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Old 09-09-2015, 01:29 PM   #1
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Hugs to all

Hugs to everyone who's experienced losses as we watch Facebook fill up with parents posting pics of their kids on their first day of school and sniffling about how much they've grown.

Ours will never grow. They're frozen in time and in our hearts.

My first daughter would've started kindergarten yesterday... as would a few of her siblings who didn't even make it to six weeks in my womb.

Today marks six years since we found out she'd left us.

This week sucks.

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I would have had a kindergartener this year too
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So you guys are telling me this feeling I keep getting that someone is missing doesn't go away?

My ds had a birthday yesterday and I felt sad. I tried to focus on the ones but my mind wanders.
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Unfortunately, nope it doesn't go away...you always wonder what would baby be like. What would that be doing.

It sucks big time
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Unfortunately, nope it doesn't go away...you always wonder what would baby be like. What would that be doing.

It sucks big time
Crap.

I'm keeping myself as busy as I can (still super tired) to avoid thinking too much but to seems that I'm just going to have to adjust to a new reality of "what ifs."
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People cope in different ways

I know that mine come in waves...I'll be fine for days, weeks, months, and then something triggers
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People cope in different ways

I know that mine come in waves...I'll be fine for days, weeks, months, and then something triggers
I see that now.

My friend called today and she had never mentioned her own miscarriage until today. Other people share right away and share often.

I'm learning.
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Re: Hugs to all

My aunt had a stillborn son when I was in early elementary school. She says she still wonders what he would've been doing - what major he would've picked in college, whether he would've found someone to marry and what their children would've been like.

They're our children forever.
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Old 09-09-2015, 05:29 PM   #10
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My loss would have started K this year as well. That stings to think about.
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