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[ShannonMae]

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[sisu]

I can understand why your mom would still be resentful when your dad has been able to move on; she was the one hurt, betrayed, and left behind. It's unfortunate for her that she hasn't been able to move past it, though, since the resentment is more harmful to her happiness than it is to your dad's.

Regardless of her feelings about him, she needs to respect the fact that you want your daughter to have a relationship with your father. No matter what her feelings are about the situation, she should address them like an adult, rather than making you choose between them, then trying to manipulate you by giving you the silent treatment.

I'd either ignore her tantrum entirely, or write her an email explaining that you'll always love her and you want her to be in your daughter's life - but also stating that you refuse to be put in a position where you have to choose between her and your dad.

[trying4more]

Sounds like your mom is still mad at him, and is trying to use you and your baby to pay him back!!!
Your an adult and it's your child.
Sorry your mom is putting you through that!

[HugeBabyBoy]

Sounds like after nearly 2 decades your mother has been holding grudge. It shouldn't affect you or your family. IMO, If she wants to be that way, she doesn't need to be near my children. It's time for her to move past it, or at least not make her divorce your issue. I would tell her flat out that you understand she and your father differences and difficulties and couldn't work them out, but that in no way gives her the right to make you miserable or pass judgement on the fact you wish to have a relationship with your father. She can leave all subjects regarding him alone.