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Old 10-08-2012, 10:30 AM   #41
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If we were to do things my way there would likely be no Santa in our house. My husband insisted though, and it started the year we bought our daughter a well-made cherry wood play kitchen. He wanted Santa and he suggested the kitchen be from him.

My compromise was that Santa could have a small role to play in the holiday (which is utterly secular for us) but the big presents come from us. In fact last year Santa brought snow goggles for our daughter and a musical plush for our newborn and that was it.

My reasoning: Santa is a fiction, but the presents we purchase are not. Therein lies the need for a bridge of embellishment. I am just not willing to theorize with my kids that Santa brought this big, thoughtful whatever and the stockings are from their parents. We only get a very few things for each, and if we get something grand for them, it's important that they know we understand them and provided them with the wonderful whatever.

This works for my daughter completely. She gets a bit of magic without slipping off completely into an alternate universe where benevolent strangers stalk you and buy expensive presents for you. Believe me, my daughter's imagination is wild and sustains her for hours. Frosty the Snowman is her imaginary friend, which gets tricky for her in the summer.

I am responding to the OP. I don't feel the need to respond to impassioned pleas from Santa's surrogates that we approach it differently than we do.

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Old 10-08-2012, 12:24 PM   #42
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Re: Question for the Non-Santa Crew

We do Santa BUT I can totally "get" the credit thing. Each year when I decide which gifts are going to be from Santa and which ones are going to be from us I feel it. There are always some things that I'm so excited about and I think they are going to love and part of me wants them to know that we got it, we thought of it, because somehow its just one of the many ways of showing them we care about and care for them.

Its not the same kind of "need for credit" that people want when they feel the need to tell someone how much they spent on their gift and have them impressed kind of credit. More of a shared moment kind of credit.
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Old 10-08-2012, 12:43 PM   #43
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Re: Question for the Non-Santa Crew

We do Santa somewhat. We do not do big Santa gifts and honestly I have never thought about where the credit was going for the gifts we get our children. I don't really feel like we lied to our children because we never made a huge deal out of it and we never told them to be good or they wouldn't get Santa gifts. My boys both know Santa is pretend and they still love getting a gift from Santa but they enjoy more seeing their sister getting a Santa gift because she doesn't yet know he is pretend. I think it is a fun part of Christmas. Our main focus on Christmas is the birth of Jesus but we still do a bit of Santa for fun. We grew up getting Santa gifts that were huge and I don't remember feeling like I was lied to when I found out the truth. I also realized at the same time that my parents were the ones who bought all of those gifts.
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Old 10-08-2012, 12:59 PM   #44
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My husband and I don't celebrate Christmas. We celebrate Jesus' birth during the Biblical feast of Tabernacles. Growing up my parents never did Santa because my mother was so upset when she found out he wasn't real and that her parents had lied to her that she didn't want to do that to her kids. I can't really understand outright lying to your child. I don't really judge parents who do Santa and tooth fairy and all that, I understand the magic for kids, but I just don't think I could tell my child things that weren't true. We were always told though that we weren't allowed to say anything to other kids about it and we were pretty good at it. Until a friend of mine kept bugging me about it and bugging me and when I said what I believed she told her mom and her mom yelled at me.
This is off topic, but my husband and I gave up Christmas when we did research and found that Jesus was not the reason for the season and most of the holiday traditions have not so Christian origins. We just didn't feel comfortable doing them anymore. We visit family and stuff, but we don't do anything in our own home.
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Old 10-08-2012, 02:31 PM   #45
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I'm not defensive at all. I'm just showing how most of the reasons people don't incorporate Santa are really a moot point.

I'm not trying to prove anything, just point out a lot of misconceptions that people who don't do Santa have.
One persons reasons for something don't have to fall into line with the way you look at it. Someone's else's reasons aren't valid to you, and for you family. But they are totally valid for those who believe and live according to them
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Old 10-08-2012, 03:03 PM   #46
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Re: Question for the Non-Santa Crew

We don't do Santa, or Christmas for that matter. Not being Christians, we feel that without the biblical meaning for Christmas one is left with just the commercial aspects. Hopefully that makes sense... Dd does receive gifts from extended family (because they insist, we did try to explain that we don't celebrate but it became a HUGE deal), but we try to keep it low key.
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Re: Question for the Non-Santa Crew

In my house growing up, Santa only did small gifts that fit in the stocking: some nuts and fruit, chocolate, candy, a few little toys. That is how we have always done it for our boys, with the addition of a tooth brush and toothpaste . We also celebrate 3 Kings Day the same way except with a shoe. It works really well when pockets are lean. My DH's family doesn't do Santa. When I asked his mom why, she said it was to much hassle to do on top of everything else and they could never afford to do it most years anyways, but they often didn't celebrate Christmas at all, not even a dinner, especially when the kids got older. It just wasn't important when things were busy. My friend doesn't do Santa because she does 3 Kings Day instead, which has more meaning to her family. Most people I know who don't do Santa, say it's because of religious views.
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I'm not defensive at all. I'm just showing how most of the reasons people don't incorporate Santa are really a moot point.
I'm sorry, but the way I choose to parent my children and the reasons behind those choices are not "moot" in any way. They may be silly, inconsequential, or even incorrect to you but they are not "moot" to me, which is all that matters in the context of my own family.
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I'm sorry, but the way I choose to parent my children and the reasons behind those choices are not "moot" in any way. They may be silly, inconsequential, or even incorrect to you but they are not "moot" to me, which is all that matters in the context of my own family.
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