Diaper Swappers

EmilytheStrange · 12-10-2012, 07:02 PM

I had a lot of problems relaxing last time and I really need help, so I hired a doula. Highly recommend.

The books mentioned and Hypnobabies are all good ones as well. You can download 2 free samples of hypnobabies on their website to see if it's something you could get into. That'll save you a little money if it's not your thing.

steph410 · 12-10-2012, 07:19 PM

1. Husband Coached Childbirth (book)

2. Bradley method course (usually 12 weeks)

3. hire a doula

These are things that helped me. I had 2 births with epidurals just like you and then went on to have 2 natural births. You can totally do it, but it is so so helpful to prepare

good luck!

Palooka · 12-10-2012, 07:37 PM

I very strongly recommend taking a long class if you can find one. My hubby and I took a 2 hour once a week class for 9 weeks. I know, I know, we're first time parents. But it really got me feeling comfortable talking about pain and pain management, and it taught us both tons of coping techniques. You could also do a hypno-babies course, then a bradley course, etc., and then you and your SO will probably just start doing whatever comes naturally in the moment.

I know all this stuff is in books, but having a childbirth educator walk us through everything was a great experience. On that note I also really recommend a doula, because she will have tricks up her sleeve that you and your SO might be too tired or stressed to consider in the moment.

trying4more · 12-10-2012, 09:55 PM

THIS
helped me SOOO much relax and trust my body. There is nothing you can really read that will work for sure when the time comes, but if you TRUST yourself and have a good support system, and listen to your body, then you'll be able to manage yourself without loosing total control.
I thought I had lost total control because I wanted the epidural SOOOOO bad but was told I needed a bag full of saline before they could do it, but by the time the saline was actually connected to me, I was pushing. I think that knowing I was gonna get an epidural relaxed me enough to get to the pushing face. That labor was beyond intense!
I loved having my natural births over my epidural births.
I guess I sorta felt like I "did" it instead of it "happening" to me!

Anyways, good luck!

c&w's mama · 12-10-2012, 10:17 PM

I just did a yoga birthing workshop with DH and he was more ready/better informed with a few tricks and techniques.

A yoga ball, chair, shower, and DH = faster, natural delivery of DS.

But if he hadn't come early, I would have had a doula in training

from a local nursing school.
I'd suggest a doula.

MegERjd · 01-20-2013, 02:51 PM

Read about the fear tension pain cycle. And have a coached relaxation exercise on an iPod or something. Those 2 things helped me.

EmilytheStrange · 01-20-2013, 03:44 PM

Is there a place to find coached relaxation

JennTheMomma · 01-20-2013, 04:58 PM

Get a doula.

Read Active Birth. Really great book.

2wonderfulboys · 01-20-2013, 05:20 PM

I don't think I have enough time left to take a class. Also DH has crazy work hours that wouldn't allow it. I have hypnobabies on the way. I plan to get to the library sometime this week to pick up a few books. I am not sure that water birth is an option (I was never offered before/but never asked). I need to start drinking my RLT, and getting prepared. I'm running out of time!!

~Cricket~ · 01-20-2013, 05:54 PM

I have read Ina May's book before birth a few times now. She's a real hippie.

Some of the stuff in there I find a little over the top. BUT, she's really good at identifying the mind-body connection in labour, and how having your head "right" will help your labour go right. Very helpful and encouraging.
Also, look into alternative techniques for coping. Coached relaxation could work well for you, but have some other options available, so if you find you don't like it when you're actually in labour, you've got something else to try. Water is WONDERFUL, IMO, but you can also have heat packs, massage rollers, music, etc. Google should give you lots of options.

And, have your partner remind you that you CAN do it, you were made for this, and it's not going to last forever!
All the best!

12-10-2012, 07:02 PM	#11
EmilytheStrange Registered Users Join Date: Apr 2011 Location: Mountain Home, ID Posts: 6,071 My Mood:	Re: hoping to have a natural birth...what materials should I look into? I had a lot of problems relaxing last time and I really need help, so I hired a doula. Highly recommend. The books mentioned and Hypnobabies are all good ones as well. You can download 2 free samples of hypnobabies on their website to see if it's something you could get into. That'll save you a little money if it's not your thing. __________________ SAHM to Magnolia May (09/10) and Luke Russett (04/13) and wife and best friend to my airman.

12-10-2012, 07:19 PM	#12
steph410 Registered Users Join Date: Mar 2008 Posts: 5,925 Ratings: 293 Feedback: 100% My Mood:	Re: hoping to have a natural birth...what materials should I look into? 1. Husband Coached Childbirth (book) 2. Bradley method course (usually 12 weeks) 3. hire a doula These are things that helped me. I had 2 births with epidurals just like you and then went on to have 2 natural births. You can totally do it, but it is so so helpful to prepare good luck! __________________ Catholic mom to five wonderful little boys- we welcomed our newest baby on 4/6/13 Last edited by steph410; 12-11-2012 at 07:32 AM.

12-10-2012, 07:37 PM	#13
Palooka Registered Users Formerly: jenn.* Join Date: Feb 2012 Location: The big city. Not that one. Posts: 1,755 Ratings: 16 Feedback: 100% My Mood:**	Re: hoping to have a natural birth...what materials should I look into? I very strongly recommend taking a long class if you can find one. My hubby and I took a 2 hour once a week class for 9 weeks. I know, I know, we're first time parents. But it really got me feeling comfortable talking about pain and pain management, and it taught us both tons of coping techniques. You could also do a hypno-babies course, then a bradley course, etc., and then you and your SO will probably just start doing whatever comes naturally in the moment. I know all this stuff is in books, but having a childbirth educator walk us through everything was a great experience. On that note I also really recommend a doula, because she will have tricks up her sleeve that you and your SO might be too tired or stressed to consider in the moment. __________________ Happy atheist in a home full of love: Hubby, baby Seamus, K-9 Tilly and Feline Franklin Last edited by Palooka; 12-10-2012 at 07:38 PM.

12-10-2012, 09:55 PM	#14
trying4more Registered Users Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: North. Bay Area, Cali. Posts: 8,120 Ratings: 89 Feedback: 99% My Mood:	Re: hoping to have a natural birth...what materials should I look into? THIS helped me SOOO much relax and trust my body. There is nothing you can really read that will work for sure when the time comes, but if you TRUST yourself and have a good support system, and listen to your body, then you'll be able to manage yourself without loosing total control. I thought I had lost total control because I wanted the epidural SOOOOO bad but was told I needed a bag full of saline before they could do it, but by the time the saline was actually connected to me, I was pushing. I think that knowing I was gonna get an epidural relaxed me enough to get to the pushing face. That labor was beyond intense! I loved having my natural births over my epidural births. I guess I sorta felt like I "did" it instead of it "happening" to me! Anyways, good luck! __________________ {Ariana~Armando} {M.03} {E.05} {C.09} {S.12} ~

12-10-2012, 10:17 PM	#15
c&w's mama Registered Users Join Date: Sep 2012 Posts: 1,245 Ratings: 49 Feedback: 100%	Re: hoping to have a natural birth...what materials should I look into? I just did a yoga birthing workshop with DH and he was more ready/better informed with a few tricks and techniques. A yoga ball, chair, shower, and DH = faster, natural delivery of DS. But if he hadn't come early, I would have had a doula in training from a local nursing school. I'd suggest a doula. __________________ L... with DD and DS thanks DH will almost always trade for green WH and yarn (esp. undyed mountain meadow)