 08-06-2012, 07:03 PM

Oh my gosh, I hear you there!!

Of course I'm sorta mean because when DH has time off I'd like to kick off some of the BIG To Do list items that require both of us (basement, shed, outdoor stuff, gutters, windows, etc) and he doesn't want to do ANYTHING...no indoor chores, no outdoor chores...)

True story, when I had DS2 DH took a week off work...in that time he did laundry TWICE (as in 2 loads) and he did dishes ONCE (and didn't even finish them because by the time I got home from the hospital we were 3 days behind and he never did get caught up)...I had to catch up on all the dishes and laundry and clean 9.5 days pp (DS1 was born late Friday, came home Saturday)

somo_chickenlady · 08-06-2012, 07:58 PM

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Originally Posted by Mama*Kim

I am not the only one in the house that eats, so I'm not the only one that dirties dishes. I'm not the only one that wears clothing, so I'm not the only one that dirties clothes. I am not the only one that touches stuff throughout the day, so I'm not the only one that leaves things around the house. And I am not the only one that uses the restroom, therefore, I am not the only one dirties them.

So why am I the only one cleaning them?!?!

Ok, rant over.

Typos courtesy of my "smart" phone.

I totally understand. My DH is the same way, even though he would claim otherwise. He will ONLY do the dishes if I get fed up being the only one doing them and go on strike so the kitchen is covered in them. The ONLY time he will do them. He NEVER does the laundry, and most of the time won't even fold his own freaking clothes. I'll put them in a basket and remind him day after day that they are there for him to fold, and eventually I just get fed up and fold them myself b/c I need the freaking basket to do more laundry. He never cleans the house. Even when HIS family is coming stay with us, or as of now that we are putting our house up for sale...it is apparently MY job to completely clean the house AND pack everything up. *grumble*

This is one of the only things we ever argue about b/c I get fed up being the only one doing it, as much as he "claims" to help. Okay dude, whatever. He claims that he is too tired during the week b/c he works, but then only ever wants to watch tv and play video games on the weekends. Yeah, he cooks, but I do about half of that also. Sure, I'm a SAHM, but I am not his slave, so this issue really bothers me.

7 for now · 08-06-2012, 08:03 PM

I must be some kind of weirdo because I never ask not expect dh do do laundry or dishes. That said I am anal about my laundry and folding and putting it away, same with the dishes.

That said he is a tremendous help on his own. The man LOVES to cook but makes a horrid mess doing it. I clean as I cook but that does not bother me. He plays with the kids without being asked, bates them when I need him to, changes and sprays diapers and jumps in everywhere by the laundry and dishes.

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Only · 08-06-2012, 08:20 PM

The fact that my husband does the diaper laundry without me having to ask and has "his" wash routine down perfect (he gets mad if I mess with it, haha!) saves him from getting on my nerves when he does things like spilling coke all over my white rugs.

Mama*Kim · 08-06-2012, 08:27 PM

I'm fine with cleaning up after myself and the kids, doing the cooking, and regular housekeeping (vacuuming, etc), but I shouldn't have to clean up after him. He's a grown @$$ man! I shouldn't need to scrape his plate for him, pick up his trash from the counter, find his dirty shirts for him because he forgot to set them aside for washing, etc.

We both work 4 days a week, but he works longer days (his 40 hours to my 25). He accounts for a large portion of the mess in the house, I'd just like for him to share more of the responsibility of cleaning it up on his days off. His excuse is that he's responsible for the yard and cars. Uh mowing once a week and two oil changes every 3 months. Not exactly even!

Typos courtesy of my "smart" phone.

Christib199 · 08-06-2012, 08:30 PM

Ugh, I really can't stand cleaning off the counter. Don't they know how to put stuff away?!

Mama*Kim · 08-06-2012, 08:32 PM

Oh, and this one drives me nuts. I cook dinner and put the kids to bed 5 nights a week (the other 2, I'm at work). Those 5 nights, he's plopped on his butt while I put the kids to bed. He thinks its fair because he showers DS1 and I bathe DS2. DS1 just jumps in the shower with DH and washes himself. Then I get to clean up the dinner dishes. Alone.

Bah! Can you tell he was driving me bonkers today?

Typos courtesy of my "smart" phone.

08-06-2012, 05:53 PM	#1
MamaKim Registered Users Join Date:* Apr 2012 Location: WA Posts: 3,846 Ratings: 6 Feedback: 100% My Mood:	Dear Hubby... I am not the only one in the house that eats, so I'm not the only one that dirties dishes. I'm not the only one that wears clothing, so I'm not the only one that dirties clothes. I am not the only one that touches stuff throughout the day, so I'm not the only one that leaves things around the house. And I am not the only one that uses the restroom, therefore, I am not the only one dirties them. So why am I the only one cleaning them?!?! Ok, rant over. Typos courtesy of my "smart" phone. __________________ Hi! I'm Shannon Wife to J Mama to a couple of crazy boys - L (12/07) and E (2/11)

08-06-2012, 05:55 PM	#2
MamaKim Registered Users Join Date:* Apr 2012 Location: WA Posts: 3,846 Ratings: 6 Feedback: 100% My Mood:	I guess I should give him some credit. He's really not all that bad, but he's taking some vacation time this week and seems to think that means he's on vacation from everything. Uh, when's my time off? Typos courtesy of my "smart" phone. __________________ Hi! I'm Shannon Wife to J Mama to a couple of crazy boys - L (12/07) and E (2/11)

08-06-2012, 06:16 PM	#3
pine_apple_goat Registered Users Join Date: Jun 2011 Location: MI Posts: 3,587 Ratings: 24 Feedback: 100% My Mood:	I feel ya mama. __________________

08-06-2012, 07:03 PM	#4
MamaNae Registered Users Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: Iowa Posts: 6,238 Ratings: 13 Feedback: 100% My Mood:	Re: Dear Hubby... Oh my gosh, I hear you there!! Of course I'm sorta mean because when DH has time off I'd like to kick off some of the BIG To Do list items that require both of us (basement, shed, outdoor stuff, gutters, windows, etc) and he doesn't want to do ANYTHING...no indoor chores, no outdoor chores...) True story, when I had DS2 DH took a week off work...in that time he did laundry TWICE (as in 2 loads) and he did dishes ONCE (and didn't even finish them because by the time I got home from the hospital we were 3 days behind and he never did get caught up)...I had to catch up on all the dishes and laundry and clean 9.5 days pp (DS1 was born late Friday, came home Saturday) __________________ Renae. Helpmeet to my hottie hubby, Josh. Devoted Mama to my Wolf scout-bookworm-sports-a-holic James (7), my Daisy Scout Princess Aldria (5) and my 2 year old Tornado Emmett and Cora Paige coming in May! ISO- Newborn prefolds & covers, summer NB outfits- girl. Last edited by MamaNae; 08-06-2012 at 07:04 PM.

08-06-2012, 08:03 PM	#6
7 for now Registered Users Join Date: May 2010 Location: SE Idaho Posts: 931 Ratings: 1 Feedback: 100%	I must be some kind of weirdo because I never ask not expect dh do do laundry or dishes. That said I am anal about my laundry and folding and putting it away, same with the dishes. That said he is a tremendous help on his own. The man LOVES to cook but makes a horrid mess doing it. I clean as I cook but that does not bother me. He plays with the kids without being asked, bates them when I need him to, changes and sprays diapers and jumps in everywhere by the laundry and dishes. I __________________ Homeschooling, cd'ing, bwearing, bfeeding, delaying/selectively vaxing, non-circing, PT Nurse mama to: 6 beautiful princesses and 3 handsome princes V-19, G-17, E-12, S-10, C-7, J-5, S-2, J 7-23-11, J-30 weeker 11-17-12 Yes, We know what causes it!!