Diaper Swappers

fishingfor5 · 12-11-2012, 08:41 AM

My 17 month old nursers like a 3 month old most days and nights. Last month I got a BFP and the tests were nice and dark and then a week later I lost it.

I just got another BFP yesterday, it's light but there. I am trying to give this over to the Lord but just need to hear words of encouragement that nursing my dd is not causing me to lose these babies.

l_Kimmie_l · 12-11-2012, 09:12 AM

No your nursling is not causing that. If anything the extra progesterone that you get from nursing still would better your chances of good implantation. I am so sorry for your loss. I lost 5 babies before getting DS2. Unfortunately, it happens. Many of my BFPs were really light. I hope this is your sticky bean. I will be sending you a ton of sticky baby dust!

tibeca · 12-11-2012, 10:43 AM

I have m/c while breastfeeding and also nursed through 2 pregnancies. If your body feels ready and capable of conceiving, chances are that breastfeeding won't change that.

Sometimes m/c's just happen. I felt good continuing to nurse knowing that I was meeting the needs of the child I had. I couldn't be guaranteed that a pregnancy would guarantee a baby, and I didn't want to wean only to miscarry anyway. <hugs>

kushie tushie · 12-11-2012, 10:57 AM

I had two miscarriages before I even had a live child. I'm now nursing through my second pregnancy just find. Sorry about your loss mama!

I'm mobile.... sorry for the typos!

fishingfor5 · 12-11-2012, 11:15 AM

Thanks so much ladies. Intellectually I KNEW it would be fine but as you all know m/c seems to change everything in your thinking. I am so glad to know it helps with progestreone!! That would be my other concern. I have never had low progesterone before but I have also never conceived at 41 before!! lol I didn't plan on weaning as there is NO WAY it would work dd is a boobie monster!! Thank you thank you thank you for reaffirming what I believed.

mibarra · 12-11-2012, 12:23 PM

So sorry mama. Is it possible it's related? Well, anything is possible. But it's EXTREMELY unlikely. That early of a loss was probably a chemical pregnancy, meaning an egg got fertilized, but was never really capable of becoming a baby. Most losses prior to 12 weeks occur because of errors in cell division that make the fetus not viable - ie, something goes wrong outside of our control and means the baby is incapable of surviving. I've had 2 losses (one stillbirth, one miscarriage), and it's so easy to blame yourself, and wonder what you did wrong. You did nothing wrong mama.

c&w's mama · 12-11-2012, 01:48 PM

MyNameIsMama · 12-11-2012, 01:54 PM

So sorry Mama, maybe go and see your Doctor. Get your progesterone tested since some people need to supplement theirs. I personally don't like the term chemical pregnancy, you lost a baby, cry, grieve and see if there is anything to do to keep the baby you have.

fishingfor5 · 12-11-2012, 02:29 PM

Thanks so much ladies. My dh and I discussed me getting my betas done if AF stays away. So far so good and that's good enough for now.

tibeca · 12-11-2012, 02:38 PM

I don't 100% trust betas or ultrasound (not to be difficult). DD#3 was born August 2012 despite an inconclusive ultrasound, non-doubling betas, and heavy bleeding. It wasn't until she was visible on ultrasound at 8+ weeks that we were sure either way (perhaps vanishing twin?). Take care of yourself. Allow yourself to cry because either way, it is an highly emotional time.

12-11-2012, 08:41 AM	#1
fishingfor5 Registered Users Join Date: Oct 2010 Location: Northwest Ohio Posts: 1,111 Ratings: 17 Feedback: 100% My Mood:	Please reassure me that nursing my 17 mo old is NOT causing me to M/C - loss mention My 17 month old nursers like a 3 month old most days and nights. Last month I got a BFP and the tests were nice and dark and then a week later I lost it. I just got another BFP yesterday, it's light but there. I am trying to give this over to the Lord but just need to hear words of encouragement that nursing my dd is not causing me to lose these babies. __________________ Blessings from -Tori (41)wife to the amazing Dan(41) for 21yrs. Mom to the Fab 5, DS21, DS18, DS11, DD10, and DD1 Homeschooling, BFing, new to CDing, Not so good at Vaxing, SAHM 5 ^0^ resting with the Father till we meet again Cautiously but peacefully Expecting an Early Valentine in 2014!! EDD Feb 10!

12-11-2012, 09:12 AM	#2
l_Kimmie_l Registered Users Formerly: kimmie_n_angus Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: Maine Posts: 10,503 Ratings: 286 Feedback: 100% My Mood:	Re: Please reassure me that nursing my 17 mo old is NOT causing me to M/C - loss ment No your nursling is not causing that. If anything the extra progesterone that you get from nursing still would better your chances of good implantation. I am so sorry for your loss. I lost 5 babies before getting DS2. Unfortunately, it happens. Many of my BFPs were really light. I hope this is your sticky bean. I will be sending you a ton of sticky baby dust! __________________ Kimmie's Lunar Fertility Charts and Gender Predictions - Find out your PEAK fertility months & you will most likely conceive! My ISO Jacob 5/10/97 - Rory 5/30/08 - Quinn 8/21/09 - Finnegan 4/11/12

12-11-2012, 10:57 AM	#4
kushie tushie Registered Users Join Date: May 2010 Posts: 6,788 Ratings: 22 Feedback: 100% My Mood:	I had two miscarriages before I even had a live child. I'm now nursing through my second pregnancy just find. Sorry about your loss mama! I'm mobile.... sorry for the typos! __________________ Amanda , wifey to hubby Daniel , BWing, Co-sleeping, BFing, ing, non vaxing, non-circing, crunchy MAMA to W(2/10) , L (6/11) and due in March 2013! Come SWAG with me and earn FREE $$$$

12-11-2012, 11:15 AM	#5
fishingfor5 Registered Users Join Date: Oct 2010 Location: Northwest Ohio Posts: 1,111 Ratings: 17 Feedback: 100% My Mood:	Re: Please reassure me that nursing my 17 mo old is NOT causing me to M/C - loss ment Thanks so much ladies. Intellectually I KNEW it would be fine but as you all know m/c seems to change everything in your thinking. I am so glad to know it helps with progestreone!! That would be my other concern. I have never had low progesterone before but I have also never conceived at 41 before!! lol I didn't plan on weaning as there is NO WAY it would work dd is a boobie monster!! Thank you thank you thank you for reaffirming what I believed. __________________ Blessings from -Tori (41)wife to the amazing Dan(41) for 21yrs. Mom to the Fab 5, DS21, DS18, DS11, DD10, and DD1 Homeschooling, BFing, new to CDing, Not so good at Vaxing, SAHM 5 ^0^ resting with the Father till we meet again Cautiously but peacefully Expecting an Early Valentine in 2014!! EDD Feb 10!

12-11-2012, 12:23 PM	#6
mibarra Registered Users Join Date: Aug 2011 Posts: 6,701 Ratings: 108 Feedback: 100%	Re: Please reassure me that nursing my 17 mo old is NOT causing me to M/C - loss ment So sorry mama. Is it possible it's related? Well, anything is possible. But it's EXTREMELY unlikely. That early of a loss was probably a chemical pregnancy, meaning an egg got fertilized, but was never really capable of becoming a baby. Most losses prior to 12 weeks occur because of errors in cell division that make the fetus not viable - ie, something goes wrong outside of our control and means the baby is incapable of surviving. I've had 2 losses (one stillbirth, one miscarriage), and it's so easy to blame yourself, and wonder what you did wrong. You did nothing wrong mama.