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Old 01-29-2013, 11:39 AM   #21
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Been there! It's normal. It's not that your disappointed the baby is another girl, but your loosing the dream of the boy that you imagined was there. It's ok.
I wanted #2 to be a boy SOO bad that when the tech said Girl, I got up and walked out. I just KNEW it was a boy. I wanted a boy so bad. My ex now wanted a boy so bad.
It took a few weeks to adjust to having another girl.
Since then I've had one more girl and a boy. It doesn't bother me anymore what gender I have.

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Old 01-29-2013, 12:54 PM   #22
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I am opposite of you...3 boys and 1 girl. They thought #4 was a girl first...which is what I thought....then found out it was a boy which made it harder. We are now expecting #5 and are team green so I don't have to deal with all of that this time. We will know for sure when the baby is born.
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I just want a healthy baby. Really, really want that. BUT this is my last and I have to say that I think DH will be a little heartbroken if we don't have a boy. This is his last chance for a son! I feel for you (hug). BUT I am sure you will, like you said, not be able to imagine it any other way once baby is here!
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Old 01-29-2013, 04:37 PM   #24
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I so understand and I have been there. Give yourself time to feel whatever you need to feel
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Old 01-30-2013, 07:38 AM   #25
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I fully understand.
We have 3 beautiful girls. I love them, but really dealt with disappointment when #3 was born a girl.
I am pg with #4 and this little one wouldn't let us get a peak at the stuff at our 18 week u/s. I am still holding out hope for a boy but... trying to let myself feel ok with being sad about never having a son if this is a girl.

We know baby is healthy and I am so glad about that, but... I know I will be sad if this is a girl.
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Old 01-30-2013, 07:46 AM   #26
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i have 1 girl, 3 boys & another surprise on the way but i have a feeling it's a boy. i REALLY want a girl but will be happy with a little boy as well.

i TOTALLY understand how you are feeling
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Old 01-30-2013, 11:18 AM   #27
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This is one of he reasons I didn't want to find out wih this one. I really think its a girl and I would really love another girl, and I feel like I would be less disappointed being handed a baby and told "its a boy" than seeing it on an ultrasound. That being said that was a personal decision for me on how to try and handle it. I think its totally normal, its not that I don't want a boy, or wouldn't be happy with a boy, but I would love for my daughter to have a sister. I've also been trying to imagine a little boy, and try and wrap my head around the possibility of a boy, in hopes of making my brain more open to the possibility.
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Old 01-30-2013, 09:45 PM   #28
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It's perfectly normal. I chose to not find out the sex of our baby, just because I wanted to avoid this sort of stress and disappointment. Because despite what I kept telling my family and friends, deep down in my heart, I had a preference. And then we had a big health scare at about 24 weeks and I had a kick-in-the-pants reminder that what I *really* wanted was a healthy baby. Once that scare was over, I found that my anxiety over boy vs. girl was mostly gone... although it did creep back again in the last week or so before I gave birth. This is all to say, you shouldn't feel bad. Most everyone has a preference.
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Old 02-01-2013, 08:49 AM   #29
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We have 5 girls. I hoped for girls, never a boy. I know I would've been disappointed at first if I found out boy but then loved the heck out of him. DH would have been thrilled with a boy b/c he hoped for a son but we're both so happy with our girls. And truth is if we did have another by some miracle (DH had vas) I'd seriously hope for another girl!
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Old 02-01-2013, 02:24 PM   #30
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*hugs*

When I found out that DS3 was a boy I cried. I was so upset. I got over it fairly quickly and wouldn't change a thing.

SO.. I totally understand how you feel!!!



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