Diaper Swappers

Greenebean214 · 10-10-2012, 06:20 AM

Normal! I felt the same exact way. I still don't like anyone else to try to calm her down if she gets upset, and she's almost 17 months old! I remember my MIL trying to soothe her when she was younger and I'm standing right next to her saying "I'll take her back now" with my arms out and she refused to hand her over!! I was livid) DD was SCREAMING and that woman was essentially a stranger to her- I had to literally pry her from MIL's arms!!!!!!! I doubt it will get better with the potential next LO's.

SaraElise · 10-10-2012, 06:36 AM

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Originally Posted by Greenebean214

Normal! I felt the same exact way. I still don't like anyone else to try to calm her down if she gets upset, and she's almost 17 months old! I remember my MIL trying to soothe her when she was younger and I'm standing right next to her saying "I'll take her back now" with my arms out and she refused to hand her over!! I was livid) DD was SCREAMING and that woman was essentially a stranger to her- I had to literally pry her from MIL's arms!!!!!!! I doubt it will get better with the potential next LO's.

We've had similar instances, I don't understand why other people feel the need to be possessive over a baby that is not theirs. There were times as an infant my son would be screaming reaching his arms out for me and they would ignore him even though I was standing right there ready to take him.

TinaDeanette · 10-10-2012, 06:50 AM

My whole family know that I don't like to 'share' the baby. But, I do share my newbies for a few minutes at a time!

crazyeyesmcgee · 10-10-2012, 06:58 AM

I do NOT want people holding my babies until they are at least a few months old. I always dread the "food drop off" because I know it's sort of expected to let them cuddle baby while they are there. This time around, I just stopped offering even when they'd drop hints. If it was family asking, I'd say "she JUSt fell asleep and I don't want to wake her" or something like that. Don't care, MY baby, you can wait. And absolutely NO kids holding baby until 3-4 months old. My midwife (yes, midwife!!) brought her 9 year old over for my post partum visit and kept saying her daughter tagged along alllll day to her appointments just to see and hold my baby. When I didn't give in, she finally whispered "can you just let her hold her for a minute?" I said no and gave some excuse I can't remember now. Sadly, if I ever have another I will not use her as my midwife because that pissed me off so much.

katengrace · 10-10-2012, 07:37 AM

I was the exact same way with all if mine. In fact people always joke that no one held dd4 for her first year. She is 14 months old and has only been left with dh for a funeral and doctor appts.

moonlightblonde · 10-10-2012, 07:42 AM

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Originally Posted by aemarques

Haha exactly! Thank you

now I don't feel so crazy!! Everyone is always so quick to shove a paci in her mouth but I'm pretty sure she's not crying because she wants her pacifier... Today I put our two pacifiers away so people can't just grab them up and automatically give them to her. I really bought them for car use only when I can't tend to her.

Good luck with that - I WISH mine would take a soother for cars but she wont take them at all any time...I think if you don't introduce them pretty early they will never take them.

Angel89411 · 10-10-2012, 07:43 AM

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Originally Posted by crazyeyesmcgee

I do NOT want people holding my babies until they are at least a few months old. I always dread the "food drop off" because I know it's sort of expected to let them cuddle baby while they are there. This time around, I just stopped offering even when they'd drop hints. If it was family asking, I'd say "she JUSt fell asleep and I don't want to wake her" or something like that. Don't care, MY baby, you can wait. And absolutely NO kids holding baby until 3-4 months old. My midwife (yes, midwife!!) brought her 9 year old over for my post partum visit and kept saying her daughter tagged along alllll day to her appointments just to see and hold my baby. When I didn't give in, she finally whispered "can you just let her hold her for a minute?" I said no and gave some excuse I can't remember now. Sadly, if I ever have another I will not use her as my midwife because that pissed me off so much.

Oh my goodness. That is some gall.

Computermama · 10-10-2012, 07:57 AM

I viewed people coming over wanting to hold baby as my break, so I could do something else. So I quite happily handed her over to whomever, including letting the odd sweet little old lady hold her when I had to grab something or put on the mei tai again at the mall. Everyone wants to hold the baby! However, that's not to say it isn't completely normal to feel like you always want to cuddle the squish, and feel protective of baby, it certainly is.

Babybird4 · 10-10-2012, 08:03 AM

I think I offended MIL once but oh well. They were having a house built when DD1 was 3 months old and stayed with us in the interim for about 2 months. I was tired of sharing and spent most of our days playing in my bedroom/TV room upstairs while they were downstairs. One morning she heard DD wake up and while I was getting her changed MIL came in and said "you have to share her sometime today." I said "I absolutely do NOT have to share her." and finished changing her and proceeded to my room for the day.

I also hate when in the hospital and people pass her around and when I ask to have my baby back they say "Oh, you will get to hold her all the time." Well yes, that is because I am the one that pushed her out and she is MINE!

qsefthuko · 10-10-2012, 08:08 AM

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Originally Posted by Arabesque

I'm the opposite, I'll pass my babies off to whoever wants to hold them (within reason obviously). I actually think that is the reason why my children are so comfortable around others. We never went through stranger anxiety phases with them, and DD started daycare recently without shedding a single tear.

Although, nothing beats a good baby snuggle.

I held my daughter constantly. Even when she slept I held her. I hated passing her to anyone. I did not pass her around. My daughter never went through separation anxiety. She never met a stranger. I had only to tell her where I was going and when I would be back. As long as I did that she was fine without me. I think it has more to do with a child's personality than it does with passing them around or keeping them close to mama.

10-10-2012, 06:20 AM	#21
Greenebean214 Registered Users Join Date: Feb 2011 Location: Dirty South Posts: 718	Normal! I felt the same exact way. I still don't like anyone else to try to calm her down if she gets upset, and she's almost 17 months old! I remember my MIL trying to soothe her when she was younger and I'm standing right next to her saying "I'll take her back now" with my arms out and she refused to hand her over!! I was livid) DD was SCREAMING and that woman was essentially a stranger to her- I had to literally pry her from MIL's arms!!!!!!! I doubt it will get better with the potential next LO's. __________________ Loving Life as a Coastie Wife Welcomed Liberty Grace May 12, 2011!

10-10-2012, 06:50 AM	#23
TinaDeanette Registered Users Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: Arizona Posts: 9,425 Ratings: 49 Feedback: 100% My Mood:	My whole family know that I don't like to 'share' the baby. But, I do share my newbies for a few minutes at a time! __________________ J-14, J-8, J-6, J-2, and CJ-16 weeks ~Operation Rainbow~ Under Construction Until November 2013

10-10-2012, 06:58 AM	#24
crazyeyesmcgee Registered Users Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: Columbus, OH Posts: 634 Ratings: 31 Feedback: 100% My Mood:	I do NOT want people holding my babies until they are at least a few months old. I always dread the "food drop off" because I know it's sort of expected to let them cuddle baby while they are there. This time around, I just stopped offering even when they'd drop hints. If it was family asking, I'd say "she JUSt fell asleep and I don't want to wake her" or something like that. Don't care, MY baby, you can wait. And absolutely NO kids holding baby until 3-4 months old. My midwife (yes, midwife!!) brought her 9 year old over for my post partum visit and kept saying her daughter tagged along alllll day to her appointments just to see and hold my baby. When I didn't give in, she finally whispered "can you just let her hold her for a minute?" I said no and gave some excuse I can't remember now. Sadly, if I ever have another I will not use her as my midwife because that pissed me off so much. __________________ Wife to my sweet DH, SAHM to my princesses DD1 (4) and DD2 (1)

10-10-2012, 07:37 AM	#25
katengrace Registered Users Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Florida Posts: 2,281 Ratings: 36 Feedback: 100% My Mood:	Re: Selfish with your baby I was the exact same way with all if mine. In fact people always joke that no one held dd4 for her first year. She is 14 months old and has only been left with dh for a funeral and doctor appts. __________________ Carrie, married to my best friend, Scott and mama to Grace '05, Kate '07 and Claire '08 and Brynn born 8/18/11

10-10-2012, 07:57 AM	#28
Computermama Registered Users Join Date: Mar 2008 Posts: 12,948 Ratings: 30 Feedback: 100% My Mood:	Re: Selfish with your baby I viewed people coming over wanting to hold baby as my break, so I could do something else. So I quite happily handed her over to whomever, including letting the odd sweet little old lady hold her when I had to grab something or put on the mei tai again at the mall. Everyone wants to hold the baby! However, that's not to say it isn't completely normal to feel like you always want to cuddle the squish, and feel protective of baby, it certainly is. __________________ Becca, Wife to B (10/31/09!) and busy WOHM to E (10/17/07). and C (04/26/12) I've earned over $450 in gift cards by searching with Swagbucks! Probably nak or fighting autocorrect on my Samsung Galaxy S2x, excuse the typos!