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Old 09-05-2012, 06:56 PM   #11
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What do you think is going to happen that they could handle at nine but not seven or five? I'm honestly curious...

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What do you think is going to happen that they could handle at nine but not seven or five? I'm honestly curious...
I think at 9 they are more likely to listen to directions when away from mom or dad, or other adults for that matter (like where they can and cannot go, what times to check in...esp since most 5 year olds cant tell time, etc...). They are less likely than a 5 year old to chase a ball into the street, etc.

I think 7 is on the more acceptable side of the table, but still too young IMO.
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Old 09-05-2012, 07:29 PM   #13
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I think at 9 they are more likely to listen to directions when away from mom or dad, or other adults for that matter (like where they can and cannot go, what times to check in...esp since most 5 year olds cant tell time, etc...). They are less likely than a 5 year old to chase a ball into the street, etc.

I think 7 is on the more acceptable side of the table, but still too young IMO.
Looks like we're on the same page then! I totally think it depends on the child's maturity level... like I said before, I know some four year olds I would trust completely (only one actually) and others not so much. I think the ability to tell time is a big pre-requisite for wandering off solo (not only the ability to tell time, but not to lose track of time!). I know when I was four, my dad let me walk to school by myself. It was about a half mile through a residential neighborhood in San Francisco. I thought I was the COOLEST and I took the responsibility very seriously... but, that was my personality, very serious and responsible. It would not have been appropriate for him to allow that if I was more impulsive or immature...

But, I digress... I think the issue is not so much what is/is not an age appropriate level of freedom; that will vary from family to family and child to child. The issue at hand is this: how do you know the other parents have not given this some thought and come to a different conclusion than you as to what they feel comfortable with? You assume that they just don't care, but what if they do and have made a conscious decision to allow their kids more freedom? Agree or disagree, that's totally fine. But don't just assume they're irresponsible or bad parents. I still vote that you should get to know them better... they are your neighbors after all. They may surprise you!
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I guess I don't see how it can be considered a sound parenting philosophy if it leads to you knocking on the doors of strangers because you think they might have kids too, looking for your kids on a regular basis.

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My 4 year old certainly would not be outside without a parent or someone I trusted pretty darn well. And I can count those on one hand.
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Looks like we're on the same page then! I totally think it depends on the child's maturity level... like I said before, I know some four year olds I would trust completely (only one actually) and others not so much. I think the ability to tell time is a big pre-requisite for wandering off solo (not only the ability to tell time, but not to lose track of time!). I know when I was four, my dad let me walk to school by myself. It was about a half mile through a residential neighborhood in San Francisco. I thought I was the COOLEST and I took the responsibility very seriously... but, that was my personality, very serious and responsible. It would not have been appropriate for him to allow that if I was more impulsive or immature...

But, I digress... I think the issue is not so much what is/is not an age appropriate level of freedom; that will vary from family to family and child to child. The issue at hand is this: how do you know the other parents have not given this some thought and come to a different conclusion than you as to what they feel comfortable with? You assume that they just don't care, but what if they do and have made a conscious decision to allow their kids more freedom? Agree or disagree, that's totally fine. But don't just assume they're irresponsible or bad parents. I still vote that you should get to know them better... they are your neighbors after all. They may surprise you!
I def dont think they are bad parents, that they dont care, or are necessarily irresponsible. Im sure they all love their children and want them to thrive.

I personally dont understand how they came to the conclusions they did and am not ok with those parenting decisions. And if i dont agreed with their parenting decisions, im not comfortable trusting them to supervise my children. Even if they are wonderful people. Its my opinion...i dont know why they are ok with their 4 year olds out unsupervised? It boggles my mind!
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Oh, and im ot against getting to know them...i know my immediate neighbors who have a 7 year old they let roam fairly well. Kate is allowed in their home, but not just wandering with their daughter.
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My four year old goes outside with my 7 year old without adult supervision. She is not allowed out of the yard by herself though.

My 7 year old is allowed out without my supervision. He usually will play with the neighborhood kids and they bounce from yard to yard. There were times this summer when he was gone for 5+ hours. Did I know EXACTLY where he was? No. Did I know I he was somewhere on my block? Sure. Did I know where or what he ate for lunch? Nope, not until he came home and told me. When I opened the door and called his name, did he answer and come right home? Yes. I think it is healthy for him to go out and explore and be a kid. He stays with his buddies (luckily, most other families in the neighborhood are on the same page as I am and we all watch out for each other's kids). I'd rather him outside riding his bike or playing manhunt than inside- especially on the long summer days.

I remember exploring my neighborhood like that when I was 5 years old. It was so much fun! And it was way before cell phones. My siblings and I all survived.
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My 8yo and almost 5yo are not allowed to play unsupervised in our front yard because of the road but almost always I will go outside w/ them because my 4year old loves to ride his plasma car down the driveway. I see a couple boys around my kids age always playing in the street a few blocks from our house usually in the middle of the street, once I asked about the parents and they said their dad was in the house sleeping and pointed to a house a block away. I see them outside in the residential street almost every week. I do worry about them because they seem oblivious to cars.
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I WISH I could bring myself to not worry so much to let my kids go play in the neighborhood! I did it as young as 4 or 5. It was fun. We were trustable (is that a word?). I guess by today's standards my mom should have had CPS called on her a lot (we were also left home alone at a young age), but thank God that didn't happen!

My kids are so bored with the back yard, I have to force them to go out. Give them a chance to go in the front, and they're all up on it. But, alas, we don't have ANY front windows, so I have to be able to go with them.

We don't know any other kids here (big neighborhood, mix of retirees, all ages of families, and college students). And I'm so worried about strangers.

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