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Old 01-19-2013, 07:57 PM   #1
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DD8 was invited to the birthday party of a classmate (not a close friend) that we RSVP'd to saying DD would be attending. However, on the day of the party DD wasn't feeling well and ended up not going. What do we do with the gift we bought? Have DD take it to school to give to her classmate or keep it and use for a future party since DD didn't attend this one?

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Old 01-19-2013, 08:02 PM   #2
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I would still give it to her. We've done this before when unable to attend a bday party. DD is only 4.5 but we brought it to school and put it in the child's cubby.

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Either is fine. We had some last minute cancellations to DD's party. Two of them ended up getting the gift to us and the third said she would, but never did. I, of course, am fine with it.

Honestly, the gifts brought outside the party made me feel weird because I was less interested in the gifts than with just celebrating my daughters birthday. So, I dunno... I never would have cared if I never saw any gifts from people who had to cancel (or otherwise).
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Old 01-19-2013, 09:20 PM   #4
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If I buy a specific gift for that child I take it to their home or meet the parents somewhere. Our school wouldn't allow it being sent. I do like to go ahead and give it to the child because my kids almost always help pick it out and it means a lot for them to make sure the child gets the gift. This has happened a few times for us either from illness or us being unable to attend for various reasons.
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I would still give the gift to the child.
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Old 01-19-2013, 09:25 PM   #6
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If I bought something super unique or the friend is close, I'd give it anyway. For someone I've never even met the parents, I would keep the gift for the next party.
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Depends on what it was and how much trouble it would be to get it there for me, honestly. I never expect gifts from people who don't make it to the kiddos parties and they make me uncomfortable
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I would still give it to the child that it was intended for.
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Re: Birthday etiquette question

We've never given a gift if our kids couldn't make the party, we've also never been given one by someone who couldn't come to ours.
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Re: Birthday etiquette question

i think either would be fine. If it was a close friend of your daughters i would suggest having the child over for a play date and giving the gift, but since its not i really wouldnt worry about getting it to her
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