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Old 01-28-2013, 08:09 PM   #1
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Sadness over loss of twin- Pregnancy Mentioned

We lost one of our babies at 12 weeks. I thought I was doing pretty good, but now I am suddenly really feeling the loss. While we are so excited that the surviving twin is growing and healthy, I still feel such sadness that I am no longer carrying twins, and that there is a baby that I will never get to hold. This is my first loss.

I am also so very jealous of women in my Due Date Group that are still carrying their twins. It just makes me sad. Think this is just all a part of the process?

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Old 01-28-2013, 08:10 PM   #2
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yes it's part of the grieving process....I'm so sorry sweetie.
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losing a baby at any time is so so hard. I'm glad you have the joy of the little one you are still carrying but I do think it's ok, and normal to grieve the loss. Give yourself time and grace mama.
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Re: Sadness over loss of twin- Pregnancy Mentioned

If it's too difficult in your due date group, you might wanna join the pregnancy after loss thread. Just a different vibe in there.

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OH NO Mama..... Im so so sorry.
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This pregnancy was a twin pregnancy, but I didn't know until one of then had already stopped developing. I think it's a normal part of the process to grieve for the baby that didn't make it. I was very sad initially and the sadness is getting more intense as I get closer to delivering my baby girl.

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I'm so sorry mama! Even though, like you said, it is wonderful the other is healthy, the loss of one is still a loss and is very painful.
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I'm sorry. I think that you should definately allow yourself to grieve your little one. I think its probably completely normal
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Normal emotions. Give yourself time to grieve too. It still hits me when I see twins as old as my Patrick. There is just no way to avoid the 'what-ifs' in your head.

You're very welcome in the pregnancy after a loss thread. There are many familiar faces there.
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Re: Sadness over loss of twin- Pregnancy Mentioned

It's hard . . . I experienced the same thing. I still think about my little one, my "tiniest treasure" as I call him / her. Sometimes I feel like I shouldn't be sad about it, because the baby was only 9 weeks, but then I remind myself that it was still a beating little heart and a little face on the u/s. I will always remember that little soul and I hope he or she tries to come back when my husband and I try another round of IVF in a year or two.
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