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Old 02-11-2013, 03:37 PM   #1
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Am I being over sensitive?

It's been a chaotic few weeks around here. Between the boys having nasty colds and my family's restaurant closing, I forgot to mail the invites to DS2's bday party (which was yesterday and on his actual birthday). I called everyone and invited them that way. I realized Tuesday night that I'd forgotten to contact my bro/SIL, so messaged SIL. They never answer their phones, so messages sent to all three of their phones are usually the best way to make sure at least one of them gets the message. I apologized for the oversight, and invited them. SIL texted back that she would tell my brother. They're generally very flaky people, but they don't miss birthday parties. Yesterday, less than an hour before the party, I get a text from SIL, "we can't make it today." No apologies, no reasoning, etc.

I'm ticked. They are constantly flaky, but missing a birthday party is kind of a big deal in our family. Just some insight on their flakiness, last summer, my brother made plans to help my dad with something one weekend. My dad drove over an hour to their house only to find out they'd decided to go camping and didn't tell my dad. I get that I goofed by not inviting them appropriately. I've always mailed formal invites for everything 2 weeks before an event, but I still contacted them 5 days in advance. My mom doesn't get why I'm so irritated (then again, my brother does no wrong in her eyes). It's more than just the one incident; this is kind of the proverbial straw. Am I being over sensitive?

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Old 02-11-2013, 03:39 PM   #2
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Eh. I think it's no big deal.
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Re: Am I being over sensitive?

I don't think it's a big deal either. Maybe they had other plans.
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Team no big deal. Try not to stress it.
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yeah...maybe someone got sick
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They did get last minute notice, so I wouldn't worry. They very well could have had other plans.
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I guess its fair to mention that I'm huge on commitment. If I say I'm going to be somewhere, its 99.9% sure that I'll be there. OTOH, when they say they'll be somewhere, its more like a 75% chance they'll show up, and most likely, they'll be late. It's frustrating to schedule around. DS1's favorite people are his cousins. He ran to his room crying when he heard they weren't coming. This isn't anywhere close to the first time that's happened either. It's gotten so bad that I don't even mention him seeing his cousins until we actually lay eyes on them, but I figured a birthday party was safe.
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They did get last minute notice, so I wouldn't worry. They very well could have had other plans.
But why not mention other plans some time in the 5 days before the party rather than less than an hour beforehand?
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But why not mention other plans some time in the 5 days before the party rather than less than an hour beforehand?
Because they are flaky? Sounds just like my oldest brother, I never count on him coming until he shows.
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Yeah but it doesn't sound like they committed.
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