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Old 09-03-2012, 08:37 PM   #11
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Re: am i a bad parent for letting lo cry when i know hes tired?

Do what works for you. I do agree with the others that he is probably overtired, but even so, some babies just need a little fussing and/or crying before they nap. My DD would scream if you tried to hold her, nurse her, or do anything at all to her when she was tired. She wanted laid down. Then she would fuss for just a minute and go to sleep without a problem.

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Old 09-03-2012, 08:39 PM   #12
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i stopped swaddling at about 2 weeks because he gets squirmy and likes his hands free. i have really good luck keeping him close to me though snuggling.
That seems early to me...but both of mine were swaddled for much longer. DS was about 5 months and DD was swaddled till 8ish ,maybe even 9, months.

We are not a CIO family. I do understand that some people use this method but I think 3 months is very young. He is still so young and needs comfort.

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Old 09-03-2012, 09:33 PM   #13
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Re: am i a bad parent for letting lo cry when i know hes tired?

I'd be tempted to try a hands free swaddle.
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Old 09-03-2012, 09:34 PM   #14
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Re: am i a bad parent for letting lo cry when i know hes tired?

Even Ferber says no CIO til 6 months.

I wouldn't let a baby that little fuss that much. It seems like forever, but a year from now, you will think "OMG, where did this year go!" and baby will be doing something completely different.
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Old 09-03-2012, 09:41 PM   #15
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Even Ferber says no CIO til 6 months.

I wouldn't let a baby that little fuss that much. It seems like forever, but a year from now, you will think "OMG, where did this year go!" and baby will be doing something completely different.
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Re: am i a bad parent for letting lo cry when i know hes tired?

IDK, I don't think it makes you a bad parent at all, but that would be too young for me to let LO CIO for 10min. Have you tried any of the books/sleep strategies? DD responded very well to Happiest Baby on the Block, & lots of mamas on here recommend The No-Cry Sleep Solution. DD didn't like having her hands swaddled in, but it meant that we actually had to do the super tight/secure swaddle & all the stuff from Happiest Baby. DD was a very attentive baby & would get easily overstimulated, which made it hard to put her to sleep...added to what we now know were some feeding problems , she could be very difficult/frustrating. We did a lot of soothing w/ cuddles and such, but a bouncy seat was our best friend (she never did like the swing), & she needed/had her own sleep space. She slept in the bassinet at our bedside until about 4 mos (when she went to her crib), & we frequently would put her to bed in it about an hour or so before we went to bed...it gave her a break from the TV lights & noise, DP's & my talking, general household noise (you don't realize how noisy doing dishes & so forth is until it wakes the baby :giggle), & such. Oh, and I think that's also around the same age we started using some white noise, which DD still uses at 2.5yrs. Try some different stuff & see what works--Good luck!
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Re: am i a bad parent for letting lo cry when i know hes tired?

I would also say you might be missing sleep queues. Healthy sleep habits, Happy Child is awesome about explaining your baby's tired signs (and there are tons of options if you don't want to CIO). Both of my kids are amazing sleepers and I seriously credit this book.
*Keep in mind if your baby is overtired, they will become overstimulated easily. At that point rocking, snuggling may not help as much. So you want to catch them at the first sign
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I would also say you might be missing sleep queues. Healthy sleep habits, Happy Child is awesome about explaining your baby's tired signs (and there are tons of options if you don't want to CIO). Both of my kids are amazing sleepers and I seriously credit this book.
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Re: am i a bad parent for letting lo cry when i know hes tired?

I say watch a little closer for sleep cues and try the hands free swaddle. Both my boys hated being swaddled with their hands/arms in almost from the beginign. As soon as their arms were free they did much better.
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Re: am i a bad parent for letting lo cry when i know hes tired?

I agree he seems over tired and would try and them and put him to sleep before he gets to the crying point.

That being said, once he is overtired, whatever you can do to get him to sleep is good. So if the choices are letting him cry for 10 minutes, but then he actually sleeps versus trying for 30-40 minutes to get him down for a nap without crying, I wouldn't feel awful about resorting to the crying for 10 minutes or less every so often when you've missed the window.

I wouldn't make a habit of letting him cry himself to sleep at this age though. But some babies just need to decompress a little when they do get to that over stimulated stage.
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