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Old 11-18-2012, 03:31 PM   #61
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Re: Is more than 18% gratuity expected? Im confused...

First I want to state our state's current minimum wage is $9.04, our servers get minimum wage plus gratuities. That is more than many people in our state make.

When I worked as a health care worker years ago I got paid minimum wage no extras, in fact take a tip and you were fired. I often was taking care of truly cranky people at the hospital I worked at and getting requests from often stressed families and no matter how many people were making requests in the room I got paid the same.

Also as far as kids being harder,well it depends on the kids. I've seen families with 1 or 2 kids take more attention than our 6 combined. Our requests are made all at once while the server is there we don't repeatedly call her back every few moments. We often are only taking one average to large size booth, (the kids really don't mind piling in). I have seen adult parties who yes really are a pill and think because the server will automatically get a good tip at the end they can just be rude to her. We always look out for our server just as we feel he/she should look out for us, it's called respect for other people. If our kids were rude they would end up with a talk about how we treat others with respect. Our kids often stack all the plates, putting all the garbage on one plate, as they have seen this done by us, we have taught them it is kind to make their job easier. We don't return to a place that tacks on a large gratuity automatically, like I said before we choose to go to places that we get to choose the tip based on the service. DH and I tip VERY well if we get decent service. And no I don't feel bad leaving a poor tip, when you are at work it is your job to give professional service, that was required of me every day of my life when I worked outside the home, grandma died, serve the patients, loved one in the hospital, serve the patients, just broke up, serve the patients. We were always expected to give good service and care regardless of our personal lives and without being tipped.

What about day care workers do you give them a tip? If you live in my state and both get minimum wage you really should consider giving them a tip.

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Old 11-18-2012, 05:05 PM   #62
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We usually tip 15-20%, dh is a more generous tipper than I am. I double the tax usually which is 8-9% here so 16-18%. Unless the service was exceptional than I tip 20+%. Plus I know our servers make at least $8.50/hr since that's min wage. Do a good job and I'll tip you well. Forget our appetizer, bring meals out staggered, don't offer drink refills/another drink, etc. than you get less.

I'm surprised this isn't turning into a cat fight... Most tipping threads do!
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Old 11-18-2012, 05:12 PM   #63
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Re: Is more than 18% gratuity expected? Im confused...

Technically you can scratch the 18% out and write in what you really want to give.
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Old 11-18-2012, 05:58 PM   #64
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Technically you can scratch the 18% out and write in what you really want to give.
Even for large parties when they have a sign stating this is policy?
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Old 11-18-2012, 06:07 PM   #65
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I usually tip 20% but if they pre did 18% I wouldn't have added anything.
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Old 11-18-2012, 06:14 PM   #66
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Re: Is more than 18% gratuity expected? Im confused...

Personally, I would have complained to the manager. That's completely rude and I would've been irritated hearing that anywhere, especially in a country club. She needs to remember that it's a tip, totally reliant on the service provided.
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Old 11-18-2012, 06:43 PM   #67
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Here the serves make min wage(8.55 I believe) . I don't tip more than $5.
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Old 11-18-2012, 06:49 PM   #68
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Even for large parties when they have a sign stating this is policy?
the policy is to add it, not that they can force you to pay it
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Re: Is more than 18% gratuity expected? Im confused...

Since I grew up in a restaurant in PA, I usually tip between 10-20 percent. Much of their tip includes the fact of if the restaurant is busy and how they provide service. In PA our minimum wage for tipped workers is $4.55. If it is a food quality issue I usually take it up with the manager and still tip the waitress.
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Old 11-19-2012, 06:02 AM   #70
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Re: Is more than 18% gratuity expected? Im confused...

Here, where I live, you are paid $2.13 an hour + tips.
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