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Old 01-21-2013, 09:31 PM   #31
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Thanks ladies!! You all gave me good insight. I emailed the mom last night and asked and she was very nice! Turns out she's just as nervous as me cause she doesn't know anyone deaf
We're going to try me and dd1 going and staying. Next time I'll invite her over or offer a play at bounce house or something
Sounds perfect! Communication is always key

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Old 01-22-2013, 07:53 AM   #32
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It depends on the age whether it is drop off or stay. Ages 2 and under are def stay and other siblings who aren't in school are welcome obviously. Ages 3-4, it depends, some are drop off and some are stay. We mostly did drop off at that age. Ages 5 and up are def drop off.

If your dd is being invited over then you don't bring snack and no gift unless it is a b-day party.
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Old 01-22-2013, 08:04 AM   #33
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GOOD FOR YOU for feeling this way!! I am one of those protective moms...I don't even leave my son in our church's nursery. For me, my NUMBER ONE priority is protecting my child, no matter who I may offend.

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So, do you ever plan on leaving him? Believe me, I get being protective as I am one, but there is a point of being reasonable. My kids have always gone to the nursery at the gym, b/c work outs are very important for my health. It isn't like I'm leaving them in a dangerous situation. They are well taken care of.

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Well, OP's original post did not indicate that this person was a complete stranger. No, I wouldn't drop my 6 year old off at a complete strangers. However, I also would not bring my 4 additional children there. I agree with other posters -- offer to have the playdate at your home and invite the mom to stay for coffee. Or have it at a park or other play place. It sounds like you could really use some additional people in your life given your friend moving away. This is a great opportunity.

However, my daughter is 7. She has several friends from gymnastics. The moms and I usually stick around and chat while the kids are practicing. At this point, I would very likely let my daughter go to a drop off playdate at the homes of the girls she is becoming friends with.
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Maybe this mom is in the same situation as you and trying to make friends with you and each of your DD being in dance is a good ice breaker.

Personally I would call the mom up and talk to her. Tell her your concerns and see if you can agree to a different location, your house or a park or playground where the kids can play and you two can chat. Explain that for the first get together you are not comfortable leaving your DD. I am sure she will understand especially since she doesnt know you either.
Agree. If you have never met the mom then she must not know you have other children. Just call her and talk to her about it.
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Sounds perfect! Communication is always key
Yep! Pretty soon you will be comfortable leaving her and will realize how awesome play dates are! When the girls have a friend over I can get so much done and they are so entertained with each other!
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Old 01-22-2013, 08:18 AM   #35
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Wow- I'm thinking now how can I back out of this . I just ... I'm not ready to drop off my 6 yr old at a strangers house. We only know them from dance and I've never even talked to the mom or kid before. I don't even let my 9 yr old go to people we know alone much my 6 yr old. There's like 3 families total in our lives I trust alone with my kids. Call it bad experiences growing up, paranoia, whatever but hmmm no. Sigh. How do I politely tell this mom all that without looking like a crazy?
BFF was easy- we both had 5 kids and we just played together lol. Hate that she moved and I know I need to let my kids make new friends but its REALLY hard with the communication barrier.
I'm the same... I can't imagine just leaving any of my kids with someone that I don't know... Heck my kids have never even been with a sitter (my oldest is 5) b/c I don't trust anyone. I'd suggest a get together somewhere like the park, chuck e cheese, a kids museum... Just so I could be there too. Paranoid? Maybe... But I'd definitely feel better...
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So, do you ever plan on leaving him? Believe me, I get being protective as I am one, but there is a point of being reasonable. My kids have always gone to the nursery at the gym, b/c work outs are very important for my health. It isn't like I'm leaving them in a dangerous situation. They are well taken care of.

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Agree. If you have never met the mom then she must not know you have other children. Just call her and talk to her about it.
No, I will probably never leave my son in the church nursery...nor will I take him to a daycare. Just my personal decision as a parent. It isn't an issue about what may or may not be reasonable; it's an issue about not trusting strangers with my son. Noone will have the same, albeit slightly irrational, protectiveness that I have over my child. A member of my own family was abused in a church. There are predators everywhere, and all it would take was one moment and one person. I also work out and maintain a healthy lifestyle, but not at the risk of leaving my son somewhere without me. He's usually right beside me in the jogging stroller!

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Thanks ladies!! You all gave me good insight. I emailed the mom last night and asked and she was very nice! Turns out she's just as nervous as me cause she doesn't know anyone deaf
We're going to try me and dd1 going and staying. Next time I'll invite her over or offer a play at bounce house or something

That is great. Have a wonderful time.
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