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Old 11-15-2012, 01:27 PM   #21
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We gave her the information she needs to get into contact with the adoptive family.

I'd also like to remind that this is a public forum and what is said can be read by anyone.
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Old 11-15-2012, 01:35 PM   #22
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This is all so sad.
Beyond belief. From the start and the finish. This poor poor baby girl
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Beyond belief. From the start and the finish. This poor poor baby girl
This poor child has been through things Noone should have to. I hate myself everyday for what I let happen to her. Every fiber in my being just wants to hold and protect her and make it better. I deserve to hurt, Ella does not
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Was it DS that brought you two together? It seems you commented on eachother posts in the past.. So is this the place that facilitated the start of a relationship? The start of this process? Just curious.
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It's hard to get to know people in a short period of time. There is no way you could have known that things would have turned out this way since you were trying to make her situation better than it would have been with you. Don't beat yourself up over it.

On a positive note, she is still very young so she may not really remember this part of her life later. It is kind of a good thing that she was moved now instead of later. I hope you get to contact the new adoptive family so you can at least know if they are going to allow you the contact the original family had promised. If you used an agency for your original adoption I would make sure they know what has happened so they can't try to adopt again.
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Beyond belief. From the start and the finish. This poor poor baby girl
Yes. Oh my goodness, this is just so incredibly sad.
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So she's in a new adoptive home already? Readopted, as they all it? So much I could say but I'll just keep my mouth shut.
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So she's in a new adoptive home already? Readopted, as they all it? So much I could say but I'll just keep my mouth shut.
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Adoption disruptions and "re-adoption" or "re-homing" happens more than any of us are aware of. I know of three situations personally where this has happened (and I don't get out much). It's not something any of us can judge until we live it. There is a *huge* stigma attached to disrupting an adoption and people do not talk about it. Often, families wait until it's way too late to save the child and it turns tragic (out of control teen, child hurting other children in the home, etc). In this situation, we have to be very thankful that this little girl's family realized it was not working while she still has a chance. We can't judge.

Here is a post from a.com from a BTDT mom - http://forums.adoption.com/disruptio...some-long.html


FYI - My post doesn't sound supportive to the OP, not my intention. My support to the OP has been done via pm today. This is a very public forum and the online adoption community is rather small; there are people watching this thread that don't normally hang out here. Not many people here are truly anonymous.
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