Reply Hey Mom! Learn more about the Gerber Life Insurance Grow-Up Plan!
 
Thread Tools Display Modes
Old 03-04-2013, 02:46 PM   #131
sunnymommy
Registered Users
seller
seller
 
Join Date: Mar 2009
Location: Omaha, NE
Posts: 1,969
Re: February Chat Thread

Quote:
Originally Posted by newmommy13 View Post
but the big news is that the twins are being detained and they are coming here. she is being induced on the 7th at 36 weeks. mom said they are anticipating a nicu stay. i am very concerned about their health and mom is very upset that they are being detained so i am a little worried that she could take off which would be bad for her case as well as being bad for the babies continuity of care.

i am excited but i am also terrified at the thought of 2 newborns at once in addition to J and his craziness and THE LAUNDRY. the reality of going from a family of 3 to a family of 6 in just 8 short months is setting in and i'm getting a little nervous! when will i sleep? when will i grocery shop? what if i get a migraine? i'm getting BOTOX tomorrow for the headaches so really praying for some relief in that area before the twins come home. :/
So is there something going on that is making everyone think they won't be healthy other than being twins? I didn't think twins was that big a deal medically these days, but I've never had any They usually come early on their own though right? So is inducing twins unusual?

What is going on with granmda? Just still working through the process? Why now after her grandkids have been in care how long? A year? I really think relative claims should have an expiration date

Just remember to breathe! When you get babies that you didn't birth and you feel physically well it's easy to forget that you still deserve the same breaks for caring for newborns. Don't find time to grocery shop. Send dh to the drive through or to the store for a freezer load of frozen food. Every time we have a newborn in the house we sort of go into convenience mode for about six months or at least until baby is sleeping through the night. (This one is eight months on Sunday and still not sleeping longer than five hours a stretch which is way older than any other baby we've had.) Very different than my usual labor intensive mode of make everything from scratch, use all cloth and wash, etc. but it what gets us through. (Dh would rather have paper towels and frozen food anyway.)

Advertisement

sunnymommy is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 03-04-2013, 02:56 PM   #132
Mama2ManyBoyz
Registered Users
seller
 
Join Date: Oct 2010
Posts: 1,608
Re: February/March Chat Thread

Quote:
Originally Posted by newmommy13 View Post
I felt it physically too with dfd1. I do think I am guarding too. It is a strange feeling to be rooting for mom though while hoping to be able to adopt these kids...i don't know what I want! I will be devastated if they go to the grandma though. Very worried about that.

Wondering about angie too.
Well as odd as it must be to feel that way...you are literally DCFS's dream foster parent. One who wholeheartedly roots for the parents while simultaneously loves the kids enough to adopt them. It's almost impossible to ask that of people, but that's awesome that you can feel that way!!!
__________________
Thrifty, homeschooling Mama to 5, 14 yr old K 9 yr old E 4 yr old B , our lil' man 2 yr old H and our newly adopted little princess J Forever missing our foster children J, M, L, L D, & E
Mama2ManyBoyz is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 03-04-2013, 03:05 PM   #133
FerventlyDreaming's Avatar
FerventlyDreaming
Registered Users
seller
 
Join Date: Dec 2010
Location: Michigan
Posts: 1,693
Re: February/March Chat Thread

I forgot to mention X-man has again been moved due to his behaviors. The sister is in the process of being moved due to her behaviors. This whole thing is just so sad. I keep wondering if they have to keep moving them what happens when there is no where for them to go? What do they do with kids that no one can manage?? They have to find a place, so what do they do? I know they really have struggled to find placements for them before and it can only be getting harder. With each move I must assume they are getting worse. I feel so bad for everyone in the situation.

I just PRAY that bio-dad will get it together for Little-Man. He is the dad to the little girl too but the agency said they will definitely move one child at a time if that is what needs to happen. They also said that Little-Man will be the first to go home. I am worried because I see Little-Man's attachment growing and I just want him to attach to his dad and not have the issues X-man and the little girl have. I don't want to see him hurt that way!!
__________________
[SIZE="3"]Megan, Wife to Ron, Mommy to Ben 5-7-09, Grant 4-22-10 Abby 6-16-12,Alex 6-15-15 You're so beautiful to think of, but so hard to be without, E no longer in our home, always in our heart
FerventlyDreaming is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 03-04-2013, 03:29 PM   #134
newmommy13's Avatar
newmommy13
Registered Users
seller
seller
 
Join Date: Apr 2008
Posts: 7,750
Relatives should have an expiration date!
__________________
I, mama to dd A (3-08) dfs J (10/11) and in love with newbie dfd N! (10/13)
hopeful pre-adoptive foster family

Last edited by newmommy13; 04-11-2013 at 10:41 PM.
newmommy13 is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 03-05-2013, 07:05 AM   #135
WynneBabies's Avatar
WynneBabies
Registered Users
seller
 
Join Date: Nov 2008
Location: USA
Posts: 6,546
My Mood:
Re: February/March Chat Thread

Thinking of you and praying for you, I.

I understand that physical pain feeling. Had it with my first and had it with my current.
__________________
A SAHM to four long out of diapers (all used cloth for all or part of their diapering years) and a baby girl currently in cloth part time.
WynneBabies is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 03-05-2013, 07:06 AM   #136
WynneBabies's Avatar
WynneBabies
Registered Users
seller
 
Join Date: Nov 2008
Location: USA
Posts: 6,546
My Mood:
Re: February/March Chat Thread

Thinking of you and praying for you, I.

I understand that physical pain feeling. Had it with my first and had it with my current.
__________________
A SAHM to four long out of diapers (all used cloth for all or part of their diapering years) and a baby girl currently in cloth part time.
WynneBabies is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 03-05-2013, 08:41 PM   #137
newmommy13's Avatar
newmommy13
Registered Users
seller
seller
 
Join Date: Apr 2008
Posts: 7,750
Re: February/March Chat Thread

Quote:
Originally Posted by WynneBabies View Post
Thinking of you and praying for you, I.

I understand that physical pain feeling. Had it with my first and had it with my current.
any news from you? i'm thinking of you too mama.
__________________
I, mama to dd A (3-08) dfs J (10/11) and in love with newbie dfd N! (10/13)
hopeful pre-adoptive foster family
newmommy13 is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 03-05-2013, 08:45 PM   #138
newmommy13's Avatar
newmommy13
Registered Users
seller
seller
 
Join Date: Apr 2008
Posts: 7,750
Re: February/March Chat Thread

Quote:
Originally Posted by mmbreb View Post
I forgot to mention X-man has again been moved due to his behaviors. The sister is in the process of being moved due to her behaviors. This whole thing is just so sad. I keep wondering if they have to keep moving them what happens when there is no where for them to go? What do they do with kids that no one can manage?? They have to find a place, so what do they do? I know they really have struggled to find placements for them before and it can only be getting harder. With each move I must assume they are getting worse. I feel so bad for everyone in the situation.

I just PRAY that bio-dad will get it together for Little-Man. He is the dad to the little girl too but the agency said they will definitely move one child at a time if that is what needs to happen. They also said that Little-Man will be the first to go home. I am worried because I see Little-Man's attachment growing and I just want him to attach to his dad and not have the issues X-man and the little girl have. I don't want to see him hurt that way!!
i just saw this! i can't believe he is being moved so quickly again. so very sad. i am glad that they were able to separate the two brothers and keep little man with you, i think that will go a long way towards him understanding what a normal attachment is like. even if he does leave you and go home it will be through a smooth transition not like what it must have been for the big brother. that is the worst thing.
__________________
I, mama to dd A (3-08) dfs J (10/11) and in love with newbie dfd N! (10/13)
hopeful pre-adoptive foster family
newmommy13 is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 03-05-2013, 08:49 PM   #139
newmommy13's Avatar
newmommy13
Registered Users
seller
seller
 
Join Date: Apr 2008
Posts: 7,750
Re: February/March Chat Thread

Quote:
Originally Posted by Mama2ManyBoyz View Post
Well as odd as it must be to feel that way...you are literally DCFS's dream foster parent. One who wholeheartedly roots for the parents while simultaneously loves the kids enough to adopt them. It's almost impossible to ask that of people, but that's awesome that you can feel that way!!!
we will see if i feel that way after caring for the twins! lol! also this is the longest i've ever had a kiddo and i might feel differently when it comes right down to someone actually taking him away from me.
__________________
I, mama to dd A (3-08) dfs J (10/11) and in love with newbie dfd N! (10/13)
hopeful pre-adoptive foster family
newmommy13 is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 03-05-2013, 09:06 PM   #140
jenfostermom's Avatar
jenfostermom
Registered Users
seller
 
Join Date: Mar 2010
Location: Wisconsin
Posts: 753
My Mood:
Re: February/March Chat Thread

Quick update: so things are still going really well with our teeny newbie. She's healthy, growing (don't you wish they would stay tiny forever, too??), and fits in perfectly in my fam. From the way things are looking according to the SW, she is likely our last foster placement. They will be filing TPR for her in 90 days (abandonment, nobody has seen or heard from her bios), and for our 2 year old DFD in early summer (this one is going to be an ugly fight though). I hate to be prematurely excited, but the prospect of adopting these two sweet little girls and completing our family makes me so happy. Adoption around here still will take a long time, but once the TPR is done it will feel more real and settled.
__________________
Beloved daughter of the King of Kings, married to DH for 15 years SAHM mom to DS 14, DS 12, DD 10, DD 8, DS 5, DS 4, DFD 2, and DFD 6 mos Hopeful to adopt both DFDs before the end of 2013!
jenfostermom is offline   Reply With Quote
Reply

Thread Tools
Display Modes

Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off

Forum Jump

Copyright 2005 - 2014 Escalate Media. All Rights Reserved.