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Old 09-19-2012, 01:27 AM   #1
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Old 09-19-2012, 01:47 AM   #2
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I decided a long time ago, That I would only surround myself with people Who helped me be a better person. Of course that is an overall experience. Everybody has rough times and sometimes we need to be supportive of others. But in the end that helps you become a better person also. When you feel the scales have tipped too far, and you are no longer getting what you need out of the relationship... get rid of the dead weight.
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Old 09-19-2012, 01:24 PM   #3
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I wouldn't have been able to be around a woman like that before kids.
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It sounds like the mom has some developmental issues herself. I couldn't have been friends with her to begin with. Maybe the 2 guys can get together once in a while and do an activity such as bowling or something that doesn't include the family.
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Old 09-19-2012, 01:43 PM   #5
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It sounds like the mom has some developmental issues herself. I couldn't have been friends with her to begin with. Maybe the 2 guys can get together once in a while and do an activity such as bowling or something that doesn't include the family.
I agree. If you aren't comfortable with the influence she has on your child, then you shouldn't have to expose your child to it.
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Old 09-19-2012, 08:59 PM   #6
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I wouldn't have been able to be around a woman like that before kids.
LMAO, right?

I have realized that some relationships have a season and that's ok
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Old 09-19-2012, 09:09 PM   #7
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I have distanced myself from one person because her parenting and lifestyle choices were not something I could allow my daughter to see. It was easy to cut her out. She did something unforgivable in my eyes. I don't know how to fix your situation. I would get your husband to bring it up to his friend.
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How does your dh feel? I think its fine to distance yourself, but what about your Dh's relationship w/ his lifelong friend?
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The guys are friends so I would let them get together every now & then, but I would keep myself & DD out of it. The next time they drop in, just say, "sorry, we're having family time right now".

We've had to distance ourselves from someone, a family member. Everytime she was around, visits would end with her getting angry & screaming at family members, not DH or I, but others. DD would go to daycare the next day and be aggressive towards the other kids, which is so not like DD, so we put a stop to being around her. We do see her now & then and she has had some improvement but not enough to really have her in our lives.
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It sounds like the mom has some developmental issues herself. I couldn't have been friends with her to begin with. Maybe the 2 guys can get together once in a while and do an activity such as bowling or something that doesn't include the family.
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