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Old 03-22-2013, 07:27 AM   #1
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Sharing A Bath..

I have a 6 yr old son and 3 yr old daughter. Since my 3 yr old has been born her and her brother have taken a bath together every time. They play with toys the whole time and I never thought anything of it.

Their father and I divorced almost a year ago and I'm now with someone new. We are engaged and live together. He has a 2 yr old daughter and recently expressed concern with my 6 yr old and 3 yr old taking baths together. He thinks since he is a boy that he needs to take baths alone but I see how much fun they have together and I hate to tell him he has to now take baths by himself..what fun is that?

I mean eventually he will but I figured that would happen when one of them became uncomfortable with it. What are your thoughts?

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Old 03-22-2013, 07:33 AM   #2
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At six, I personally think it is still fine.
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Old 03-22-2013, 07:58 AM   #3
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I'd start offering the option to take a bath alone and see what happens. My 5 year old daughter takes bath/showers with her almost 4 year old sister since forever, but she likes alone time showers too and requests them. If they have ALWAYS done it it might not cross his mind its an option.
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Old 03-22-2013, 08:12 AM   #4
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We are a more modest family and my 2 boys do not take baths or showers together. They do not dress in front of one another or walk in on each other (or DH and I) going potty. We've taught them that that type of stuff is private and mom or dad can help them but it's not for other people to see. If we're in a public bathroom they turn away so they can't see the other one going potty. It kind of goes hand in hand with our modesty/sex talks. They are 3 and 5.
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I also think it's fine.
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Old 03-22-2013, 08:30 AM   #6
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I'm naked around my children, my children are naked around each other, no big deal in our house. DD 1 is 6, DD 2 is 4, and DS is 2. As long as I don't see any inappropriate behavior then it is all innocent. I'll make changes when it seems like issues are arising. For what it is worth we are a very modest family in general and in front of others but I feel like making a big deal out of nudity when they are too young to understand is the wrong path for us.
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My kids are 7,4, and 20 months (mixed genders) and they bathe together. I just started offering ODD to take a shower instead of a bath with DS and YDD but she has so far refused. I think soon she will be forced out because they barely fit in there. They think it is fun and since DS is apparently preparing for life in a nudist colony it isn't like they don't all see each other naked anyways.
Seriously, DS is constantly stripping down. He does has sensory issues so that may be part of it.....or, like I said, just going to be a nudist
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My daughter took baths with her lil brothers until this year. She was 9. I actually felt bad asking her too but figured it was time. She didn't understand why but now enjoys her alone showers. I think yours are way too young to worry. Nothing wrong with seeing a naked body. It's healthy. You don't want them to feel ashamed or insecure. I grew up taking baths with siblings and saw my parents naked often.
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Re: Sharing A Bath..

I think it's fine. We aren't a modest family, my son and daughter bathe together (granted, they're younger than your kids) and we teach them appropriate boundaries - basically that we don't touch others' private areas. We'll separate them when one of them gets uncomfortable with the idea.

Does your partner's daughter bathe with your kids? I'd be willing to compromise and let the girls bathe together sometimes while your son gets a special bath (bathtub crayons, shaving cream, etc.) by himself just so no one in the house feels trampled on or left out, know what I mean?
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Does your partner's daughter bathe with your kids? )

Sometimes all 3 do bathe together but since there isnt much room we have given my daughter the choice to either bathe with her brother or her new sister. She most often chooses her brother. He has chosen to not let his daughter bathe with them anymore
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