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Old 08-29-2012, 01:21 PM   #1
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Just sent xh a certified letter

Giving him a list of the money he owes us for our three kids school clothes, activities, dr bills, etc which equaled $2000plus over the last 12 months . We used to have 50/50 custody but he hasnt taken the two older girls in a year and hasn't taken my son in the last three months. Now some of it is the girls havent wanted to go over there since he got remarried anf the step mom took over (the girls are 17 and 16) but xh and step mom decided that my son needed a break from their house because he wasnt "fitting in with their new family'".

I was very very generous with custody and agreeing to no child support because i felt if we each had them 50/50 then why should anyone have to pay? But xh has stopped paying for anything over the last year. Claiming that since they dont stay with him then he shouldn't have to buy them clothes or pay for their sports. Now he and new family are moving and refuse to give the kids the new address. And on the old house the minute step mom moved in she changed the locks and refused to give my kids to a key for (but he boys have keys) and my kids werent allowed in the house alone or without permission. She has made them feel like intruders in their own home. What made my oldest dd decided to stop seeing them all together was step mom told dds aunt and uncle that dd wasnt responsible because she was on birth control and ahe obviously was having sex then. When in fact she went on bc because of 11 day heavy periods with aweful cramps and she told step mom in confidence when dd thought they could get along.

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wow..sounds like you need to go to court.period.Dont be nice and lay down the law mama. hugs to you!
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wow..sounds like you need to go to court.period.Dont be nice and lay down the law mama. hugs to you!
I agree. If he's not taking visitation, he needs to be paying child support!! Good luck!
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COURT now. If he has no visitations than YOU are the full custodial parent and HE needs to pay up.
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Wow... I'm sorry you and your kids have to deal with this . I agree with everyone else, time to take his butt to court and get something concrete in writing. And the new wife sounds just lovely .
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Call your attorney and have him/her draw up new custody papers that match the present visitation situation. Also, have him/her calculate CS. Might have to request W2s from your ex, but let your attorney take care of it.
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Call your attorney and have him/her draw up new custody papers that match the present visitation situation. Also, have him/her calculate CS. Might have to request W2s from your ex, but let your attorney take care of it.
This. Do it now While it's easy to track where they're living.
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Thanks. Right now we just want the amount he owes. If he doesn't pay then we will call a lawyer.
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wow..sounds like you need to go to court.period.Dont be nice and lay down the law mama. hugs to you!
This! I hope he mans up and provides for his kids.
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Until the court order is changed, he is not obligated to pay you anything. And it is unlikely you will collect anything for past child support as it was you and your children's choice to stop visitation. Your ex sucks for not paying. He is still responsible for his children even if they don't visit. The new wife doesn't sound like a very nice lady. I would get to court asap to have the custody arrangement changed and child support ordered. Until then he doesn't legally owe you anything. I would try to get back support but be prepared that you may not. You need to have things done through the court system. Sending a certified letter does not mean he owes you anything. Only the court can change the child support and force him to pay. Good luck!
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