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Old 05-19-2015, 02:55 PM   #1
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School issue - WWYD?

Background - my son is 4 (he will turn 5 in late july), and goes to a small catholic school, in his class there are children born in 2010 (like him) and children born in 2009. The other child in question here was born in January 2009, so she is nearly 6.5, so she is nearly a year and a half older than my son, and physically much larger

so today at pick up my son comes out of school and is visibly upset, crying, wanting hugs. But he wouldnt tell me what was wrong, just that he was sad, he teacher didnt say anything to me about any incident and nothing was sent home in his communication bag.

I finally got him calmed down at home, and he tells me this other child (referenced above) Sara* was mean to him, he claims he pushed, and hit him and then said she wanted him to die, and then said im going to kill you while pointing her fingers at him like a gun.

He says he told the teacher what sara did/said but he doesnt know what happened to sara after that incident, should i bring this up at school? im surprised his teacher didint say anything since he was clearly and visibly upset - or should i just let it go and assume the teacher dealt with her?

He has mentioned previously that sara "isnt nice" when i asked him why he said she takes toys and doesnt share and sometimes hits. So we had talked about using his words to tell Sara she needs to play nice or he will not play with her anymore

*sara is not the childs real name

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Old 05-19-2015, 02:58 PM   #2
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Re: School issue - WWYD?

This appears to be an ongoing issue that is getting worse with time. I would bring it it up with the teacher.
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I would shoot the teacher an email mentioning what your son told you.

Hopefully she was just busy with pick up and forgot to mention to you what happened (as a teacher I've done that a few times)

How many more days of school left? I'm assuming Sara won't be in his class next year...
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Re: School issue - WWYD?

we have about a month left here, so not terribly long. And no i dont think Sara will be his classmate again next year.

I dont want to over react and i know sometimes children pretend gun play (though that isnt something we allow within our home) but that seemed like a bit much even in play to me. I dont want anything extraordinary done (like moving anyone to another class, which probably isnt possible in a school that size anyway) but if she wasnt aware, i would like her to maybe keep a closer eye on Sara's interactions with my son
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And that's why you need to mention it.

Some times we as teachers don't see everything that happens in the room. Just like as moms we don't know everything that goes on in our house .... unless you are always on top of your kids.
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thanks, i will send her a quick email and let her know
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I would send an email. Even if they aren't in the same class they might need to share space during recess or lunch.
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