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Old 08-26-2012, 02:18 PM   #11
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Re: No prenatal care

I say, before you even get pregnant, start emailing midwifes and see if you find one that you like, and that both of you vibe on the same page!
I spoke with a few midwives, and I did not vibe with ANY of them! They were nice, but we just didn't have chemistry, if you KWIM?
I stayed at my OB's office, but started seeing a midwife in the office. OMG...I basically got a mommy crush on her! She was so down to earth, actually LISTENED to me during my appts, didn't press ANY testing on me, I just simply LOVE her!
She actually called me the other day to just to check on me. DD is now 6 months, and I've never had my ob's call me that far after birth to say hello!

So, check around. If you don't find one that you like, then look into going UA! I bought my doppler online for dirt cheap and it works/ed awesome! You can pee sticks online, rent a blood pressure machine....just trust your gut!

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Old 08-26-2012, 02:31 PM   #12
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Re: No prenatal care

I didn't see an ob until I was over 20 wks with this last pregnancy and I would have not even gone, but with my kidney disease, my BP gets really high. When I saw a lay midwife for #4, I checked my own urine and so forth. If I could (but shouldn't bc of my disease), I would go unassisted all the way, from prenatal to birth. I am confident in my ability to read my body and the signs of something going awry (which is what led me to go to an OB with my last baby). Check out Laura Shanley's unassisted childbirth stuff. She has an informative forum as well.
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Old 08-26-2012, 03:28 PM   #13
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I had a natural birth planned with minimal prenatal care with my first. It turned out I have potentially fatal pregnancy disease. Had I not demanded tests to be done my daughter may have died. While I believe medical attention is not always necessary, it shouldn't be avoided. Sometimes we need medical attention even if it means not getting the birth or pregnancy we had hoped for.
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Old 08-26-2012, 04:35 PM   #14
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I agree with most of the previous posts. You can find an OB or MW that you fele comfortable and just refuse all the invasive testing. I did do the GD test, but skipped anything else. They've just checked heartbeats, my BP, my iron a few times, and the fetoscope at 20 weeks. With my DD2, I didn't even have my first appt until 26 weeks and was past all the testing phases anyway. I do agree with you OP, that there are way too many false positives and anxiety that come with all the modern testing. I do feel that prenatal care is important, but you have to draw your own lines.
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Old 08-27-2012, 06:30 AM   #15
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Re: No prenatal care

I don't think you're crazy.
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Old 08-27-2012, 08:13 AM   #16
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I don't think you are crazy and I see your reasons for wanting to go that route, however, of something awful happens at birth, after birth to you or the baby, they will involve law enforcement like you could potentially have the baby taken away. I know it sounds crazy since you are trying to make the best informed decisions, and I'm not saying hat should be your only reason for seeking some sort I'd medical prenatal care, but honestly as mothers we can't educate ourselves as much as someone who has been to school. There ARE midwives and some drs who will follow your wishes and do minimal care. I think it is in your and the baby's best interest to at least have SOME care.
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I agree with most of the previous posts. You can find an OB or MW that you fele comfortable and just refuse all the invasive testing. I did do the GD test, but skipped anything else. They've just checked heartbeats, my BP, my iron a few times, and the fetoscope at 20 weeks. With my DD2, I didn't even have my first appt until 26 weeks and was past all the testing phases anyway. I do agree with you OP, that there are way too many false positives and anxiety that come with all the modern testing. I do feel that prenatal care is important, but you have to draw your own lines.
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I was also thinking. I'd want someone I trust to call if something doesn't feel right. I wouldn't want to have to go to the er for lack of movement or something and be taken care of someone who might judge me or treat me badly kwim?
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Old 08-27-2012, 08:28 AM   #19
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Re: No prenatal care

I personally would not be comfortable avoiding ALL prenatal care. I suggest you find a good local midwife, explain that you just want basic care... explain why you want what you want, and just go from there.

I think that might be a good compromise.

And for what it's worth... I can empathize with your reasoning. They told me that DS2 had an elevated risk of having down syndrom, cancelled my US (schedule for the next week) and made me go 2 hours away to a specialist for a level 2 ultrasound. I was a nervous wreck for those two weeks. Then when they DID the ultrasound they said everything LOOKED normal, but they couldn't guarantee it, and suggested and Amnio, which I declined. I told them if he looked normal, then there was no reason to assume the miscarriage risks associated with an Amnio.

So.. I totally GET where you are coming from... but I still PERSONALLY think you should at least allow yourself to receive minimal prenatal care.

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Old 08-27-2012, 10:45 AM   #20
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Re: No prenatal care

I just wanted to add that at 35 years old you really should have some prenatal care. You are at a higher risk of having complications. I am not saying that to be mean either but it is true and despite your organic eating and good health it's still probably not a good idea to go without any prenatal care at all. If you are set on it then please at least educate yourself like some of the UC mamas do.

I think you can have the best of both worlds, you can find a midwife that's pretty hands off. You can even just ask her to show up for the labor and only help if you ask.
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