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Old 10-18-2012, 12:09 PM   #61
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Hi all, I haven't been on in a while.

Heather congrats on the new baby!!!

I feel like I have missed so much. Sounds like most of us are trying to take advantage of good weather. Dh took the day off yesterday and we went to the pumpkin patch with the boys. It is still warm but not so overbearingly hot. This week has been a little iffy for us. It seems like we have slept in late almost every day and the boys have been whiny, slow moving and cranky. Kearnan has either refused to do his work or had meltdowns over things frequently. Usually he is my compliant child. He can be slow but he isn't usually cranky. He is barely getting through 2 subjects. The research paper he was supposed to write is still not done and he had a huge tantrum about it the other day. Tharen has been back and forth about his work. Today he had a tantrum about having to write. He is going to be behind on writing as well. I am very torn still on what to do with him whether to put pressure on or back off and just let it go. It seems like the longer I let things go the more he backslides and I am not happy with that. I'm not seeing any progress in any areas with him this year. We've been a bit stressed out at TKD as well which isn't helping. There is a lot going on at the studio and between dh and our master. It has put everyone on edge. It doesn't help that the boys aren't really that into TKD to start with. Tharen doesn't like it at all and Kearnan wishes we did less of it (he needs it for therapy but gets worn out easily). Tharen is upset because his derby team is going to nationals and he can't go (he skates with the only MRDA team in TX and the game is in St Louis, we just can't make it). We were hoping to see them tonight so he could wish them luck but they cancelled their practice. I don't know yet whether he has practice or not. He won't see them again for at least a week and he is rather attached to several of the guys.

For the next two weeks we are supposed to take it easy and do Halloween activities. We will do a mummers parade, collect fall leaves, make "sugar skulls" (we make them out of clay, Kearnan can't have dye so the actual sugar ones are less fun for him) and then do lots of coloring sheets and word searches and such. The week of Halloween we cook and clean a good deal plus Halloween movies and TOTing. I think it will be good for the boys to have a break. I certainly need one.

Lyn, I have an obstinate child, actually I sort of have two right now I guess but one of them only gets stubborn when he is feeling overwhelmed so he is usually pretty easy to work around. Tharen is almost 7 and Mood Disorder NOS (bipolar of childhood) and ADHD. This year he just suddenly decided that he isn't going to do anything for school. He was a fully year ahead of his peers prior to making this decision and while he had always been a bit difficult to work with (impulsive, argumentative, and hard to get to sit still) I'd managed to work around it using mostly computer based curriculum because he found the games interesting and it is hard to argue with a computer. This year he would just say he wasn't going to do it and he really wouldn't. There are a few things you just can't make a child do, eat, use the toilet and learn probably top that list. He has issues with all of those it seems. So I've been revamping my "curriculum" to work with him. Right now it looks nothing like what I would have thought of as school. I'm still not sure if I'm happy with it and like you can see in my post I'm not sure how much he is learning but we haven't been at it that long and I hope to find ways to add in other subjects or to get him to come round to working on things that he needs to work on. Most of our math is work with manipulatives like unifix cubes, bug counters, tangrams, ect. I count time with me reading to him as school time (I'm finally going to get all of those children's classics read anyway) and he even spends time training one of our dogs. Spelling and grammar/writing are my big concerns right now but we will get there I hope.

ETA: I think lifeskills is great. I wish both of my boys had more. I get them doing chores but they need more useable life skills. They both want to learn to crochet but I want them to do things other than handcrafts. The other day dh had them hauling bricks for him. In a few weeks I'm headed to "the farm" to do some tractor repair and I think I may ask about taking the boys with me. Never to young to learn to work on tractors and they could play with the cows and horses. They need exposure to nature anyway.

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Old 10-18-2012, 12:51 PM   #62
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I didn't realize this thread was here. Now I'm here and I've had all sorts of things to say in response to posts I read, but don't have the time or patience at the moment to try and cover them all. So, instead, I'll do a short intro on us, and then be back later.

We have 3 kids, all doing school. They are 7th grade, 4th grade, and kindergarten (I guess). We've only ever homeschooled. At first, I wasn't sure we'd stick with it, as it was DH who was so adamant we do it, but it didn't take long for me to realize it's really the best for our family.

Now, as far as what we're doing on the schooling front -- we're getting started. We have been out of the state since the beginning of August (ODD was actually gone for July as well), so this is our first week. It's a little early to tell how things are going to go. We've changed a couple things around and are now trying to get back in the routine of doing school and figuring out the new stuff at the same time. I've also been doing applesauce this week (34 quarts or so, and a small batch of apple butter) and a bunch of other random things that have piled up with us having been gone.
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Old 10-18-2012, 12:53 PM   #63
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We did a short lesson as far as MFW today. They didn't have a ton in the lesson books, plus it is DH's day off. Now we'll spend most of the day hauling and stacking wood, and we may go see my squishy new nephew later if they don't have plans. I'm sure some of that can be counted as HSing...right? I mean, that's lifeskills....right? Hahaha...Lifeskills is my big-broad-wonderful catergory of "anything that doesn't have a real place." Sewing, cooking, cleaning, stacking wood, changing a tire....everyone needs lifeskills.

ETA: I was just sitting here thinking that this post probably doesn't come across that well to those who don't know me and think that maybe lifeskills is all we do or that it's the big bulk of of hours. It's not. We do plenty of regular stuff. But I do count LS sometimes when we need to round out our hours.
I actually wish that B&M schools would focus more on lifeskills. Many parents today either do not have the skills themselves or can/will not take the time to teach kids basic skills. Kids may be able to work a calculus problem (and many can't do that) but not balance a checkbook, change a tire or run a load of laundry.
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We've only ever homeschooled. At first, I wasn't sure we'd stick with it, as it was DH who was so adamant we do it, but it didn't take long for me to realize it's really the best for our family.
This is us exactly! It was DH who was the one to insist on homeschooling. I was actually against it. I agreed...we only had one child...how HARD could it be? Well now we have five....we take things one day at a time now.


And life skills, so very important. Jen...you have made me look at things a little differently. Those days where formal lessons just don't happen...when laundry needs doing or the bathroom could use a scrubbing...."here boys, this is how you do it." school = check
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School went well today, and DS is currently following the instructions for his lego set to build it on his own. This is the first time he has tried to do it all by himself, he usually wants/needs help to do it.
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Old 10-18-2012, 08:29 PM   #66
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Thanks ladies, you made me feel better about my big-broad-wonderful catergory of lifeskills. DH insists that's the most important subject, but he also includes basic reading and basic math in that catergory. I do think that is a HUGE area where PS fails, as well as a lot of parents these days who don't have the skills themselves or don't think to pass them on. I think that's one of the areas where my un-schooling tendancies tend to flair up. Life is learning. This stuff is important. I don't have super huge dreams for my kids. I don't care if they go to college, I don't care if they have millions of dollars or a high tech fancy career. I want them to be responsible citizens. I want them to have the skills that they need to survive no matter what the economy. I want them to be happy doing what they choose to do, to know their place in a family structure and be able to function well inside that realm, and I want them to follow Christ. Those are the things that *really* matter to me. I do think that schooling is important, and that you will need a lot of those tools to get there, but it's not the end-all be-all that society seems to think it is IMO.
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Old 10-18-2012, 09:04 PM   #67
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Thanks ladies, you made me feel better about my big-broad-wonderful catergory of lifeskills. DH insists that's the most important subject, but he also includes basic reading and basic math in that catergory. I do think that is a HUGE area where PS fails, as well as a lot of parents these days who don't have the skills themselves or don't think to pass them on. I think that's one of the areas where my un-schooling tendancies tend to flair up. Life is learning. This stuff is important. I don't have super huge dreams for my kids. I don't care if they go to college, I don't care if they have millions of dollars or a high tech fancy career. I want them to be responsible citizens. I want them to have the skills that they need to survive no matter what the economy. I want them to be happy doing what they choose to do, to know their place in a family structure and be able to function well inside that realm, and I want them to follow Christ. Those are the things that *really* matter to me. I do think that schooling is important, and that you will need a lot of those tools to get there, but it's not the end-all be-all that society seems to think it is IMO.

I agree. Public schools, however, are humanistic, and tend toward socialism, which doesn't really fit with God's view of things. And I am certainly not meaning to shed a bad light on amyone who believes in those things, so if you are a mama who believes in both of those, please don't be offended.

I love, though, that my children know how to gather eggs, pick vegetables, can make some basic food items (well, the 5 yr old not so much, but she'll get there), do laundry, clean, etc. And if you think about it, schools used to educate in some of those areas, to. I don't know when or why they got rid of home ec, but it was before my time.
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We are taking today off and will do the stuff for today, tomorrow. We went to the used book sale at the library today and I got some books, wanted to get more but the kids weren't very cooperative today.
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Shannon~ It sounds like you are really doing your best. I wouldn't worry too much about Tharen, honestly. With my own kids, when I notice they are backsliding in an area or two or three, not acting quite as mature or responsible, etc, it seems like when I've lost hope and just think that's the way they are going to be now, that's when they surprise me with GROWTH in a lot of areas that I totally didn't see coming. Maybe that's the kind of thing that's going on with him?

ITA with what you mamas are saying about life skills and "education." There are so many things that have been forgotten in this country because it isn't taught in school, and there's not enough free time between 40 hours of school during childhood, then college, then getting a 40 hour job, to explore many things that life has to offer. And IMO things that are SO much more important and significant in life that many just miss out on.

Lyn~ happy bday to your son!!

Today we are having a deep cleaning day. Minimal school work... I'll probably count today as a half day, combine it with tomorrow's trip to the farm for a full day (:

Heather~ How are you doing hun?
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Keegan's reading went very well today!! It was an encouragment to me, to be sure. Rachel's reading is also doing very well, but she does better with it on a day-to-day basis so it isn't as earthshattering to me. We have done all that we needed to do this morning, and I think we will spend the rest of the day enjoying the fall weather. The kids have been asking about a leaf pile for a few days, but there's not quite enough leaves down yet. Maybe after all the wind today we'll get to do that this weekend.
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