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Old 10-06-2012, 02:16 PM   #121
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My insurance is crap and doesn't pay for well child check ups. In fact, they don't pay for jack when we're sick either so I try not to go I the dr unless its really needed. I would never neglect my children but I don't see the point of going to the dr to have them tell me something I already know- they're healthy and growing and developing well.

My kids do have a physician that they see a couple times of year when they're sick. We also see her on a regular basis because her kids are the same age as mine and go to preschool and play sports together. We go in because they're prone to ear infections a couple times of year and they get weighed and listened to and checked over so I've never seen the point of doing well check ups when they go a couple times a year for being sick anyway. Neither have real medical issues or allergies.

I don't get this attitude of needing a paper trail or a rapport in case something happens. What exactly is the meaning of this? In case the kid gets sick and needs to be seen? I get that, so just establish yourself with a PCP. Or are we talking in case you get turned in to DHS for some reason?

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Old 10-06-2012, 07:31 PM   #122
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I don't think anything of them. I don't care.

I skipped well checks for several years between by son being 18 months and 3 1/2. Now my LO is on a pretty regular schedule. I like his ped. a lot though and I hated the one before. My oldest hasn't been since her kindergarten vaccines needed updately (3 years ago) Funny though she WANTS to go. I guess I'll schedule one for her.
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Old 10-06-2012, 08:34 PM   #123
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Would you mind sharing some details? It is totally ok if you don't want to but I am curious what a well-check caught that you had missed.
I will try to make it short... DS seemed to struggle with breathing when he was tiny. We had actually been told by a stand-in rent-a-doc that he had newborn congestion (he was a winter baby) so we just ran a humidifier and hoped it would go away. I wondered if there was more to it, but I just did what they suggested (DD was healthy, no doc visits really, so this was new to me). About 2 weeks later we went in for a regular well check, the pediatrician listened to his chest and said something wasn't right. She sent him to a specialist who did a CT scan and found that DS had a rare aortic abnormality that was basically pinching his airway (and esophagus) shut. He had major heart surgery that week (at 2mos old) to fix it but they told me we were very lucky he hadn't accidently choked/suffocated.

I know this is a pretty unusual circumstance, and I can't say I wouldn't have eventually forced the issue when we didn't see improvement. But literally each time we fed him or put him to bed we unknowingly put him at risk and I am thankful for that well visit for catching it before something very bad happened. I can understand the reasons for not going to well visits, but I am glad to have a pediatrician I can trust enough to keep tabs on my kids.
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Old 10-06-2012, 08:47 PM   #124
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For us, needing a dr the kids know is huge. B is very shy, wouldn't talk, look at or acknowledge her pedi in Ohio. Her new pedi though? She hasnt cried, Dr L has made her laugh and B has talked to her. This is HUGE. I don't want her to be scared or nervous.
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Old 10-06-2012, 08:52 PM   #125
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I don't get this attitude of needing a paper trail or a rapport in case something happens. What exactly is the meaning of this? In case the kid gets sick and needs to be seen? I get that, so just establish yourself with a PCP. Or are we talking in case you get turned in to DHS for some reason?
For some people, it does come down to a paper trail for DHS situations (or within a divorce or something, that turns nasty). Especially for non-vax families that are in a hostile area for non-vax (like say, MS or WV). Even if you homeschool to get around it, you can be turned in. :/ I live in MS right now (moving in TWO WEEKS! HECK YES!) and it really is a reality. That said - I *still* am not doing well visits here for the reasons I stated earlier in the thread.

I am going to try to find a great doc in ND when we get there. We had a great one in FL when my son was a newborn. I will only go to an amazing doctor, not going to put up with one who wants to fight with me.

ETA: But we do have a relationship with an NP here. She is great and sees both of us in one visit. Once, I took DS (the only time he has ever been sick) and she saw me too. Then when I had my gallbladder out and I went to her for the diagnosis/referral, she weighed my DS b/c I brought him with.
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Old 10-07-2012, 04:31 PM   #126
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Don't care. We don't do them. To each their own!
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Old 10-07-2012, 04:39 PM   #127
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None of my business. We do well visits because of needing paperwork for school/ an adoption agengy. As for the rapport well my child's pediatricians office is very large and has over a dozen doctors. We never see the same one two times in a row and there are at least 4 or 5 that we have never seen. I don't ask for a specific doctor when we go. I take whoever can get us in and out fast.
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I think it's entirely a personal and family choice. There is really no reason to take him/her if the child is growing and functioning well and won't be receiving vaccinations.
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Old 10-07-2012, 05:23 PM   #129
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We do modified well baby visits per the instruction of our family doctor....just a few during that first year to monitor baby....then only once per year up to age 5 or so, then just every other year or so after that. We use the doctor for sick visits primarily, which doesn't happen very often as my kids stay well and don't get sick hardly ever. We do not vaccinate and our doctor is very supportive of that. :-)

I don't personally care if someone else goes to the doctor more often or less often- I have my own family to worry about and care for. Don't have time to fuss about someone elses choices.
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Old 10-07-2012, 05:24 PM   #130
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I wouldn't think it makes them a bad parent but I would see it as unwise. I think a once a year check (Or more) can't do much harm but missing something because you didn't go can do significant harm. Its just a cot benefit issue. I have little to lose by going but much to gain.

After reading to page 5 I had two things I would point out. You don't often notice gradual changes because you see your child everyday. Your view of them adjusts incrementally. (This is the same reason a lot of people take pictures of themselves losing weight. It gives a much better idea of what you looked like at the start since you see the change gradually.) A doc might notice something that happened slowly and I missed. I don't pretend to be all knowing even with a person I spend 24/7 with. Heck I found out I have a condition with my own body I never understood. The problems I was having were my "normal" I didn't know anything else so I didn't realize they were symptoms.

I have said this many times since it was passed along to me and I will use it here to. A doctor once told me the chance may be 1 in a million but if you are that one the statistics don't matter. YES most people will never have a problem and the visits might feel like a waste of time but for the 1 who was saved by that apt they will see it all very differently. If 1 child is saved from sickness or death because of 100s or 1,000s of well visits I think I would call that a success if it were my kid who was saved.
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