TTC 30+ Oct. 8-Oct. 14

[812ajack]

Originally Posted by TinaDeanette I haven't gotten a singe evap from the tests. I have tested negative and they've stayed that way even wen dried. TA: I'm not trying to call you on it! I'm just wondering if something in some people's urine causes evaps?

Mine didn't do an evap either on the co-op ones. It was just stark white when I was getting my BFNs so maybe that is true that some people have something chemical that gives them evaps more then others

Originally Posted by carriek38 Hmph...line was lighter on my Answer hpt this morning, so presumably this is a chemical. I didn't even bother w/ pics b/c I had to squint so bad IRL. Anyway, I've got my beta tomorrow; if it's negative, they'll tell me to stop the Crinone & I'll get AF w/in a day or two. If by chance it's positive, I'll go in Wednesday or Thursday for another draw. I don't feel any different & I'm bummed, trying to figure out what to do next...One more IUI? Give up after that? Try IVF? I dunno...it's tough to explain. Imagine if you were told you & your DH could DTD 6 times (not do it like bunnies for 6 cycles; you can go for it 6 times) & if you didn't get pg, you could give up or you could spend several thousand dollars on an unpleasant, invasive procedure that has, at best, about a 50% success rate; those are your only options...WWYD?

If I was in your shoes I would prob go another round of IUI, and then I prob would go for the IVF (if financially posssible)- I think from listening to you in your heart you want something that no one could take from you if something did happen (and I hope it never does) but ultimately its up to you. Hopefully your tests start getting daker and your beta gets high as well and you won't have to worry about it

Originally Posted by geetabean I heard that phrase in the documentary The Great Sperm Race. It is exactly what it sounds like and the theory was that men have a much larger "load" when they have gourmet sex. The longer it lasts and the more exciting it is for him, the more sperm gets sent through the tubes and released.....which ups the chances for conceiving. I've been really trying to make things "gourmet" for the increased sperm factor, but also to keep things exciting so that my DH doesn't feel like this baby making mission is work and takes priority over us enjoying the moment. It can be as kinky as you want it to be

I don't know how mine happened this month then cause we barely even DTD never mind any gourmet DTD

Originally Posted by TonyKariTony Well, AF decided to show up a little earlier.... CD1 for me...

Sorry mama Hopefully next month will be it for you.

Originally Posted by newmommy13 Hahaha! That reminds me of that friends episode. "so you have hot girls on one hand and your favorite ice cream in the other. What do you do?" And I think joey says "put your hands together!" Lol!

I remember that episode. Too funny

Update- they confirmed my PG through a pee test at the MD but can't do the ultrasound for like 3 weeks so since I don't know my EDD (cause it could be 5-26-13 if by last cycle start date or a lot later if they go by measuring which they always do) so I guess you can put me to graduates Deanna and I'll just update my EDD when I get the ultrasound

[TinaDeanette]

Originally Posted by 812ajack Update- they confirmed my PG through a pee test at the MD but can't do the ultrasound for like 3 weeks so since I don't know my EDD (cause it could be 5-26-13 if by last cycle start date or a lot later if they go by measuring which they always do) so I guess you can put me to graduates Deanna and I'll just update my EDD when I get the ultrasound

You are so preggo!

[Mamatoabunch]

Well af showed this morning. I am never buying FRED again. They used to be my go to, but no more. I was fooled, well kind of. Anyway, I had a big, fat cry after Mass today. Nothing seems to be going right.

[geetabean]

Originally Posted by Mamatoabunch Well af showed this morning. I am never buying FRED again. They used to be my go to, but no more. I was fooled, well kind of. Anyway, I had a big, fat cry after Mass today. Nothing seems to be going right.

I'm so sorry, mama! I know how hard it is to want something so bad and have to wait for it! I know it's easy to say, and hard to understand, but God does have a plan and things will happen when they are supposed to. Maybe the exact baby that you are supposed to have won't be ready for you for a couple more months. The wait is hard, but it is worth it!

[geetabean]

Originally Posted by TonyKariTony Well, AF decided to show up a little earlier.... CD1 for me...

What a bummer!

[geetabean]

Originally Posted by newmommy13 Hahaha! That reminds me of that friends episode. "so you have hot girls on one hand and your favorite ice cream in the other. What do you do?" And I think joey says "put your hands together!" Lol!

I haven't seen that episode, but I can totally picture Joey saying that!

[geetabean]

Originally Posted by 812ajack I don't know how mine happened this month then cause we barely even DTD never mind any gourmet DTD

I can not confirm whether it works or not, but I thought I'd give it a try.

[carriek38]

Thanks for the well wishes, ladies; I appreciate it.

Originally Posted by tedcgh Hugs Carrie. Magbe just a bad test? Hopefully the beta will be good news. Truthfully I would be depressed and angry. I don't like people telling me what to do and I would know we wouldn't be successful in that time either. Now if IVF was the only option I would spend my thousands on adoption. We have thought about adopting during our whole relationship and truthfully we were going to adopt this time instead of TTC. Then I got baby fever and I just didn't want to try private infant adoption at this time. It will still be an option though if we stop TTC.

We're still foster/adopt certified...we've discussed it a number of times. We pursued it b/c we were primarily interested in foster care, not necessarily adoption, but we wanted the option to adopt if a child in our care were a good fit in our home & was freed. Adoption for us could be a very expensive endeavor w/ a very long wait. Adopting (purposely) out of FC is not really something I'm interested in. The county we're certified in truly doesn't place infants, but for maybe 1 or 2 per year, & that's for FC, not directly adoption. The county where we live is where we started our foster/adopt certification; we chose not to complete b/c of some practices that were pretty biased against any non-white, non-straight or otherwise non-majority households. We haven't seriously pursued private adoption b/c it can be so difficult & expensive for S-S couples...and b/c we'd like to have that baby before we're both 50

Originally Posted by newmommy13 Ugh carrie! Im so angry for you! I dont know what i would do in that situation, if we were you and freya. Those odds are crushing, but ive heard adoption advocates say there is 100% success rate in adoption. And while i suppose that is true if you wait long enough and throw enough money at it i know for a lot of women its just not the same. Or i should say, a decision of adoption vs fertility treatments comes with some grieving period. Even then most hetero couples can still ntnp and hope for a miracle pregnancy. For you guys...that would REALLY be a miracle. And i dont know if this is true for you, but it might be nice to have bio babies that are half sibs to hold on to that sense of normalcy. Or that might not even be a consideration which is cool too. If you did ivf do you have a vial of Es donor sperm left or could you not use that?

One of the ladies I work with did Clomid for a while before she adopted her daughter in the early '80s. I think it was about 3yrs later that she ended up pg w/ her 2nd daughter.

I actually have 2 vials of low-count sperm from Ellie's donor; they are useable for either IUI or IVF. It would be nice for them to be half-sibs, but the longer we go on, the less imperative it is, KWIM? I mean, this IUI was not the same donor. I had bought 2 vials from another cryobank when Ellie's donor was no longer available; I used it for the 1st IUI & this one.

Originally Posted by 812ajack If I was in your shoes I would prob go another round of IUI, and then I prob would go for the IVF (if financially posssible)- I think from listening to you in your heart you want something that no one could take from you if something did happen (and I hope it never does) but ultimately its up to you. Hopefully your tests start getting daker and your beta gets high as well and you won't have to worry about it

Yes and no, I guess. I don't want it to be "mine" in a creepy "It's all mine, my preshhhhhuuuussss!" kind of way, but more in the way that (b/c of my own family baggage) I'm pretty sensitive to power imbalances & I have less power in my family--I have fewer financial resources & I have no bio connection to Ellie, so while I have some legal protections in NY, I still have less power in terms of parental rights...Ellie wants a sib (a sister, really ) & this would help balance things a bit.

IDK, I've got the go-ahead from DP to talk to them tomorrow about IVF & at least exploring the financials on it. It really might be do-able if DP's insurance continues to cover meds & monitoring & we just have to cover the IVF itself. DP has PCOS, so getting pg is no small thing for her, either, & I believe she'd like to have another. I feel like crap on the meds, but I produce lots of good-looking follicles w/ not a ton of meds, given enough time. Hopefully, I would produce enough & the ICSI would go well enough to do a fresh cycle & freeze. That might give DP the option of doing an FET at some point, which I think she'd be interested in.

Originally Posted by Mamatoabunch Well af showed this morning. I am never buying FRED again. They used to be my go to, but no more. I was fooled, well kind of. Anyway, I had a big, fat cry after Mass today. Nothing seems to be going right.

I'm with you. I think my "big fat cry" will come later this week & will require a call-in to work, lots of knitting, maybe a nap, & probably some wine.

[812ajack]

Originally Posted by Mamatoabunch Well af showed this morning. I am never buying FRED again. They used to be my go to, but no more. I was fooled, well kind of. Anyway, I had a big, fat cry after Mass today. Nothing seems to be going right.

Sorry mama, there have been some wicked evaps the last couple months

[812ajack]

Carrie-That was funny Yea I know you don't mean it in a creepy way and I understand your little girl wanting a sibling as well. I'm sure you'll make the right decision for you and your DP sounds like she's going to support you either way you chose to go which is always a helpful attitude to have during these stessful processes