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Old 05-03-2013, 10:50 PM   #1
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Is it really much different with 4?

Everyone says once you have 3 you may as well have 4+ has that really been true in others experiences? We are not planning to ttc by the way (just in case someone IRL finds me here) just honestly curious

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Old 05-04-2013, 08:24 AM   #2
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Everyone says once you have 3 you may as well have 4+ has that really been true in others experiences? We are not planning to ttc by the way (just in case someone IRL finds me here) just honestly curious

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My mom has always said that, I am one of 5.

Honestly, I think generally once you have 4+ the age of your oldest is getting older and the physical demands for that child decrease plus their ability to help increases so its not as physically demanding.

I'm currently expecting #4 and not really worried about the transition, dh and I are already outnumbered, the house is already pretty chaotic and loud so I'm not sure one more little person will tip the scales to true insanity .
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4= absolute insanity for me. However in a lot of ways he just fit right in. I think our extremely busy on the go lifestyle is what has made it soooo tough this go round. It is getting better though as he is about to turn 1 next week. I'm finally starting to feel like I can DO this, and my sanity has returned a little bit. Not gonna lie though, this last year has been one of the toughest of my life.
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4= absolute insanity for me. However in a lot of ways he just fit right in. I think our extremely busy on the go lifestyle is what has made it soooo tough this go round. It is getting better though as he is about to turn 1 next week. I'm finally starting to feel like I can DO this, and my sanity has returned a little bit. Not gonna lie though, this last year has been one of the toughest of my life.
That's how I felt with our last baby. Her personality is SOOOOO demanding. And she is busy non stop. It really scares me to think of another at this point. But I'm not ready to close up shop forever either. And as more time goes on the older my first will be and I'd love it if everyone was close and had a relationship and not just the younger ones.

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Re: Is it really much different with 4?

DH and I have 8 wonderful children, and the switch from 2 to 3 is the one I always tell people was the most challenging! For us 4+ was just more fun. I think it must be that we just stopped expecting so much me time eventually, and when we were willing to be more generous and let go of certain expectations, it got much more enjoyable!
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I had number 4 six weeks ago. It been insane. My ogres are 7dd 5ds 2dd and the newbie. My 2 year old just turned 2. I am also homeschooling. It's long hard days. 3 was soooo easy compared to this
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Re: Is it really much different with 4?

I felt like life with 4 calmed down a bit when the fourth turned 8 months old or so. Before then the days were a whirlwind. Sometimes I would cry at night, NOT because the day was bad, but because I just had no idea what had happened that day and I didn't know what hit me! I think that might have been because I had 4 kids, 4 years old and under. I will say it was an easier adjustment to add #4 into the family though. Adding the third was super difficult for me.
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Re: Is it really much different with 4?

It was true for us. #3 is only 13.5 months younger than #2, and #2 is special needs, so that was a huge transition for us. You are outnumbered, don't have enough hands, it was a challenge balancing newborn appointments with specialist appointments...by the time #4 (and #5 rolled around) I was so used to juggling that it didn't matter. I joked with people that had we not been BFing I wouldn't have even noticed another little in the mix.
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