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risata · 01-06-2013, 08:14 AM

More specifically, I'm interested in what THEY felt was most helpful from you. Meal planning? Encouragement? Working out together?

DH wants to take off some weight. Every other time this has happened he is gung-ho at first but then fizzles out after a few weeks, even if he sees progress. I feel like I'm nagging if I keep after him -- I think we both get tired of it. I want him to WANT to do it, kwim? But I know the right kind of encouragement probably goes a long way. I'm just not sure what that is!

crystalanne79 · 01-06-2013, 08:29 AM

my dh took off 50lbs but that was entirely because he wanted to. I don't think there is anything you can say or do to make him lose weight if he isn't ready to. The same went for when I lost 42lbs, it was because I had had enough and made the decision.

risata · 01-06-2013, 08:45 AM

I know he wants to do it. Right now he is really motivated by himself. But if this goes like all the other times he will get discouraged in a few weeks. I guess I'm just wondering if there is something I can be doing that will gently encourage him without nagging, something I've missed the other times ...

doulamomma · 01-06-2013, 08:46 AM

Constantly stroking his ego. Lol

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KaleidoscopeEyes · 01-06-2013, 09:21 AM

dh has to keep his bmi under 30 to qualify for medical studies. he's a big guy about 6'1 and 225 normally. when his pants start feeling tight he wants to go on a diet. he did a round of hcg with me, he also did a month of raw vegan, he's currently doing low carb (vegetarian) he would like to lose about 25 lbs (get under 200) i help him by giving him ideas to make low carb alternatives to his favorites and i make him snacks like low carb cheesecake etc. even though he's bordering on obese i think he looks HWP

mamaerica · 01-06-2013, 09:28 AM

My DH has lost 100 pounds. I've helped by cooking healthier meals, and making sure to make him a lunch to take to work so that he's not tempted by fast foods.

**thealmightyme** · 01-06-2013, 09:31 AM

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Originally Posted by mamaerica

My DH has lost 100 pounds. I've helped by cooking healthier meals, and making sure to make him a lunch to take to work so that he's not tempted by fast foods.

100lbs that's awrsome

craigwick · 01-06-2013, 09:36 AM

My DH lost over 120lbs over a year and I really did nothing different, it had to come from him or it wouldn't have stuck. I had always cooked reasonably healthy, he just had no idea how to eat a proper portion or limit himself. His sister helped him with working out as that is just not my thing. We live in a really small town though, so he got alot of praise/encouragement from tons of people he knows all the time, which I think boosted his ego more than I ever could. Now, I slip in info on healthy eating under the guise of "teaching the kids" while he is within earshot.

risata · 01-06-2013, 10:21 AM

Wow 100 lbs and 120 lbs lost! That's incredible. Good for them!

Ego stroking will go a long way for sure. LOL. I have a few subtle changes to implement around here that I'm debating whether to discuss with him or just do it and see if he even notices. Ha!

I think one of his biggest issues is portion control so I might casually bring it up ... I like the idea of "teaching the kids" when he is around! That's smart.

craigwick · 01-06-2013, 10:47 AM

Yeah, he thinks I am nagging if I speak to him directly, so it is the only way to impart my wisdom

. Plus my older DD is very interested in learning what foods are healthy and where they fit (ie protein/carbs etc) in her diet.

01-06-2013, 08:14 AM	#1
risata Registered Users Join Date: May 2012 Location: New Jersey Posts: 466	If your DH/SO successfully took weight off, how did you help? More specifically, I'm interested in what THEY felt was most helpful from you. Meal planning? Encouragement? Working out together? DH wants to take off some weight. Every other time this has happened he is gung-ho at first but then fizzles out after a few weeks, even if he sees progress. I feel like I'm nagging if I keep after him -- I think we both get tired of it. I want him to WANT to do it, kwim? But I know the right kind of encouragement probably goes a long way. I'm just not sure what that is! __________________ Rachel, Jersey Mama to the Boogie and Peabody

01-06-2013, 08:29 AM	#2
crystalanne79 Registered Users Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: Winnipeg, Canada Posts: 8,865 Ratings: 164 Feedback: 100% My Mood:	Re: If your DH/SO successfully took weight off, how did you help? my dh took off 50lbs but that was entirely because he wanted to. I don't think there is anything you can say or do to make him lose weight if he isn't ready to. The same went for when I lost 42lbs, it was because I had had enough and made the decision. __________________ Crystal~WAHM to Emma & Liam and wife to Scott my entertainer. Stocking Minkee and Bamboo Cloth Pads at Tree Hugger! Choose from 125+ colors!

01-06-2013, 08:45 AM	#3
risata Registered Users Join Date: May 2012 Location: New Jersey Posts: 466	Re: If your DH/SO successfully took weight off, how did you help? I know he wants to do it. Right now he is really motivated by himself. But if this goes like all the other times he will get discouraged in a few weeks. I guess I'm just wondering if there is something I can be doing that will gently encourage him without nagging, something I've missed the other times ... __________________ Rachel, Jersey Mama to the Boogie and Peabody

01-06-2013, 08:46 AM	#4
doulamomma Registered Users Join Date: Apr 2011 Location: Ohio Posts: 2,569 Ratings: 26 Feedback: 100%	Constantly stroking his ego. Lol Sent from my droid __________________ Lora, wife to Aaron, mom to Ella-6, Ava-4, Olivia-2, Weston 6 wks , babywearing, homebirthing, , tandem nursing, selective delayed vax, doula I sell SCENTSY!!!Labor and delivery resources HERE ISO yellow and red gmd workhorses

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KaleidoscopeEyes Registered Users Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: Springfield Missouri Posts: 12,356 Ratings: 67 Feedback: 100% My Mood:	Re: If your DH/SO successfully took weight off, how did you help? dh has to keep his bmi under 30 to qualify for medical studies. he's a big guy about 6'1 and 225 normally. when his pants start feeling tight he wants to go on a diet. he did a round of hcg with me, he also did a month of raw vegan, he's currently doing low carb (vegetarian) he would like to lose about 25 lbs (get under 200) i help him by giving him ideas to make low carb alternatives to his favorites and i make him snacks like low carb cheesecake etc. even though he's bordering on obese i think he looks HWP __________________ Super crunchy, atheist, vegetarian, liberal WOH and student mama to 4 wonderful, smart homeschooling kids Wesley 14, Seth 7, Pandora Moonlilly 3 and Nevermore Stargazer (11/2012) and married to the love of my life and SAH DH.