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Old 07-23-2014, 11:17 AM   #1
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When do you decide that you are done having kids?

I think I want another... he doesn't know. We tend to change our minds all the time but I have seen a lot of marriages end due to disagreement on this issue. Any suggestions on coming to a solution on this? How did you decide?

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Old 07-30-2014, 08:51 PM   #2
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Re: When do you decide that you are done having kids?

We made sure we were both completely on board before TTC each child.

My friend said once, "Having a baby is not something you should have to convince someone to do. It's not like convincing him into painting the dining room a crazy new color. You can undo that if you realize that he was right about the color along. But you can't 'undo' having a baby".

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Old 08-20-2014, 06:40 PM   #3
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I swore up and down I did not want to have anymore after my second son was born with a rare genetic disease of the bowel. He was hospitalized from 3 days old off and on until just recently. He is 2.

My husband actually really wants to have another bay, and with that has convinced me that maybe we should have one more. seeing him become excited has melted my heart of stone!

Hugs to you! Sit down and talk it out with your hubby. Look at baby pics.
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Old 08-20-2014, 08:08 PM   #4
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Re: When do you decide that you are done having kids?

A lot of prayer.

We're Catholic, so we're always open to life. I have really irregular cycles that make NFP difficult, so we both know we're playing Russian roulette. We haven't actively TTC in years, but we keep having babies.
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Re: When do you decide that you are done having kids?

I have days when I want #4 and days when I don't. Our 3rd is a girl...finally and she's our little princess. The perfect "baby" of the family. Even her big brothers think so. I feel like I'd be taking something away from her if I had another. Plus if I did I'd really like it to be a girl so I'd have 2 of each but of course there are no guarantees. So I guess for us it's not "no more" it's just "no more right now."
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I really want number two but still no sure why we don't go for it.
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Re: When do you decide that you are done having kids?

I don't know how people decide really. I always though I'd want only two until I got pregnant with twins. One did not survive. Even though one baby cannot replace another, I have another space open in my heart. So we have been trying for number 3. It's not very rational especially given all my fertility problems. It is what my heart wants though.
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Old 12-01-2014, 09:53 PM   #8
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I thought I would never be one of those people who 'feel done'... then after our unexpected #4 we feel very complete and can finally shut the door for babies. I know I'll always long for a tiny squish but I don't want another kid. Love the tiny babies but kids are hard and expensive and we like a cretin lifestyle so 4 is our magic number and were both content with that.
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Re: When do you decide that you are done having kids?

I don't know. I think it's difficult when you're taking your partner's feelings into consideration as well. For me, I do think I'd reach a point where I would feel "done", if given the chance. DH only wants four though so I think it will be more me coming to terms with being done even though I don't want to be. (We just had #3). I've always wanted six.
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I just had #2 and I'd love to have more if it weren't for the financial strain and lack of help/support. So I think we're done . I think it's something you just have to discuss with your partner.
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