When to tell the kids? - Cloth Diapers & Parenting Community

2sweetboys · 11-06-2012, 01:45 PM

DH and I are struggling with when to tell our kids that a baby is coming. I say we should wait as long as possible so it's not such a long wait for them, but DH says I need to tell them soon so they understand why I don't feel good.

Our DD (4) keeps asking if I'm still sick because of how nauseous I am. I had the flu a few weeks ago and I think they all think I'm still sick from that.

I can't cook, I barely eat actual meals, and I'm tired/cranky most of the time. I know they are all old enough to know that something's not right, but I'm just not sure that telling them now is a good idea.

What would you do?

MyM&W · 11-06-2012, 02:58 PM

I already told our kids. I told them before anyone else lol

SpartyGuard · 11-06-2012, 03:06 PM

My 4yo is catching on to the fact that I'm not feeling well. She's been quite sweet about it and tries to help me. She even asked me why I still don't feel good this morning.

We're having a dating u/s next week and I'm thinking we'll tell her at that point when we have a picture we can show her.

gingerpeachee · 11-06-2012, 05:03 PM

Little G said, "Mommy why are you always so sick?" last week. And I said, "because Mommy is spending all her extra energy growing a baby right now."
"There is a baby in your tummy?"
"Yup, but its not coming out until after Christmas and after Easter"
"Can I call Grama on the telephone?"

Telephone convo-
"Grama, grama mommy has a baby growing in her tummy and its not coming out until after Christmas and after Easter and I think its a sister!"

He hasn't really brought it up since. LOL

kanga1622 · 11-06-2012, 06:05 PM

DS is 2.5 but has obviously noticed a change in our routines. He keeps asking me "what the matter is" and then telling me "you're okay mama."

We have asked him if he would like a little brother or sister but he's oblivious. We don't really want him to know until we are ready to announce because he tends to repeat the strangest things to random people.

Sent from my iPod touch using DS Forum

Leaner · 11-07-2012, 09:37 AM

I haven;t told mine yet, they are 11, 7 and 19 months. But it is because daddy wants to wait until after our u/s next week. It is really hard because I do feel sick all of the time.

bluecandi · 11-08-2012, 01:47 PM

My girls are 2 and 4. My odd keeps saying Mama your belly is so big and round and I think theres a baby brother in your tummy!!

Lol. I dont want to tell them till Im ready to announce because odd repeats EVERYTHING, to anybody within earshot. :S

tricia17lee · 11-08-2012, 07:59 PM

We're telling DD tomorrow when we hear the heartbeat. I'm so excited!! She's almost 3 an wants to be a big sister very badly. We're going to try to record her reaction in case it's cute or big.

rockchikcassie · 11-08-2012, 08:27 PM

We told the almost 5 year old the same night we found out. He's super excited just like he was with the last baby. He says "her" name should be Tuna. The 18 month old doesn't have a clue, but I don't think he'll understand yet. We don't not say anything in front of him or anything like that, we just don't talk about it with him since he isn't really talking yet. He's going to have a very hard time with the new baby when he/she gets here tho.

SpartyGuard · 11-09-2012, 09:31 AM

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Originally Posted by tricia17lee

We're telling DD tomorrow when we hear the heartbeat. I'm so excited!! She's almost 3 an wants to be a big sister very badly. We're going to try to record her reaction in case it's cute or big.

I want to record DD too. I have no idea how she'll react but I think she'll be excited!

11-06-2012, 01:45 PM	#1
2sweetboys Registered Users Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: Nebraska Posts: 2,488 Ratings: 158 Feedback: 100%	When to tell the kids? DH and I are struggling with when to tell our kids that a baby is coming. I say we should wait as long as possible so it's not such a long wait for them, but DH says I need to tell them soon so they understand why I don't feel good. Our DD (4) keeps asking if I'm still sick because of how nauseous I am. I had the flu a few weeks ago and I think they all think I'm still sick from that. I can't cook, I barely eat actual meals, and I'm tired/cranky most of the time. I know they are all old enough to know that something's not right, but I'm just not sure that telling them now is a good idea. What would you do? __________________ ~Amanda~ and Aaron (11/27/04) Aedan (11/18/03) Harley (07/26/05) and Emma Mae (02/18/08) and Baby Girl due 06/17/13!!

11-06-2012, 02:58 PM	#2
MyM&W Registered Users Formerly: maddiesmommy0503 Join Date: Nov 2007 Location: Maine Posts: 6,410 Ratings: 84 Feedback: 100% My Mood:	I already told our kids. I told them before anyone else lol __________________ Thank my Motorola Electrify for any random words. Ashley,wife to ChrisMama to Madison(7)Wyatt(3) and Natalie born June 18th 2013! and our little bean who's back with God

11-06-2012, 03:06 PM	#3
SpartyGuard Registered Users Join Date: Aug 2008 Location: Knoxville, TN Posts: 371 My Mood:	Re: When to tell the kids? My 4yo is catching on to the fact that I'm not feeling well. She's been quite sweet about it and tries to help me. She even asked me why I still don't feel good this morning. We're having a dating u/s next week and I'm thinking we'll tell her at that point when we have a picture we can show her. __________________ Sarah, wife to Keith , WOHM to Brooke 9/08 Cautiously expecting our rainbow baby 6/2013 Visit me at my blog Tired Mommy Tales and get Swaggy with me!!

11-06-2012, 05:03 PM	#4
gingerpeachee Registered Users Join Date: Jun 2011 Posts: 1,757 Ratings: 20 Feedback: 100%	Re: When to tell the kids? Little G said, "Mommy why are you always so sick?" last week. And I said, "because Mommy is spending all her extra energy growing a baby right now." "There is a baby in your tummy?" "Yup, but its not coming out until after Christmas and after Easter" "Can I call Grama on the telephone?" Telephone convo- "Grama, grama mommy has a baby growing in her tummy and its not coming out until after Christmas and after Easter and I think its a sister!" He hasn't really brought it up since. LOL __________________ Mae- Mama to Gustavo 10/07, Joey 12/10 and Henry 5/13 “No matter how big the lie; repeat it often enough and the masses will regard it as the truth.” ― John F. Kennedy

11-06-2012, 06:05 PM	#5
kanga1622 Registered Users Join Date: Dec 2010 Posts: 833 Ratings: 5 Feedback: 100%	DS is 2.5 but has obviously noticed a change in our routines. He keeps asking me "what the matter is" and then telling me "you're okay mama." We have asked him if he would like a little brother or sister but he's oblivious. We don't really want him to know until we are ready to announce because he tends to repeat the strangest things to random people. Sent from my iPod touch using DS Forum __________________ Married since 2002, Doggy mama since 2004, Mama to DS1 since 03/2010 and DS2 since 06/2013. We BF, ERF, and CD. Always missing our little angels: 05/09 and 09/12.