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Old 01-05-2013, 06:44 PM   #21
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I don't care for the most part when it comes to clothes. When my kids start forming an opinion, there isn't anything I'll say no to based on gender (there is stuff I'll say no to because no one is wearing it no matter what their gender). But when ds was a baby - out of the house he was dressed like a boy. First - it was easier than answering a million questions when running errands. 2nd - he was my first boy after 2 girls. I loved buying different non girly stuff for him. I'd been buying girly stuff for 5 years by then and loved shopping for 'new' stuff. If I wanted to buying something girly I had 2 girls to shop for. Now at 3 he has his own preferances and it isn't pink (his choice, I'd let him if he wanted). This winter he's wearing pink snow boots because I didn't feel like buying new ones this year. He fits dd2's from last year and doesn't object to the pink ones.

As far as toys - a toy is a toy. There is no such thing as girl toys and boy toys in our house. Ds play barbie as often as the girls play super heroes. Ds got a new play kitchen for christmas. Dd2 got a train set when she was younger one Christmas. Ds has several dolls of his own.

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I don't care. I generally dislike pink and ultra girly things even for my girls but that's the only reason why I wouldn't put my son in those things.
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I noticed it on here too. On thread selling diapers I inquired about the mama asked if I have a girl or boy and I said girl but girls can wear any color. She responded with some things aren't appropriate for girls, which made me really very confused and sorta ticked. I understand people not wanting to put pink on a boy, not something I would take issue with, but I understand it, but cars, trucks, planes ARE girl things!! I had a whole set of matchbox cars as a little girl! Stop limiting girls to barbies! Let boys play with dolls!

Maybe its regional, I'm from Seattle which is one of the most liberal cities in the nation and not so gender specific. San Diego is more conservative and I notice more super girly crap.
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I don't really care much either way. But, if my husband did, I'd go with that... why cause a fight when it's not important?

But, when my daughter was a baby, most toys and clothes were not very gender specific at all. Most clothing was for either a boy or a girl. But, all the colors were bright or dark primary colors.

At that time, all the Little Tykes toys were primary colors. The playhouse was white with a blue roof and red windows and a green door. Nothing was pink or earth tones. Those colors weren't the style.

The styles were Jewel tones, or primary colors. Boy's clothes didn't have pictures of trucks or animals, and girl's clothes didn't have princesses or flowers. EVERYTHING was Polka dots, checks, or stripes. Gymboree was new. They were the first place to separate girl's clothes from Boy's clothes. (and make it popular)

When I was young, girl's clothes were uncomfortable, and boy's clothes were meant to be for "rough play". We had Keds tennis shoes, boys had Converse.

The 80s had the best kid's clothes. Nothing matched. Everything was for playing in, and it didn't matter how kids looked. E.T and Star Wars T-shirts were for everybody, and if your pants were too short, it was no big deal.

Trends come and go. I try not to take offense to them because in a few years, these kid's clothes will be out of style, and there will be something else.
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I don't really care much either way. But, if my husband did, I'd go with that... why cause a fight when it's not important?

But, when my daughter was a baby, most toys and clothes were not very gender specific at all. Most clothing was for either a boy or a girl. But, all the colors were bright or dark primary colors.

At that time, all the Little Tykes toys were primary colors. The playhouse was white with a blue roof and red windows and a green door. Nothing was pink or earth tones. Those colors weren't the style.

The styles were Jewel tones, or primary colors. Boy's clothes didn't have pictures of trucks or animals, and girl's clothes didn't have princesses or flowers. EVERYTHING was Polka dots, checks, or stripes.
Gymboree was new. They were the first place to separate girl's clothes from Boy's clothes. (and make it popular)

When I was young, girl's clothes were uncomfortable, and boy's clothes were meant to be for "rough play". We had Keds tennis shoes, boys had Converse.

The 80s had the best kid's clothes. Nothing matched. Everything was for playing in, and it didn't matter how kids looked. E.T and Star Wars T-shirts were for everybody, and if your pants were too short, it was no big deal.

Trends come and go. I try not to take offense to them because in a few years, these kid's clothes will be out of style, and there will be something else.
I really wish that children's clothing manufacturers incorporated this into their contemporary collections.

And I completely agree with pp (debcita?) who said that it is culturally more acceptable for girls to wear boys clothes because the hierarchy of gender subtly (and sometimes overtly) implicates femininity as a "lesser" category. I think that's where a lot of the vague discomfort we feel - in relation to little boys embracing stereotypically "girly" aesthetics and activities - comes from.
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My younger brother played with my barbies, and put on my pink ballet tutus with a leotard. My parents didn't make a big deal out of it even though our whole family is pretty conservative. My brother is pretty masculine now at 21, but not freaked out by wearing pink or purple if he wants and can wear it and still be "manly".
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I dress my kids in gender specific clothing because they are twins and it just makes it easier when we're out. At a glance people can tell their sex. Actually, since we had DS's hair cut a few months ago it has really been a non-issue because as soon as he had a 'boy' hair cut people figured it out.

I don't worry about what is girly or what is boyish except when we're buying clothes we buy DS 'boy clothes' and DD 'girl clothes'. If anything DD would be happy with 'boy clothes' if they came in pink. DS has strong opinions on what he likes (fire trucks, trains, trucks, etc) but DD does not. She likes a lot of what DS likes so if there was a fire truck shirt in pink she'd love it. She would not wear anything she perceived as a boy color, but she doesn't know what items supposedly belong to each gender.
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That's the thing! Why do colors have to 'belong' to a gender for children? They don't so much for adults?
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Meh, we don't care. DS rocks the pink shirts...for that matter, so does daddy, haha! He plays with his sisters' jewelry and dolls all the time. I think it's perfectly ok.
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