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Old 09-05-2012, 10:46 AM   #1
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Help with preparing to nurse???

We're getting ready for our second baby to be born next month, and I REALLY want to be able to breastfeed! I tried with my first DD, and we only made it about 2 1/2 weeks because it became so difficult and frustrating for us both. I had taken a bf'ing class before she came, and we did go to the lactation specialists 2-3 times, plus they came to my house once. I think our biggest problem was probably her latch because my nipples were just chewed up, like they were literally kind of mangled and so very painful, I cried everytime we tried to nurse. Plus, even though I took the class, I didn't really "get" how important it was to drink LOTS and eat properly, so I don't think that helped my supply, either. Before she came, I kind of had this illusion that it was just a natural and easy process that would just work out on its own, and I didn't realize all that was involved for me to do it correctly and be successful. Anyway, I was wondering if there is anything that I could or should be doing NOW, before LO is born, that will help my body prepare...or, do I really just need to wait until she's born? Any tips or ideas that will help me be successful will so appreciated!!

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Old 09-05-2012, 11:05 AM   #2
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I wish I could tell you that there is a way to prepare your nipples prior to the your baby being born, but there really isn't. When I was pregnant with DS, I asked our LC this and she said there really isn't a way and that the old wife's tales aren't really going to do much besides just tear up your nipples. I had the same experience you had with your first with DS, raw hamburger nipples (what my doc referred to them as). I cried every time he nursed. This lasted about 5 weeks. I think what did it for me was my physician and our pediatrician tried to push formula on us. I knew that no matter how bad the pain was I didn't want to resort to formula. DS was healthy and gaining weight perfectly. So I refused the formula and stuck to it. I called my friends who had BF their babes and went to our local LLLI meetings for support. All the mommas I talked with who had similar experiences like ours (bad latch), told me that it got better. They all said around 6 weeks things got better. We worked on his latch (unlatching him and relatching) and eventually DS figured it out and my nipples got less and less sore. Well DS is 15 1/2 months now and we are still breastfeeding

I think the best way to prepare yourself is mentally. Tell yourself that you are going to breastfeed and formula isn't an option. If you don't make it an option mentally, then you won't do it. It's like saying when you diet "I can't eat that" vs. "I don't eat that". When you don't eat that, you just don't eat it. If you say, "I can't eat that". It's like saying I want to eat it, but I can't. Don't is a lifestyle choice vs. can't is a temptation. I heard this on the radio about people who diet. They are 95% successful when they say "don't" vs. "can't"... any whoo! You can do it momma! Who knows, you and your LO may have a perfect bf'ing relationship from the start. I have some friends who got lucky like this...
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I remember crying tears as DS1 nursed in the very beginning I would say to use Lansinoh (or similar) cream after every nursing whether they are sore or not as a preventative. Let your nipples dry before covering them up. I also found allowing some breast milk to dry on the nipples helped too. I have a set of booby tubes that can be used cold or hot, they or any cold compresses may help bring relief. The heat is good for blocked ducts.

Just know that the discomfort does go away, but it can be pretty painful in the beginning and I wish I was more informed about just how much it could hurt. With my first I was so scared because his weight gain was slow and I allowed him to latch improperly, that added to my discomfort big time. Watch for a good latch and best of luck!
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PS. Tell yourself YOU ARE ABLE! We were made to breastfeed.
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I was "unable" to breastfeed DS1 and DS2 because of their terrible latches... I ended up exclusively pumping for them. When I got pregnant with DS3, the only way I found to prepare myself was to make breastfeeding my ONLY option. I was involved with LLL, and they were an amazing resource for support, education, and help (for both before AND after the birth).

DS3 is now 13 months old, and we're still nursing strong - despite dealing with GERD and a pregnancy .
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I agree one of the best things to do is to prepare yourself mentally. Know that it's going to take some effort for both you and the baby to get the hang of it. Another thing that worked for me is to set small goals. I had heard with my first that things got easier around 6 weeks so I committed myself to nursing at least that long. After that I would commit to another month or so each time I'd reach my goal. Good luck mama!
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One of the best things I did with DS1 was to get the Hypnobabies Breastfeeding Success CD and listen to it over and over. Half the battle was believing that I could successfully nurse DS. Once I got that into my head and really believed, I was able to work through everything else that came or I was already dealing with. Breastfeeding was a struggle until at least 6mo with DS1, but because I believed I could do it, I kept at it. He actively nursed until he was 4yo.
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It sounds like you have a good idea about what was wrong last time, so avoid those issues as much as possible, and this time is bound to be easier! I agree that eating and drinking are so important in the first few weeks of breastfeeding! Don't worry about weight loss or anything like that- enjoy eating and don't count calories; don't even think about it!
Sounds like your first baby didn't have a good latch, as others have said. Be aware that it can be a problem, but it won't necessarily come up this time. Just look out for it and be proactive.
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I was "unable" to breastfeed DS1 and DS2 because of their terrible latches... I ended up exclusively pumping for them. When I got pregnant with DS3, the only way I found to prepare myself was to make breastfeeding my ONLY option. I was involved with LLL, and they were an amazing resource for support, education, and help (for both before AND after the birth).

DS3 is now 13 months old, and we're still nursing strong - despite dealing with GERD and a pregnancy .
LLL is an amazing resource! Get in touch with your local leaders. Most are willing to take calls at all hours. Our local group also has a Facebook page for additional support.
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