Reply Hey Mom! Learn more about the Gerber Life Insurance Grow-Up Plan!
 
Thread Tools Display Modes
Old 09-03-2012, 05:39 PM   #1
cassie.sattler's Avatar
cassie.sattler
Registered Users
seller
 
Join Date: Apr 2012
Posts: 625
am i a bad parent for letting lo cry when i know hes tired?

my lo is a little over 3 months old. i have noticed he will be tired but it will take two or more hours to get him to finally stop fighting sleep. i use to be able to nurse him to sleep or give him a small bottle with great results because he doesnt like the pacifier. we have tried the swing and walks rocking nursing quiet time etc with poor results and. i use to hate letting lo cry very long but i have noticed that if he is crying because he is tired ill let him cry for 10 or so minutes before nursing him for maybe a minute before he sleeps. is this bad? crying seems to tire him faster.

the second i pick him up he stops crying but he wont ever just fall asleep if we do the listed above. only on a rare occasion will he fall asleep in the swing naturally but i cant rely on it.

dh and i are worried that this long process will interfere with his school and work schedule.

some times i feel really crappy letting him cry

Advertisement

__________________
pround young SAHM to Owen 5-21-12 married to my soul mate bill
CDING
cassie.sattler is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 09-03-2012, 05:52 PM   #2
Done at 3's Avatar
Done at 3
Registered Users
seller
 
Join Date: Jun 2012
Location: NC
Posts: 777
My Mood:
Sounds like he could be overstimulated there are cues, that if you catch them, are a good indicator that they needs sleep. The 1,000 mile stare is one, the very first yawn is another. I would try putting him to sleep sooner and see if that helps.
__________________
Lindsay- wife to my Soldier & SAHM to Gavin 3/06 Liam 5/09 and Collin 8/12
Done at 3 is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 09-03-2012, 05:54 PM   #3
katherineemmons's Avatar
katherineemmons
Registered Users
 
Join Date: Sep 2012
Location: Michigan
Posts: 82
My Mood:
Re: am i a bad parent for letting lo cry when i know hes tired?

If he is overtired he will fight sleep. As soon as my DD gets fussy I put her down for a nap and she goes right to sleep no fussing or crying. She has been on a schedule though and that helps.
katherineemmons is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 09-03-2012, 05:55 PM   #4
cassie.sattler's Avatar
cassie.sattler
Registered Users
seller
 
Join Date: Apr 2012
Posts: 625
Re: am i a bad parent for letting lo cry when i know hes tired?

Quote:
Originally Posted by Done at 3 View Post
Sounds like he could be overstimulated there are cues, that if you catch them, are a good indicator that they needs sleep. The 1,000 mile stare is one, the very first yawn is another. I would try putting him to sleep sooner and see if that helps.
like just setting him down at the first sight? i guess thats why the swing works because if i do see his cue ill set him in there and do other work.
__________________
pround young SAHM to Owen 5-21-12 married to my soul mate bill
CDING
cassie.sattler is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 09-03-2012, 06:16 PM   #5
abunchoflemons
Registered Users
sitesupporter
seller
 
Join Date: Apr 2012
Location: usa
Posts: 14,280
My Mood:
Re: am i a bad parent for letting lo cry when i know hes tired?

No. Try car rides?
abunchoflemons is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 09-03-2012, 06:38 PM   #6
Done at 3's Avatar
Done at 3
Registered Users
seller
 
Join Date: Jun 2012
Location: NC
Posts: 777
My Mood:
Yes, exactly. As soon as you see an indication that your LO is tired put them down to sleep immediately. This is what has worked for me.
__________________
Lindsay- wife to my Soldier & SAHM to Gavin 3/06 Liam 5/09 and Collin 8/12
Done at 3 is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 09-03-2012, 06:44 PM   #7
TaraB's Avatar
TaraB
Registered Users
seller
seller
 
Join Date: Mar 2010
Location: Cincy, Oh
Posts: 1,130
Re: am i a bad parent for letting lo cry when i know hes tired?

I would say he is over tired..Awake periods for this age range are short. the nap might be short too and that is ok. It would not surprise me if he was ready for a nap after being awake an 1 or 2 but 2 at the most. I am not big on crying it out this little. If it is slight fussing for 10 or so not so bad. Full blown crying I would say the sleep window was missed and he needs help
__________________
Tara~Married to my wonderful DH and mama to my DS#1 4 years old and DS#2 2 years old
TaraB is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 09-03-2012, 06:45 PM   #8
remrath's Avatar
remrath
Registered Users
seller
seller
 
Join Date: Jul 2007
Location: Spring Hill, TN
Posts: 3,536
My Mood:
Re: am i a bad parent for letting lo cry when i know hes tired?

honestly my 1st would wail for 45 min if i tried to help her sleep. she'd cry 10 min tops calming from about 2 min if i left her alone. she still rather soothe herself.

use ur gut. im the same sometimes. my head is tired but body not & i have to get body tired.
__________________
Wife to Nick, 10 years now. Mom to Lydia (c/s) 6/6/07, Arwen (HBAC) 6/3/09, Silas (HBAC) 7/2/12 and Archer HBAC 10/15/14. Jesus loving, CDing, BFing, non vaxing , homeschooling SAHM who loves my new community is Spring Hill, TN
remrath is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 09-03-2012, 07:00 PM   #9
Joyful Tie Dyes
Banned for reasons unrelated to transactions
www.joyfultiedyes.com
 
Join Date: Apr 2008
Location: Sunny SC
Posts: 13,547
My Mood:
Re: am i a bad parent for letting lo cry when i know hes tired?

3 months is too young for CIO. You are going to have to pay more attention to figuring out his sleep cues and put him down before he's overtired. DO you swaddle?
Joyful Tie Dyes is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 09-03-2012, 07:45 PM   #10
cassie.sattler's Avatar
cassie.sattler
Registered Users
seller
 
Join Date: Apr 2012
Posts: 625
Re: am i a bad parent for letting lo cry when i know hes tired?

Quote:
Originally Posted by Joyful Tie Dyes View Post
3 months is too young for CIO. You are going to have to pay more attention to figuring out his sleep cues and put him down before he's overtired. DO you swaddle?
i stopped swaddling at about 2 weeks because he gets squirmy and likes his hands free. i have really good luck keeping him close to me though snuggling.
__________________
pround young SAHM to Owen 5-21-12 married to my soul mate bill
CDING
cassie.sattler is offline   Reply With Quote
Reply

Thread Tools
Display Modes

Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off

Forum Jump

Copyright 2005 - 2014 Escalate Media. All Rights Reserved.