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Old 11-30-2012, 07:00 AM   #21
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I am so sorry they did the sweep without even informing you, much less asking permission. Pregnancy is not an excuse to violate another person's body.

I refused all checks with my daughter (the only baby I saw an OB with). I just firmly said no and then joked with him that I would think about allowing him to check come 41 weeks. She was born at exactly 38, so I got lucky there that I didn't have to fight it long.

I would just straight up refuse to take my pants off at all for future visits. You are well within your rights to do so.

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Old 11-30-2012, 07:10 AM   #22
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So sorry that happened to u!!! I'd refuse ALL further checks! Reminds me of when my midwife "stretched" my cervix at 39 weeks without consent/warning/any notice at all. I went from calm to begging her to stop with tears in my eyes in a split second! It terrified DH about impending labor! Good reminder that I need to revise my birth plan!

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Old 11-30-2012, 07:17 AM   #23
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Re: Refusing cervical checks

I would refuse all other cervical exams. It won't tell you when you'll go into labor anyways and is a pretty outdated practice.

I would also remind them, if you feel comfortable, that it's not ok to do a sweep or anything else on someone without getting permission either. That's actually a violation of someone's body and consent.
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Old 11-30-2012, 07:17 AM   #24
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Re: Refusing cervical checks

I would refuse all other cervical exams. It won't tell you when you'll go into labor anyways and is a pretty outdated practice.

I would also remind them, if you feel comfortable, that it's not ok to do a sweep or anything else on someone without getting permission either. That's actually a violation of someone's body and consent.
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Old 11-30-2012, 07:21 AM   #25
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Re: Refusing cervical checks

It is so strange to hear about civilian OB care. You would have to request (rather beg) to be checked before active labor here. I've never had it done until I was checked in the hospital and then I was asked if I wanted it done.
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Old 11-30-2012, 07:32 AM   #26
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Re: Refusing cervical checks

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I would refuse all other cervical exams. It won't tell you when you'll go into labor anyways and is a pretty outdated practice.

I would also remind them, if you feel comfortable, that it's not ok to do a sweep or anything else on someone without getting permission either. That's actually a violation of someone's body and consent.
I'm keeping my pants on. I didn't realize that they considered it routine at this office and I read all the paperwork they gave me. It was more about their policy and privacy practice than anything. I actually was ok with a check at 38 weeks (this was my first check), but was hesitant for anything after because of what happened with my son 5 years ago. My plan was to allow one check and then refuse all the ones offered after. Never did I imagine she'd do a sweep without my consent!

I would have told her off yesterday had I not been so upset about it. I am also going to review my birth plan with the OB if I get her again. It's in my file but apparently they don't look at it.
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Old 11-30-2012, 07:42 AM   #27
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I like knowing because well I don't know really. It was exciting I guess. I did walk around at a 4 for a little over a week though. I went to preregister at the hospital after my appt one day and they asked how dialated I was and I told them a 4. They said if I wanted to have a baby then they could start me...I declined. A 4 is what they want you at to stay at that hospital I guess. This time I'm having the baby at a birthing center so I'm not sure if they will do checks or not. I'm guessing probably not. We will see.
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Old 11-30-2012, 09:21 AM   #28
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Re: Refusing cervical checks

wow that sucks. I wish I could say I am surprised.
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Old 11-30-2012, 09:25 AM   #29
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Re: Refusing cervical checks

I would refuse and plan to...

but not really because of what happened to you. My waters broke to start my labor and I still had a really good experience. The nurses and doctors allowed me to walk, shower - do whatever I wanted.

I can't imagine that your waters weren't about to break anyways - cervical check or not. Women get multiple membrane sweeps and don't get their waters to break - so I would believe your waters were going to break anyways.

I do refuse cervical checks, but I don't think that's what caused your bad experience.
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Old 11-30-2012, 09:34 AM   #30
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I would refuse...it isn't really all that indicative of much anyhow. I have heard of mamas being dilated for weeks or not being dilated at all and birthing that night.

I didn't dilate at all until I was well into labor.
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