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Old 02-26-2013, 06:32 PM   #1
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Support from men for NIP

So, DH was telling me that on his airplane ride home from a recent work trip there was a mom nursing as he was getting off. He mentioned that he always wants to give Moms a thumbs up or something when he sees them NIP, but is afraid of coming off as a pervert. I asked what he did do, and he said n he did t do anything. It made me think, what would be the best way for a male to offer support? Especially when he is alone?

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Old 02-26-2013, 06:46 PM   #2
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Maybe I'm going to be the odd one, but I think a man commenting on my nursing my baby would weird me out. I mean, I totally understand what you are saying. I love when I hear about men being supportive of NIP. My husband is and I love that about him. But, it would just seem odd to me and pervish. However, now that you bring this up, maybe I would think twice before feeling that way.

I just had a thought, maybe saying something like, "My wife always nursed our babies in public too. I was so proud of her. Good for you for doing it!" I probably wouldn't be weirded out by it if he mentioned his wife.
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Old 02-26-2013, 06:47 PM   #3
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By acting natural and defending the mama if someone was being rude. Id feel uncomfortable if some random man gave me a thumsup or something
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Old 02-26-2013, 07:20 PM   #4
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I was just out in public not long ago and an elderly lady commented to me how good it was that I was nursing my LO and the younger guy (grandson maybe) she was with also said how good it was...didn't weird me out but maybe it was bc she was there....
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Justa thumbs up would be a little odd. An older man made a comment one time to me about how DS was going to grow up big and strong when he saw me nursing. I felt comfortable with that. Honestly IMO, I think you know when someone is a creep. I had this old guy come up to me at the store (DS was in a stroller, not even nursing) and ask if I breastfed. Then he said things like "I bet he never goes hungry" (I have big boobs) and asked what I did with the excess . He was most definitely a creep.
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Maybe I'm going to be the odd one, but I think a man commenting on my nursing my baby would weird me out. I mean, I totally understand what you are saying. I love when I hear about men being supportive of NIP. My husband is and I love that about him. But, it would just seem odd to me and pervish. However, now that you bring this up, maybe I would think twice before feeling that way.

I just had a thought, maybe saying something like, "My wife always nursed our babies in public too. I was so proud of her. Good for you for doing it!" I probably wouldn't be weirded out by it if he mentioned his wife.
Totally agree, this wouldn't creep me out.

I have to admit, even as a breastfeeding advocate and counselor, I usually don't say anything because I don't want to weird anyone out. When I had a nursing baby, I always liked to sit somewhere close by and see if my little guy would nurse -- solidarity, lol.
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Maybe I'm going to be the odd one, but I think a man commenting on my nursing my baby would weird me out. I mean, I totally understand what you are saying. I love when I hear about men being supportive of NIP. My husband is and I love that about him. But, it would just seem odd to me and pervish. However, now that you bring this up, maybe I would think twice before feeling that way.

I just had a thought, maybe saying something like, "My wife always nursed our babies in public too. I was so proud of her. Good for you for doing it!" I probably wouldn't be weirded out by it if he mentioned his wife.
This is a very nice advice. This wouldn't creep me out.
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Old 02-26-2013, 08:58 PM   #8
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Re: Support from men for NIP

I always assume people mean the best, so if some guy says something like. Way to go mama! or Looks in my eyes and gives me a genuine smile I'll assume its in support of NIP and not because he got to see the top of my boob. Some people are more embarrassed though. I think he could probably match the type of comment to the type of nurser. I'll walk around Target with a baby stuck to my boob and a blanket over my shoulder or just pull my boob out while the baby is in a front facing ergo. So a thumbs up to me would be okay. A mom whos fighting with a blanket hiding in a corner might do better when all boobs are away with a "My wife used to nurse in public when our kids were little, Good for you!"
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Re: Support from men for NIP

These are great ideas! I didn't have any suggestions for him when he mentioned it, because I agree with lots of you that I would likely be uncomfortable with a thumbs up. Which obviously he instinctively knew since he didn't do that. I also admit that even I am not very good with knowing how to offer support to other moms now that DS is weaned. Maybe when #2 arrives in June I will do the, sit near and nurse thingy. And it happens so rarely around here, save for the LLL meetings which obviously people don't need a thumbs up when you are sitting around talking about how awesome nursing is.

I also agree you can tell when someone is a creep, and since he isn't he would have that going for him, haha!
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When I NIP I like to pretend no one knows what I'm doing so that would make me feel awkward.
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