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Old 12-13-2012, 12:24 PM   #11
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Old 12-13-2012, 12:26 PM   #12
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Re: Anyone else scared to death of baby #3?

I was not scared but 3 is much harder for me. My 2nd was easy peasy. She was super mellow, slept a lot, DS1 was really helpful and sweet etc. I thought I was going to do just as well with 3 however he is not a sleeper, very clingy, nurses constantly and DD is in the midst of her terrible twos and she is into everything. Also DS1 being in school this year is so demanding. I feel like I'm running around like a chicken with my head cut off most of the time. That said they adore him and he brings such a great dynamic to the family and I feel really complete now. I am sure it will get better once we move out of this newborn stage...and then it will get worse...and then better again.
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Old 12-13-2012, 12:31 PM   #13
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Re: Anyone else scared to death of baby #3?

With everything, it is an adjustment. But my 3rd was calmer than the other 2. After DS, any baby would be easy! Get a good double stroller, and a good carrier, and you're good to go! (Mine are 26 months a part and 23 months apart).

Our rule for adding kiddo 4 was that we wanted kiddo 3 to be 3 years old, potty trained, and more self sufficient. 23 months apart just sucked!
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Old 12-13-2012, 12:32 PM   #14
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Re: Anyone else scared to death of baby #3?

I dont think it is about a number at all. it depends on where you are in your life and also, the personalities of your kids.

I agree completely!!

I was terrified to add the 3rd. Being outnumbered WAS a big deal to me because our older 2 are still actually quite little and need a lot of care and we were making a lot of transitions at the same time as the 3rd baby arrived. I work full time, and there were financial ramifications we had to consider, too.

That said, I spent a lot of time mentally preparing for our new normal. I just knew everything was going to take longer, everything was going to be a bit more chaotic, and that sometimes one or two kids were just going to have to wait. I talked to my oldest a lot about the importance of teamwork and what she could to to help, though she still needs constant direction in this area.

Have we struggled? Oh, yes. Our oldest has never adapted well to change, so any change no matter how big or small is going to give us challenges. But our other daughter, who apparently was destined to be a middle child and has the personality and temperment for it, has been a piece of cake. And then the baby is just an angel sent from above. He's so EASY!

I guess basically what I'm saying is that every family dynamic is going to be different when the 2nd, 3rd, 4th child is added. It's okay to be afraid, but there is much you can do to prepare yourself and you never hear anyone seriously consider getting rid of any of their kids because the dynamic is too tough, KWIM? And the long days of constant care eventually give way to older more self-sufficient kids and you can breathe a little easier.
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Old 12-13-2012, 12:39 PM   #15
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Well, when DS3 was born, DS1 was about 5 years old. So it's not like I had 3 toddlers, or 3 infants, or 2 toddlers and an infant.

Yes, some days were (and still are) a challenge, but there are great days, ok days, not so great days, and "someone please come rescue me before i loose my sanity" days. LOL

DS3 will be 3 in February, and DD is 3 months old. THOSE two are challenging for me.

It also depends greatly on the personality of the older two kiddos. My oldest was (and still is) very helpful and deemed it his job to help care for his siblings and did a lot to help me out. So I had a great helper which made things a lot easier than if he were high needs or special needs at the time that DS3 was born.

Now with DS1 in school. and it's the 5yr old, 2 yr old and 3 month old at home, NOW I have more rough days because DS2 and DS3 are both VERY strong willed and fight a lot over toys, DS2 doesn't really WANT to help with the baby and DS3 can't really do much to help and is really rough wit her so has to be watched closely.

If I were to take DS1 out of the picture and just had the younger three, then yes, having a third would have scared me. LOL. but with DS1 being so helpful, going from 2 to 3 wasn't that big of a deal.

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Old 12-13-2012, 12:48 PM   #16
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I was not scared but 3 is much harder for me. My 2nd was easy peasy. She was super mellow, slept a lot, DS1 was really helpful and sweet etc.
This is what we have right now. A very sweet 4 year old, and a very easy, super sweet and outgoing 9 month old. I feel like even if we had another 3 year gap, it just wouldn't be right. But we will see.

DH does not want a big gap between the kids, but with his job change in a few months (or job loss), I don't feel like it's the right time to be talking about more kids. We live in a small house, but we could totally make it do-able. We only have 2 cars, but our main car would work if we got 3 Radian carseats (still have to research newborns in those).

Could we do it? Yes. Do I want to? No. However, if we had waited for the 'perfect time' to have our last two, we would be childless, and we are SO thankful for both of them, even though we went through a LOT of hardships. We still wouldn't change a thing (other than my shopping addiction).

We ideally would like 4. Preferably without long spaces in between. The awesome part about long spacing - regaining your sanity. The bad part about spacing - having to lose it all over again.
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Old 12-13-2012, 12:54 PM   #17
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Re: Anyone else scared to death of baby #3?

I am pregnant with number three and will admit, I'm scared.

There is a six year age gap between one and two. I love the gap. Big sister is amazing with her brother and since she is so self sufficient and in school I got to spend a ton of quality snuggle time when henry was a newborn. When number 3 is born Henry will be 21 months. I'm scared!

I think about all the time at is needed to just to nurse a newborn and I have no idea what kind of toddler henry will be. Both our babies were high needs so I'm worried this one will be as well.

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Old 12-13-2012, 01:34 PM   #18
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Re: Anyone else scared to death of baby #3?

It's so funny to hear other's responses! I found the third baby the sweetest baby, yet the biggest challenge with the numbers. It could be that I had 3 kids UNDER 3 at the time though! haha. #4 was my smoothest transition!
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Old 12-13-2012, 01:36 PM   #19
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lecialefty - Are you guys thinking about #3? Is your LO crawling? Annora is trying to start walking already, she pulls herself up onto furniture, and tries to take steps. My son was a late walker, so this is all new to me!
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Old 12-13-2012, 01:41 PM   #20
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Hah try twins.
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