prayers for me, please. (pg. loss mentioned) *UPDATE post 13* - Page 2 - Cloth Diapers & Parenting Community

Puppydog · 01-28-2013, 10:43 PM

I'm sorry.

2013 has sucked in so many ways.

Chasing Zen · 01-29-2013, 04:33 PM

I'm so very sorry for your loss. Big Hugs and warm thoughts.

**FernHollow** · 01-30-2013, 09:27 AM

Thank you all so much. I had a very hard, but necessary conversation with my husband last night. I felt like I would crumble into a million pieces at one point hearing him say he still wanted to be "done", but we are now at a place of compromise and both feel very relieved. I don't know if we will have another child someday, but we've agreed not to shut the door yet. I explained that while I very much felt done before I got pregnant, that I loved this baby just like any of our other children, and that I cannot mourn that loss if I feel that there is never a chance to have that little spirit come back or to have another pregnancy. I just can't, it kills me.

I might come to in time decide that we are still done, or my husband might decide he feels called to have one more right along side of me. We have complete faith that when the right choice is there we will be 100% together on it. For now the door is being left open, even if we don't walk through it. We both feel a weight lifted off our shoulders and feel like we can focus on healing from this loss instead of worrying about the future. I still woke up sad all the way through my soul this morning, but there is at least a little glimmer of hope and a feeling of peace.

famaza · 01-31-2013, 12:26 PM

``We have complete faith that when the right choice is there we will be 100% together on it.``
I am glad the 2 of you could reach this stage!

mlgurney · 03-21-2013, 02:16 PM

I'm so sorry for your loss. I know what your going through and feel for you.

~*~Sunflower~*~ · 03-21-2013, 02:19 PM

(((HUGS))) I am sorry for your loss. I have been through it & it is hard. (((HUGS)))

01-28-2013, 10:43 PM	#11
Puppydog Banned for 6 months for ignoring repeated request to attempt to be polite/respectful. Join Date: Aug 2012 Posts: 1,142	Re: prayers for me, please. (pg. loss mentioned) I'm sorry. 2013 has sucked in so many ways. __________________ Banned for 6 months for ignoring repeated request to be polite/respectful.

01-29-2013, 04:33 PM	#12
Chasing Zen Registered Users Formerly: ccsmom11 Join Date: Feb 2008 Posts: 1,169 Ratings: 83 Feedback: 100% My Mood:	Re: prayers for me, please. (pg. loss mentioned) I'm so very sorry for your loss. Big Hugs and warm thoughts. __________________ Jeanie, proud WAHM behind ChasingZen on Etsy. Your place for Wool Interlock Longies, Shorties, Soakers, Bloomers and Skirties

01-30-2013, 09:27 AM	#13
FernHollow Banned Join Date: Feb 2008 Posts: 8,397 Ratings: 153 Feedback: 100% My Mood:	Re: prayers for me, please. (pg. loss mentioned) Thank you all so much. I had a very hard, but necessary conversation with my husband last night. I felt like I would crumble into a million pieces at one point hearing him say he still wanted to be "done", but we are now at a place of compromise and both feel very relieved. I don't know if we will have another child someday, but we've agreed not to shut the door yet. I explained that while I very much felt done before I got pregnant, that I loved this baby just like any of our other children, and that I cannot mourn that loss if I feel that there is never a chance to have that little spirit come back or to have another pregnancy. I just can't, it kills me. I might come to in time decide that we are still done, or my husband might decide he feels called to have one more right along side of me. We have complete faith that when the right choice is there we will be 100% together on it. For now the door is being left open, even if we don't walk through it. We both feel a weight lifted off our shoulders and feel like we can focus on healing from this loss instead of worrying about the future. I still woke up sad all the way through my soul this morning, but there is at least a little glimmer of hope and a feeling of peace. Last edited by FernHollow; 01-30-2013 at 09:30 AM.

01-31-2013, 12:26 PM	#14
famaza Registered Users Join Date: Jan 2011 Location: Central Illinois Posts: 705 Ratings: 99 Feedback: 100% My Mood:	Re: prayers for me, please. (pg. loss mentioned) UPDATE post 13 ``We have complete faith that when the right choice is there we will be 100% together on it.`` I am glad the 2 of you could reach this stage!

03-21-2013, 02:16 PM	#15
mlgurney Registered Users Join Date: Jun 2008 Posts: 249 Ratings: 13 Feedback: 100%	Re: prayers for me, please. (pg. loss mentioned) UPDATE post 13 I'm so sorry for your loss. I know what your going through and feel for you.