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Old 02-15-2013, 09:50 AM   #1
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LONG....newborn and 2.5 year old daycare question

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So, I have a 2.5 year old DS and am due with DD in the next couple of weeks. I will take 10 weeks off for maternity leave (keeping both kids at home), and then return to work. I am having concerns about the optimal childcare situation for when I return to work.

DS is in a GREAT daycare. I love everything about it....except the fact that this winter he has been sick more days than not (seriously sick constantly from September-present) and I worry about him bringing home nasty germs (like RSV) to the newb. So you understand, DS had RSV as a babe and has been struggling with reactive airway (triggered by respiratory viruses-ie colds). So, when he gets a cold, its not just coughing and sniffles. Its breathing treatments all day, and many times at night too for a week at a time! So, its important to us to keep him well. We have a consult with a specialist in a month so hopefully we can get his airway issues straightened out.

DD- I plan to have a friend watch in a very small home daycare she runs.

My concerns: Im worried about 1) keeping both kids well (but especially about DD not getting nasty germs at a young age 2) DS's educational/social experience in daycare.


If Im worried about the transmission of germs, would it make sense to keep DS in daycare....wouldnt he just bring all the germs home to DD? (what have your experiences been?). If so, should I just have them BOTH switch to my friend's daycare? (what I worry about here is what DS might miss out on educationally/socially). I know he's only two, but his daycare is GREAT educationally, he LOVES his friends, and LOVES his teachers and I guess I feel a bit guilty taking him away from that if I dont have to). I know I will get more information after DS's consult about what we could be doing to help him stay well (maybe we will discover that keeping him in daycare OR pulling him out is the best option at that point), but Im just trying to get others' opinions on how you would handle this situation.

I guess Im asking....If you are trying to keep BOTH kids well, and optimize their daycare experiences (and mainly prevent DD from getting nasty bugs young and suffer through reactive airway like DS has been), what makes most sense for daycare???

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Old 02-15-2013, 11:02 AM   #2
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Re: LONG....newborn and 2.5 year old daycare question

My son is in Kindergarten so we have dont really have a choice like when he was in daycare. DD is 6wks old now so still pretty young to be exposed to all the germs he brings home from school. I have him change out of school clothes when he gets home and wash his face and hands. It may not get rid of all the germs but hopefully, every little bit helps!
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Old 02-15-2013, 11:07 AM   #3
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That's a really tough decision to make. I only have one child, but I've seen my niece's response to a new sibling. Honestly, I'd keep DS in the same daycare. With the arrival of his sister, he'll have enough upheaval in his life. It would be nice for him to go back to something familiar when you go back to work.

Regarding the germs, there will be germs no matter what kind of childcare situation. My dd was in a small in-home childcare siuation and she caught all the bugs that the provider's older elementary age child brought home. It was no different from the Montessori that she attends now. By the time you go back to work, the weather will be warmer and cold/flu season will be waning.
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Old 02-15-2013, 12:06 PM   #4
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My dd was in a small in-home childcare siuation and she caught all the bugs that the provider's older elementary age child brought home. It was no different from the Montessori that she attends now. By the time you go back to work, the weather will be warmer and cold/flu season will be waning.
You are right! These are ALL things Ive considered as well :-). And, I agree with the importance of keeping his life consistent. Ive done TONS to minimize germs, and am ONLY considering switching daycares as a LAST resort.
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Re: LONG....newborn and 2.5 year old daycare question

Interesting dilemma! DD2 did not catch a lot of 'ick' from DD1 being in daycare, really. She wasn't sick much until she was closer to 18 months. Some things it's harder for babies to contract, according to my Ped. But having had a child get RSV I can see how you would be more cautious. I would personally probably leave DS where he is unless and until it become a problem, but that's a decision only you can make mama! Kiddos will get sick, and if it's not in daycare, it's when they go to school, ya know?
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Re: LONG....newborn and 2.5 year old daycare question

I have a home daycare with only 3 (was 4) kids part time. And germs go around a lot. I wash the kids hands all the time and wash the toys every two weeks but still can't stop it. There would be less germs technically at a home daycare but not necessarily so. I have heard people say that this year is especially bad for illness compared to other years. it's a hard choice. Maybe keep your son at his daycare for now and see how it goes. If he's still catching things and the baby is getting them from him then switch.
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Re: LONG....newborn and 2.5 year old daycare question

I am in the same boat. I have a 3 month old, and a 3 year old. When I was pregnant with the 3 month old, I ended up catching bronchitis from my 3 year old and getting Pneumonia! Since then, my 3 year old has been sick a lot. She has also Roseola (high fever for a week with no other symptoms) and Fifths disease (AKA slapped cheeks). My 3 month old guy actually stayed home today with a fever, and I stayed home with him. Daycare/preschool is a germ factory but I am hoping the kids will have better immunities in elementary school.
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Re: LONG....newborn and 2.5 year old daycare question

Honestly I don't think there is much you can do about it. DS1 started Kindergarden right before DD was born. DS2 went to daycare still while I was home. They both go to the same daycare once I was back to work (I took 8 weeks off) amazingly only DD has had an upper respiratory infection this winter.

I do lots of hand washing, disinfecting at home. And so far it has worked
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Ive got one in daycare and the baby at home with my parents. As soon as my 5 year old gets home he showers and puts on clean play clothes. Might be overkill but we're germaphobes here..

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Re: LONG....newborn and 2.5 year old daycare question

I don't know where you live, but in 12 weeks, it will be spring. (summer in arizona)

Anyway, so he shouldn't be exposed to many things between now and next fall.

If your son was born in the fall, fall babies tend to get sick a lot more than spring/summer babies, and it's a long time before they outgrow it. They seem to get sick a lot the first three or four years.

If your son is getting sick, but nobody else in your home is catching it from him, it could be allergies that turn into a secondary infection. Getting a handle on his allergies (a LOT easier said than done) can help.

My daughter was both a fall baby (sept) and had really bad allergies. Unfortunately she is allergic to the entire state of Arizona, AND loved to play outside. So, she was sick constantly...but, nobody else ever caught what she had. She was sick from August to December, then again from March to May. We tried different allergy meds, and nothing seemed to help.

MOST kids outgrow this always sick thing by four years of age.

If you love his school, i'd keep him in it for now, and hope that when he returns after your maternity leave, all the germies are gone for the spring and summer.
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