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Old 10-01-2012, 06:30 AM   #41
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Our church had a room off the nursery that had the service piped in so you could watch it. It had super comfy glider chairs and nice soft lighting. I often went there to nurse during the service but stayed the in ther service as well at times. It kinda depended on the age of the baby and how "busy" he or she was, popping off and on to look at people. I didn't use a cover (gasp!) either. Neither I nor my babies ever got used to them so was no point to try it out in public. Just doubled up on shirts and had a burb cloth handy. There is NO WAY I would nurse my baby in a public restroom and I think it's ridiculous to even ask you to do that. You did nothing wrong, mama..be proud of your baby (and your b**bies)!!

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Old 10-01-2012, 08:07 AM   #42
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I nurse in church all the time. And my DS is a LOUD eater. Lol we get laughs all the time but no disrespect. You aren't doing anything wrong, try not to let it stress you out too much!
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Old 10-01-2012, 08:55 AM   #43
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I can't BELIEVE she said you need to go nurse in the bathroom!! I bet nobody else in the room hd a problem with it...I bet it was her. I think you should just tell her that you are going to continue nursing unless the pastor says something. Your baby is priority, regardless of where you are or who sees you. With or without a cover. Hold your ground mama
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I agree with the majority here... there is nothing morally or legally wrong with nourishing your baby in the way He intended in His house. This lady has a very misguided and judgmental viewpoint and it was wrong of her to burden you with it! How old is she and does she have children? Does she have affiliation with the church leadership or pastor? I agree that it doesn't warrant involving the pastor after this one incident, but I think I would have to address it or it would continue to burden my mind and distract me from worship. I would also be concerned that she would say something similar to a less experienced, less confident new mom who would take it to heart and be dissuaded from nursing in church entirely. As I'm not one for confrontation, I think I would write a short and to the point note. I would tell her that her suggestion has resonated with you and you have decided to feed your baby proudly and modestly in the sanctuary as is needed. You can make some simple reference to some bible verses about BFing (I found these http://www.openbible.info/topics/breastfeeding). I would finish the note by saying you don't wish to discuss this topic any further.

PS The Catholic church I attended as a child has a statue of Mary BFing Jesus in the Peace garden
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I agree with the majority here... there is nothing morally or legally wrong with nourishing your baby in the way He intended in His house. This lady has a very misguided and judgmental viewpoint and it was wrong of her to burden you with it! How old is she and does she have children? Does she have affiliation with the church leadership or pastor? I agree that it doesn't warrant involving the pastor after this one incident, but I think I would have to address it or it would continue to burden my mind and distract me from worship. I would also be concerned that she would say something similar to a less experienced, less confident new mom who would take it to heart and be dissuaded from nursing in church entirely. As I'm not one for confrontation, I think I would write a short and to the point note. I would tell her that her suggestion has resonated with you and you have decided to feed your baby proudly and modestly in the sanctuary as is needed. You can make some simple reference to some bible verses about BFing (I found these http://www.openbible.info/topics/breastfeeding). I would finish the note by saying you don't wish to discuss this topic any further.

PS The Catholic church I attended as a child has a statue of Mary BFing Jesus in the Peace garden
I believe she is in her mid fifties. She has one daughter that I THINK is a little younger than me. She is a Sunday School teacher, as is her husband. I'm not sure how long she's been a teacher.. we have been at that church for almost 3 years and they were both teachers when we started going there.

She knows that BFing is best (she's an RN actually), she just said that in the church sanctuary is not the "time or the place." I've decided to ignore her. I'll get an actual cover, or I'll nurse in my ring sling, if she says anything else I'll simply say "Look, I heard your "suggestion," but I am not going to leave service to nurse when I am being appropriately modest. I don't want to discuss it anymore."

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I believe she is in her mid fifties. She has one daughter that I THINK is a little younger than me. She is a Sunday School teacher, as is her husband. I'm not sure how long she's been a teacher.. we have been at that church for almost 3 years and they were both teachers when we started going there.

She knows that BFing is best (she's an RN actually), she just said that in the church sanctuary is not the "time or the place." I've decided to ignore her. I'll get an actual cover, or I'll nurse in my ring sling, if she says anything else I'll simply say "Look, I heard your "suggestion," but I am not going to leave service to nurse when I am being appropriately modest. I don't want to discuss it anymore."

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Sounds like a good solution. There's really probably no point in doing much else. If she continues to make an issue, I'd approach the pastor then, but I don't think I'd worry about it if it's one comment one time, KWIM?
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Sounds like a good solution. There's really probably no point in doing much else. If she continues to make an issue, I'd approach the pastor then, but I don't think I'd worry about it if it's one comment one time, KWIM?
I agree with this. If it's one comment, one time, then handling it the way you said you'll handle it is appropriate. I always jump to "tell the pastor" bc my DH has been involved with ministry our whole marriage and I've had plenty of people try to use their position of leadership to push their personal opinion or agenda in ways that aren't appropriate or fair. :-) I'm probably a little too "tattle-tale" as a first response in my heart. I like your plan to keep covered (as you already were) and politely stand your ground.

((hugs)) and yay for nursing babies. :-) my youngest is 18 mos and already weaned. *sigh* I miss nursing!
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I haven't been on DS since you got your BFP. Congratulations on your little GIRL!
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