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Old 10-18-2012, 06:24 PM   #1
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Disrespectful or not: Using "mom" and "dad"

I could really use some thoughts/input/feelings/advice from all sides. I'm kind of at a loss as to whether I feel it is or isn't and put my food down.

For the last month or so my son David who is about a month away from being 6 has taken to calling me Terra, instead of the normal "mom". Keep in mind he is SPD/ASD/ADHD. And He's really 'coming into himself' and his personality as of late.

Anyway, a part of me feels like it's disrespectful, but then another part is like eh, no big deal, it's a phase and will pass. I just don't know. It seems like the bigger deal I make of it the worse it is. And then a part of me [who likes to question everything] asks "What's the big deal and where does it say in stone that we have to call parents "mom and dad".

I don't know, I'm open to listening to all views which may help me get a better grasp one way or another. Thank you!

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Old 10-18-2012, 06:30 PM   #2
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Old 10-18-2012, 06:33 PM   #3
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Re: Disrespectful or not: Using "mom" and "dad"

With kids without behavioral issues I think I would insist on Mom and Dad. With a child with behavioral issues I would probably let it slide.
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Old 10-18-2012, 06:35 PM   #4
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Re: Disrespectful or not: Using "mom" and "dad"

My son did this. I really think for most kids it's just a phase and they are trying it out to see if they get a reaction. I ignored it and he went back to calling me mom. He was also about that age and is possibly on the spectrum.
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My son did this. I really think for most kids it's just a phase and they are trying it out to see if they get a reaction. I ignored it and he went back to calling me mom. He was also about that age and is possibly on the spectrum.
I'm thinking this as well.
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Re: Disrespectful or not: Using "mom" and "dad"

lol i called my mom ethel (not her name) all the time when i was a kid just because she hated it and it got her attention after i called her mom a few times and she didnt answer. in your case i would let it slide for now and not worry about it just suggest that he call you mom instead because you like it better.
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With kids without behavioral issues I think I would insist on Mom and Dad. With a child with behavioral issues I would probably let it slide.
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My son did this. I really think for most kids it's just a phase and they are trying it out to see if they get a reaction. I ignored it and he went back to calling me mom. He was also about that age and is possibly on the spectrum.
I think both. He might realize u guys have other names & are trying them out. Dharma & greg show for instance.......
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Re: Disrespectful or not: Using "mom" and "dad"

My almost 3 yr old DD discovered we have names and not just mom/dad. She likes to call us by our names a lot now. I always say "yes, that's my name, but I'm also your mom/mommy, just like you are Elli and also my daughter". We are learning family members as I'm due with baby #2 very soon
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Re: Disrespectful or not: Using "mom" and "dad"

What about not responding until he uses Mom. Just say, "oh, I didn't know you were talking to me." It would bother me, but if making a big deal out of it would make it worse then I'd hope ignoring it would make it stop.
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Old 10-18-2012, 06:53 PM   #10
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I think both. He might realize u guys have other names & are trying them out. Dharma & greg show for instance.......
I loved that show!

Good input. My gut does say just roll with it right now. The rules part of me is flustered!
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