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Thank you all for the advice, support and understanding. This thread has helped me heal in ways I didn't think were an option. The pain is still there, but being able to let it out has helped. Thank you for your prayers for Ella, she has been a strong person her whole life prayers and good vibes her way will help her continue to be so.

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Thank you all for the advice, support and understanding. This thread has helped me heal in ways I didn't think were an option. The pain is still there, but being able to let it out has helped. Thank you for your prayers for Ella, she has been a strong person her whole life prayers and good vibes her way will help her continue to be so.


Do you now have the info needed to contact the family that has adopted Ella or is the contact with you being left up to them?
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Do you now have the info needed to contact the family that has adopted Ella or is the contact with you being left up to them?
She was given a way to contact them. She came back saying they didn't respond so I asked her to clarify and it turned out she had written down the information wrong. So if she still has it wrong or not, who knows. I gave her the right information twice already.

As for contact between us and Sam, we're putting an end to it. She is more than welcome to hire a lawyer and we'd be more than happy to talk to them if she does. However we're not playing these games. Instead of being a mature adult and coming to us so we could work something out if she did indeed have issues with contacting the family, she came onto a public forum and posted lies about us then twisted events and what was said to fit her cause. We want no part in it.

We've been nothing but nice to her. I explained everything to her in detail and this is what we were met with. As a parent I understand but there are ways to handle yourself and these types of situations without airing everyones business on a public forum and incorrectly doing so at that.

The family WAS alerted to this thread so what they choose to do with it is up to them. I can't say what they will or won't do as I am not them and that isn't my decision. I do know however if it were ME in this position I'd be wary and be on lock down. If she is going to come to a public forum and say/do all this to us, what do you think she is going to do to them when they do or say something she doesn't like or agree with?
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First off aren't you doing the very thing you are mad over her about!?

Also i think it shows how much love she has for her DD that she will do anything to find her..even if it is airing her dirty laundry. id be honored to have Sam in my family as my kids BM.
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She was given a way to contact them. She came back saying they didn't respond so I asked her to clarify and it turned out she had written down the information wrong. So if she still has it wrong or not, who knows. I gave her the right information twice already.

As for contact between us and Sam, we're putting an end to it. She is more than welcome to hire a lawyer and we'd be more than happy to talk to them if she does. However we're not playing these games. Instead of being a mature adult and coming to us so we could work something out if she did indeed have issues with contacting the family, she came onto a public forum and posted lies about us then twisted events and what was said to fit her cause. We want no part in it.

We've been nothing but nice to her. I explained everything to her in detail and this is what we were met with. As a parent I understand but there are ways to handle yourself and these types of situations without airing everyones business on a public forum and incorrectly doing so at that.

The family WAS alerted to this thread so what they choose to do with it is up to them. I can't say what they will or won't do as I am not them and that isn't my decision. I do know however if it were ME in this position I'd be wary and be on lock down. If she is going to come to a public forum and say/do all this to us, what do you think she is going to do to them when they do or say something she doesn't like or agree with?
Was it you who alerted them?
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First off aren't you doing the very thing you are mad over her about!?

Also i think it shows how much love she has for her DD that she will do anything to find her..even if it is airing her dirty laundry. id be honored to have Sam in my family as my kids BM.
I have said nothing about her or her life on this thread whatsoever whereas she has accused us of abuse and neglect from the beginning of this thread among other things. Where is her proof? The CPS case? The CPS case had nothing to do with abuse or neglect in the way she is talking about. I could call today and report her household of something and CPS would HAVE to do an investigation whether it was true or not.

Creating drama is not the way to go about having a good relationship with ANYONE.
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Was it you who alerted them?
As Beth. said the adoption community is small.. Word gets out fast. They knew already.
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