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Old 11-23-2012, 10:54 AM   #1
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Big families? Negative reactions.

Would you tell your family you are preggers if everyone keeps giving negative reactions... ?

I'm a mom of three and contemplating another but my family has me acting like I'm 16 and pregnant. I am financially better off than most of them and a far better mom now than with 1. What's the deal?


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Old 11-23-2012, 11:20 AM   #2
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Of course id tell my family. I'd be super excited. I know for a fact I'd get "comments." oh well. I've just learned to not let it bother me.
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Old 11-23-2012, 11:32 AM   #3
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We are expecting #6 and we have been getting the " so you are done now, right?" comments since we had #2. This baby was a surprise and I was needing time to adjust myself. I just didn't have it in me to listen to everyone's rude comments. I knew if someone said something rude that I would likely say something nasty back We told the close people and just did not make a "big announcement". I have had some great advice from other moms of many. First, they will know you were pregnant when you turn up with a baby It is no fun to share your news and hear a nasty negative response. Also, when someone says something inappropriate just **** your head and look at the quizzically and then say "what an odd thing to say". Then you have made it perfectly clear that they have made an inappropriate comment without being nasty back.
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Old 11-23-2012, 11:55 AM   #4
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I finally just told everyone wed prolly have like 15 kids and to not be surprised. Also I think our society in general has a bad outlook on family size so I just try and be super positive and make sure they know that we few this child as a blessing. Some people are just flat out rude and that is hard especially when it's family/close friends.
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Old 11-23-2012, 03:47 PM   #5
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I did not tell family untill I was 4 months along with my last. I knew I would get crap (and did) for it.
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Old 11-23-2012, 04:10 PM   #6
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Re: Big families? Negative reactions.

Depends....will it cause you more stress to not tell?
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Old 11-23-2012, 05:17 PM   #7
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Next time I am only telling his parents, mine and my bff. Everyone else can figure it out on their own.

I am soooo sick of people telling my husband to castrate himself and for me to sew it up. People are so sick and rude. I dont care anymore.
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Old 11-23-2012, 06:32 PM   #8
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I learned to just not care what they thought. It is our family. People were treating me horribly after I got pregnant with # 3, which was shortly after # 2 was born(by accident).
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Old 11-24-2012, 11:14 AM   #9
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Me and DH done talked about this.

If I get pregnant soon with our 3rd the only person telling is my mother as she wants to be a grandma again. The rest of my family can go an JUMP IN THE LAKE!! The rest of our family can just figure it out or we will finally say something after hit 4 months as my SIL is a real itch an she hates my children. If she ever says anything bad about my children again I'm going to really slap the peas out of her. A while back she said she wished my babies was never born or was born dead. Plus said my DH needed to be fixed. So they are wrote off our family list for good...

No-one ever says that about my children unless you want see the bad side of me.

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Old 11-25-2012, 08:59 PM   #10
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Wth is wrong with people? I'm so sorry you all can't celebrate a new baby like you should be able to. People are jerks! I'm glad you guys can come to ds with your excitement.
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